We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

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Just that - he’s doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere . We did go out for a bit today and he had a face like thunder. Im walking on eggshells the whole time - he’s so snappy. Whatever I suggest doing its a no. I’ve been so looking forward to this weekend - we planned it together. He’s just more and more like this with everything these days . We are in the hotel room now - have been back here since 3 pm (didn’t go out til nearly midday) and he’s asleep . I could go out to eat on my own later but tbh I’d feel a bit awkward sat somewhere eating on my own. It wasn’t what I had in mind ! I’m seriously thinking of just going home - I could bloody cry though. The fall out will be awful if I leave early 😢

Less drama? It sounds like your life is fucking miserable. How would leaving be less drama than your life partner throwing a tantrum every time he has to do a nice fun activity he helped plan?

You are absolutely kidding yourself on with that. You’re quite literally married to the drama. Get rid of it, you’ll never know peace and happiness like it.

Please update telling us you’ve dumped him. What is he adding to your life?

Just go out and eat- it's not as if you will be missing sparkling company.
You need to have a serious talk with DP because there could be something serious behind this- he could be in trouble at work, or have other worries, he needs a good explanation, if he doesn't have one then you should be seriously considering whether you want your future to be with him.

Op. This is no way to live. He'll just drag you down to the dumps with him. You just see that sitting enjoys jazz on your own was more enjoyable than being 'together'
with him in the room,

Well, I’m glad you went out. However, I think, from what you have said, that you need to do some serious reassessment of your relationship with this man. You say you don’t live together, so you really don’t have any financial ties to untangle, I’m guessing? No children together? If that’s the case, then I think you need to seriously consider whether this man is worth spending the rest of your days with, or whether it’s time to cut your losses and wave him goodbye? Walking on eggshells is no way to live and it seems as if he is making you utterly miserable. However, you say he hasn’t always been like this, so ask yourself why has he changed, and since when? Can you pin point a time when things started to change, was there a trigger in his life? Then ask yourself if the relationship you’ve built together over the last 8 years worth salvaging or is he always going to make you feel unhappy. Only you can answer these questions and then reach a decision based on your answers, but whatever you decide, remember that you are the most important one here, your happiness and contentment is paramount.

By chance he isn’t one of those morons who thinks going away means spending every moment in bed having sex?

This basically.

Did wonder this too. Some men do have fantastical ideas about weekends away being a shagfest for them.

Any update on this, OP? I’m so invested I finally created a username and commented. You deserve better than what you’re getting, but I suspect you know this. Your situation sounds very familiar. My advice would be get out whilst you can. And I don’t mean the hotel room.

My husband was so snappy and horrible.
Didn’t matter what I did or what I suggested, he was simple horrible and I just couldn’t fathom it.
Found out he was having an affair.

Sorry @Iwillcomeouttheotherend

Love the sound of this podcast!