To think people are being bloody lazy

[SourGrapez]

Not trying to be goady (but probably will be 🙄). I keep seeing post after post about how parenting is “relentless” and “breaking people” and I just don’t really get it?

I’ve got 3 kids, all fairly close together (2 under 4 and DS8), work part-time, house isn’t a tip, kids eat actual food and go to bed at a sensible time. No screens during the week, no running round after them like a headless chicken. They sleep. Don’t beg and boss me about. They behave. Life ticks along.

Obviously there are tired days but some of the stuff on here makes it sound like people are barely surviving and I can’t help wondering what’s going wrong? Kids don’t need entertainment 24/7 and they don’t run the house. If you start as you mean to go on it’s… fine?

I don’t drink wine every night, make healthy dinners, don’t co-sleep, don’t negotiate bedtimes or bathtimes. Maybe that’s the difference? Or maybe people just don’t like being told no anymore (including adults).

Not saying I’m perfect, just genuinely confused how basic routines have become some kind of impossible feat 🤷‍♀️

And before the SEN brigade come and tell me how it’s different with their children, we already know and obviously this isn’t about them.

goes to make tea

How lovely for you. I’m so pleased.

Well done you, would you like a sticker?

Or maybe just MAYBE think people dont post unless they are having a hard time and need support so let's not kick someone when they are down eh?

Well done dear you have easy children. Do pat yourself on the back some more. Do it to your friends and family.

Oh give yourself a pat on the back.

Well I agree with you, I’m astonished by the negativity surrounding parenting these days.

You work part time…

Not sure why you posted?

Need a lift down from the high horse?

Want a Blue Peter badge?

What is it you want from this?

Well done?

Well you work part time so that’s one thing, it’s a different ball game if you work full time, it’s not hard to understand that. Not everybody has your time, your temperament and your children, that doesn’t mean they are lazy, and honestly it’s pretty small minded to assume that they are based on what you can do in your own life. Of course plenty are lazy too, but it’s not given that if you find parenting hard that you are just lazy.

Also this is the most deliberately goady thread I’ve seen all day ⭐️ for you.

Parent of the year award goes to you.

Well done op.

Because the people doing well dont tend to turn too MN for support?

"Not saying I’m perfect"

How strange, because that's exactly how it reads.

I think the fact that you only work part-time plays a big role in how easy you find it.

Good for you

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Well...

I think in part you have a point, having a routine, clear rules, knowing who is boss (the adults) and not putting yourself under pressure to provide endless entertainment makes parenting a lot easier, and more people should take a leaf out of previous generations books and do that

On the other hand, people often post on here when life has gone to shit, their partner is a lazy arse, they don't have a partner, their hours at work are crazy etc - most of us feel like we're drowning at some point and that's when we post, so it's not typical.

Why are there so many threads on here (recently) about "other useless" parents.

I mean, we could be drinking wine or making tea or planning to watch Strictly... but instead being invited to get riled about random other people's personality defects. I don't think I'm interested, actually.

My two youngest are under 4, eat actual food, go to bed at a sensible time and don’t have any screen time at all but my neurotypical 3 year old is still a little shit and I find it very difficult sometimes to parent her. So what’s your suggestion for me since you’re so perfect?

Hasn't it occurred to you that different people have different experiences? How strange!

Times are different now compared to when many families had one parent at home at least part time.

Children are also very different, my two are different despite being brought up the same.

Not trying to be goady...

If course you're not. Well done, have a biscuit
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Well done... Slow clap.

Most people are battling something, whether that's caring for elderly family, mental health, SEN or work issues.

Absolutely no need for the goady post.

Also from a Quick Look at your posting history you are 22 years old, so you had your first child at 14? Interesting you’ve got it all figured out so young.

Maybe it's because you had yours so young? According to your other posts you're 22. So you were 14 having your eldest? I assume you've had parental support being so young too?

Haha I was just thinking of posting a thread asking why parenting has broken me and there is no shred of my pre-parenting self left. Feel utterly hopeless and desolate tonight. Maybe I just need to try harder!

As I constantly have to say to my (undiagnosed but very likely autistic) DH, not everyone is the same as you!
just because something works for you the way you do it, doesn’t mean it is the same for others.