To think people are being bloody lazy

[SourGrapez]

Not trying to be goady (but probably will be 🙄). I keep seeing post after post about how parenting is “relentless” and “breaking people” and I just don’t really get it?

I’ve got 3 kids, all fairly close together (2 under 4 and DS8), work part-time, house isn’t a tip, kids eat actual food and go to bed at a sensible time. No screens during the week, no running round after them like a headless chicken. They sleep. Don’t beg and boss me about. They behave. Life ticks along.

Obviously there are tired days but some of the stuff on here makes it sound like people are barely surviving and I can’t help wondering what’s going wrong? Kids don’t need entertainment 24/7 and they don’t run the house. If you start as you mean to go on it’s… fine?

I don’t drink wine every night, make healthy dinners, don’t co-sleep, don’t negotiate bedtimes or bathtimes. Maybe that’s the difference? Or maybe people just don’t like being told no anymore (including adults).

Not saying I’m perfect, just genuinely confused how basic routines have become some kind of impossible feat 🤷‍♀️

And before the SEN brigade come and tell me how it’s different with their children, we already know and obviously this isn’t about them.

goes to make tea

YANBU. I don't get it at all. I'm a single parent to two little ones and work in a senior job 4 days pw. I don't find parenting relentless, I find it wonderful and rewarding. My kids eat home cooked food. The house is very clean. I iron everything aside pants and socks.

I agree

Star of the week for you dearie.

Why do you only work part time? Surely the perfect (and not lazy) parent would manage to do all of those things and still work full time?!

So you have a LOT of growing up to do.

Maybe focus on that, rather than judging everyone else.

Try posting again when both you and DH work full time

You're winning at life OP. Well done!

I was probably a bit like you OP. My life was easy and I thought it was all down to my great parenting. My kids were easy. I now have two teens with mental health issues. One-hospitalised for a year. Don’t be so smug. Life might just throw you a fucking big curve ball

… and her Husbands on his second marriage with a 22 year old 🤣

My mother worked - she was a leader of the Border Force (another country), so hardly financially screwed. 😂
Social media? Anybody forces mums onto social media? Interesting.

Absolutely I agree. A year ago you'd probably say I had a similar life to OP. Whilst I am still working part time I'm trying to balance ill health. I'm not the parent I used to be but my kids are fed and loved. It really doesn't take much for life to tip upside down. Not acknowledging that people can have it all and then not at all is extremely goady.

Sounds like you can feel accomplished at having nailed the parenting malarkey. Not so successful at emotional intelligence though…

Not to be ‘goady’ but I’m not sure why you find recognising that multiple factors shape parenting experiences such an impossible feat?

From a parent of one child who makes me feel smug about my abilities and one who makes me feel like I’m sinking.

Oh gosh I’m cringing for you OP. You’ll look back at this and be embarrassed!

‘SEN brigade’
Nice. You sound like a real empath.

But this is a parenting forum. No one is going to come on here and post about what average days they have.

This.

Get a full time job and then you can really give yourself a pat on the back

God this post has pissed me off

It does seem incredibly lazy to me too. Most of us work full time.

Bravo.
im a single parent with several chronic health conditions and find it all exhaustion. I’m shit your great, does that make you feel better?

Well because you work part time……Duhhhh.

Come back to me when your clearing 40 paid hours a week.

As 22 year olds are inclined to do. Wait a couple of decades , and come back after life has smacked you around a bit OP 😂😂😂

Come back when you work fulltime and do the same…

Do you have a bit of a chip on your shoulder having been a teen mum OP? I guess it’s nice to feel superior here if you have felt looked down on?

So you don’t have 2 under 4, you have a newborn and are likely on maternity leave and a child who is almost 5, and a step child. You have a partner and haven’t actually had to parent 3 young kids at once whilst working yet. You don’t have enough life experience to judge others as ‘bloody lazy’.