We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

[bagpuss90]

Just that - he’s doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere . We did go out for a bit today and he had a face like thunder. Im walking on eggshells the whole time - he’s so snappy. Whatever I suggest doing its a no. I’ve been so looking forward to this weekend - we planned it together. He’s just more and more like this with everything these days . We are in the hotel room now - have been back here since 3 pm (didn’t go out til nearly midday) and he’s asleep . I could go out to eat on my own later but tbh I’d feel a bit awkward sat somewhere eating on my own. It wasn’t what I had in mind ! I’m seriously thinking of just going home - I could bloody cry though. The fall out will be awful if I leave early 😢

I’m so sorry I didn’t see this in time - I’d have been commenting to say absolutely go out to eat! I know it’s daunting especially in a restaurant environment but actually it’s much more common than you think. Before I had my son I always used to go to the pictures alone, would go on little outings like to museums etc by myself and it was lovely. My viewpoint is why should we miss out on life because we’re waiting for somebody to go with us? We shouldn’t miss out! We have as much right to enjoy these things as anyone, and life is so short. 🧡

You have the luxury of not being wedded to him or tied by property and/ or children
Make the most of that position and set yourself free xx

So pleased you enjoyed your evening.

Hopefully your night out last night gave you a small taste of how much more fun and interesting your life could be if you ditched this man. Don't be dragged any further into his life of solitude and misery. Life's too short, believe me (my DH died last year aged 59). You don't live together, so make plans to go it alone when you get back. I reckon you'd soon build up a solid social life and reignite friendships; hopefully meet interesting new people. Just don't get caught up in the "we've been together 8 years, so I need to stay with him" mindset. Live the life you want, and the one you deserve.

Glad you had a lovely evening. Now to sort out a happy DP-free Christmas for yourself.

Sorry for your loss @SparklyGlitterballs

You sound great! Far too good for Arseface there!

I bet you'll get a 'punishment sulk/strop' this morning... use it as the springboard to get free! 🤗

I imagine you'll be in for a mega sulk this morning OP. Hope it all goes OK.

You get one shot at life OP, do you want this to be your forever? Really?
Walking on egg shells, never doing anything fun…

Get rid.

Now you have had a taste of freedom, consider how nice the rest of your life could be without this millstone of a man dragging you down!

Look you’re not compatible and need to separate. Don’t waste anymore time on him.

You can't live like this. I mean, you definitely can (and should) have lovely evenings chatting to interesting people, but having a miserable man who makes you walk on eggshells is NOT how you should be going into 2026. I hope this weekend gives you the impetuous you need to LTB!

He’s going to be sulking this morning and trying to make you feel bad.
DO NOT APOLOGISE. Not even ‘I’m sorry if you felt I abandoned you’ … no apologies at all.
stay calm, don’t argue. If he tries to create a drama raise an eyebrow at how ridiculous he’s been and stay calm.
keep firmly stating he didn’t seem very happy and he was more interested in sleeping so there was no reason for you to also have a shit weekend.
And honestly when you get home, get rid. Sulking and making you walk on eggshells is abusive behaviour.
You can do so much better op x

OP you sound ace. Glad you met some nice ( normal!) people. I bet they raised a glass to your chutzpah in getting out yourself and not waiting for him.

At the start I had thought ‘ hmm, he’s missing someone else back home…’ . But by now I just think he’s a drip . Free yourself!

Agree with this wholeheartedly.

I would be asking HIM wtf he’s playing at. Give him a piece of your mind then leave him, he isn’t worth wasting your life with.

Life is tough already.
Do you really need this lazy fun sponger dragging you down.
If he can’t communicate his problem openly then there’s no chance of a successful relationship. You’ve demonstrated that you don’t have a problem, by going out alone and having a pleasant time without him.
Honestly OP, is he even worth the eggshells.
You owe him nothing.
Set yourself free !

So glad you went out and had a lovely time.

Are you sure he is not abusive?

Your earlier posts about being concerned about the fallout if you left him and went home (and you don't even live together!), waves a bunch of red flags.

And then him sending angry texts asking wtf you are playing at?? Did he seriously expect you would stay in the hotel room all afternoon because he didn't want to go out and do anything??!!! Seems he wants to keep you limited.

Honestly, @bagpuss90 , I think your relationship is done. You deserve better.

Well done op, I’m so glad you went out, dinner at a jazz bar sounds amazing and I’m jealous!! Sounds like you can do much better than this grumpy boring fun killing loser.

Can't see the connection. Nothing wrong I. Not living together. However not a good way to spend time together and I'm not sure id bother

He wanted to know what you were playing at?! What a joker- not being controlled by him!

No kids, property or marriage? It sounds like you’re tied together by habit. Rip the plaster off and walk away- quickly!

Has he done anything like this before? On a special event? Birthday, Christmas, holiday?

I had a bf like this many years ago. He could switch into nasty mode at sny time.. nasty as in ignoring me/belittling me in front of other people/ being cold on trips away and really grumpy. It was a horrible time in my life, I never knew what mood he was going to be in, trod on eggshells constantly and my anxiety and stress levels were through the roof. I recall clearly one weekend in Paris which your situation reminds me of so clearly.

The best thing I ever did was dump his arse. It was a horrible time in my life, but the relief of getting rid and subsequent relationships with ‘normal’ people who didn’t switch moods faster than their underwear, was such a revelation and a relief.

Was going to add, the final straw came when he tried to ruin my sisters wedding by being rude and obnoxious to my family. That was the end for me.

Oh fuck him. Just fuck him. Manipulative, controlling and angry.
Go home and ditch his arse.