Son dumped by girlfriend because I hadn't proposed

[OneGreenPoster]

Out of the blue on Saturday my ds was dumped by his girlfriend of 3 years.
Just because he hasn't proposed yet.
He's absolutely devastated, as far as he was concerned they were very happy together

A few months ago she did ask him if he wanted to marry her and he said of course he does in the future, but she asked him for a rough timeline of when he might want to get engaged.
He told her he wasn't doing any of that silly timeline stuff and he would do it when the time was right.
She was upset at the time, but it was left at that.
Then on Saturday she sits him down and tells him it's over! Just before Christmas which I think is very cruel
He said she ended it and then went to get ready for a Christmas party! I wouldn't have thought she could be so cold.
I know her best friend is newly single so we suspect she may have pushed her to do this
I now have a devastated son at my house not knowing what to do

It's her apartment they live in so he also got to find somewhere to live after Christmas on top of this

Am I being unreasonable if I contact her and talk some sense into her?

How old are they?

You are being EXTREMELY UNREASONABLE! HTH.

Should obviously say he hasn't proposed

Yes go and talk some sense into her.
Then come back here and tell us what she said 😂

“Talk some sense into her”? Are you serious?

Perhaps he could have shown some consideration for his future life partner when she expressed her needs/desires and then he wouldn’t be in this situation.

They’re grown adults ffs - of course you’re very unreasonable sticking your oar in.

MIL from hell in waiting

This is amazing 🍿

Gotta be a wind up!

Stay out of it. You most likely don't know all the ins and outs of it, and what good will speaking to her do, are you hoping to emotionally blackmail her into taking him back? Support your son but accept that the relationship is over.

Good for her !

Is this a reverse? Talk some sense into her…. please! Good on her for knowing what she wants, and setting her own boundaries. It’s none of your business. I understand your son must be upset but she is not at fault for putting herself first.

If she wanted children and time was ticking, I don't blame her for moving on. Many women have wasted fertile years waiting for a bloke who can't commit.

Why does she have to sit around and wait for him to decide if /when they get married? Depending on her age she may be thinking about having a family and doesn’t want to wait around for a maybe sometime never. I’m sorry your son is upset, I’m sure it’s horrible for you and him but she’s made her choice like he was free to make his.

How old are they? Don’t go sticking your nose in.
Shes expressed clear wishes and expectations for the progression of their relationship, he called it silly and refused to commit. Leave the girl alone.

Leave it.

You don't really know what has been going on. The girlfriend may have been having doubts about aspects of their relationship for sometime.

If she wants commitment and your DS is not ready to commit- then neither are in the wrong.

Be supportive to.your DS but don't interfere.

Talk some sense into her?! Yeah right, because the overbearing potential MIL will definitely help.your son's case!

How old are they? Where they living together?
What's his view on the relationship?

Women are frequently told on here not to hang around and wait for a proposal. If it's important to her, and not to your son, then they weren't going to make it, better now than in another three years. He'll move on!

Leave her alone and mind your own business.

You can’t get involved that’s just embarrassing and weird! Sounds like they just weren’t on the same page about marriage. He wasn’t ready yet and didn’t know when he might be, she didn’t want to wait until he made up his mind. She’s perfectly entitled to walk away. I’m sorry he’s heartbroken though, and it’s hard as a mum to see that. Just support him through it.

Good for her, she'll have a great Christmas free of her dead weight BF who refuses to marry her. Gaun yersel hen!

She sounds sensible to me, he’s had 3 years. He’s not being serious, best for her to end it and find someone who behaves with some sincerity towards her. Unless they are like 18.

Said he lives at her place.

I can’t believe you think you should say anything to her OP. I think she has had a lucky escape.

😁 Yeah, I'm willing to suspend my disbelief in the pursuit of entertainment, what are you going to say, op?