We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

[bagpuss90]

Just that - he’s doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere . We did go out for a bit today and he had a face like thunder. Im walking on eggshells the whole time - he’s so snappy. Whatever I suggest doing its a no. I’ve been so looking forward to this weekend - we planned it together. He’s just more and more like this with everything these days . We are in the hotel room now - have been back here since 3 pm (didn’t go out til nearly midday) and he’s asleep . I could go out to eat on my own later but tbh I’d feel a bit awkward sat somewhere eating on my own. It wasn’t what I had in mind ! I’m seriously thinking of just going home - I could bloody cry though. The fall out will be awful if I leave early 😢

His behaviour is telling you loud and clearly how much he values you and your time together... Hear him. Get rid of him today. You are worth so much more.

Did you ask hm what he does "fancy"?
Because if he says just sleeping here in the hotel room ,that would be the opportunity for you to say you dont "fancy" that and to tell him you are going to leave or do something you do fancy....

Mine too. The OP hasn’t updated since the angry texts then him being asleep.

Life's too short for shit like this. You deserve better.

This. Imagine wasting your one precious life dealing with an antisocial bully who expects you to capitulate to his will all the time.

@bagpuss90 hope you're okay this morning?

Glad that you went out. Try to do that more often, not just when you are pissed off with him. Getting used to being comfortable in your own company is the most liberating thing that women can do. I have been to many things/places alone, restaurants, bars, cinema, theatre, holidays, weddings and concerts. The relationship sounds miserable and unhealthy - even if it didn't start out like that, its what it is now. You don't live together, you don't need to waste more years on him.

This is one of those threads where I won’t hesitate to say LTB, you deserve better.

Hope all is well with you @bagpuss90

im taken back to my first serious relationship, which was with one of these. Looking back I can’t imagine why it took me so long to wake up to our absolute incompatibility.

We had exactly the scenario you describe. Turned out all he was interested in was having sex, his saying he wanted to sleep just meant he expected sex. Sadly he wasn’t very good at it and I didn’t know enough the time to explain what I needed to enjoy the experience.

it took me nearly ten years to shake him off. He went through the usual histrionics others have described above. I can honestly say that every.single.day, no matter how challenging, is much better for not having to deal with him on top

So glad you took yourself out and had a good evening without him. Hope you can work out how your life will unfold with and without him. Stay strong, do not let him back whatever stunts he pulls. You life will just get better and better.

What are his good points?

If you don't live together, just dump him, as I assume no financial ties.

Op I really hope you are going to end this relationship when you get home. No way would I stay with such a miserable bastard. I’m glad you went out he sounds controlling tbh. Please dump.

Are you going to keep putting up with his terrible behaviour. When you look for a new beloved make sure it is someone who enjoys life ,has a good sense of humour and is more compatible with you.

What an utterly toxic relationship.
Why would you tolerate this?
Please end it. No relationship is worth being abused for.
Get rid of him.

So glad you went out and had a good time! Keep doing that. Ask DP if he wants to do such and such and if he just wants to stay in the room say you’re going out by yourself.

Hope you manage to get him to sort himself out I hope you can ditch him ,Op. Good luck !

Literally get home then change your locks. Get anything important from his house. Then end it. One conversation. You don’t need to provide him an explanation except « it’s not working for me » then block him on everything.

Hope you’re ok op

Glad you went out. Please dump this guy. My dad was like him and he made us all miserable. Don’t be my mum. You deserve so much better.

Well done for going out and having fun! Make the most of being away and if he doesn't want to go out then just go and do something you want to!

I’d call him and uber and tell him to FO to his home.

He’d be my ex DP by the time before the door closed behind him.

Dump this arsehole life's too short to spend it with a miserable bastard.

How was he this morning @bagpuss90 hope apologetic, or is he now an ex

Not excusing his behaviour but could he be depressed or having an affair?

What is the point in a relationship where you can't even have a weekend away together?

This is what the rest of your life looks like without the moody man child. Please get rid of him. You sound like a lovely, interesting person and he does not deserve you.