We’re away for the weekend and DP is as grumpy as hell

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Just that - he’s doesn’t want to do anything or go anywhere . We did go out for a bit today and he had a face like thunder. Im walking on eggshells the whole time - he’s so snappy. Whatever I suggest doing its a no. I’ve been so looking forward to this weekend - we planned it together. He’s just more and more like this with everything these days . We are in the hotel room now - have been back here since 3 pm (didn’t go out til nearly midday) and he’s asleep . I could go out to eat on my own later but tbh I’d feel a bit awkward sat somewhere eating on my own. It wasn’t what I had in mind ! I’m seriously thinking of just going home - I could bloody cry though. The fall out will be awful if I leave early 😢

You havent really told us anything OP other than he’s grumpy. Have you tried to get to the bottom of it? Pushed for a reason why? There might actually be something serious going on with him. You need to have it out with him.

And it's not going to get better. You are on your own anyway since he is making your life miserable. If you leave, will you be worse off? He will not change so you have to make the change

You say this a little flippantly for me.
Definitely sounds like he’s depressed or worse.

I’m not saying that means you should put up with his ‘grumpiness’ or, God forbid, try to ‘fix’ him, but you should at least check he’s OK before you walk away.

Get rid of him, he's not going to improve as he's shown you what kind of a person he is which isn't a good one. Think of how different and joyous Christmas 2026 could be if you get rid of him now. Think of the freedom and joy you could have next year without him.

Well there you go, problem solved. Ditch him and join a dating site.

Nope, you really don’t need to get to the bottom of it. He could use his words but you really don’t owe him anything.

you are not a human support appliance who needs to be endlessly supportive regardless of how he acts.

this actions tell you all you need to know. Treat yourself as you would want to be treated. Don’t pour out all your support on a partner who does not have your back.

Oh god, I wasted my thirties on one of these moody fun sponges!

just be glad you don’t have any commitments with this guy and get rid of him now. Life is too short.

you’ll feel like you have had a weight lifted from your shoulders, trust me!

Imagine this was a reverse and the poster’s wife was grumpy and non communicative.
Yeah she should use her words, dump the bitch!
Honestly the level of vitriol against men on here is next level, and has been said on many a thread recently, balanced and level headed advice is now almost impossible to come by.

Op why on earth do you stay with this man go home and also pack his bags while your their

Hope you're ok this morning OP. Honestly life is too short for this sort of thing.

You don't live together? After 8 years?

That said given the state of your relationship it's a plus. Much easier to walk away. Why would you continue to be with someone who makes you this unhappy?

Do yourself a massive favour. Go home. And seriously consider your next steps. Life is so short. Is this really how you want to live it?

Im so glad you had a nice evening with nice people! This is what life’s about.

Don’t let this selfish piece of shit hold you back in life. Don’t tread on eggshells any longer.

Once you get back home - end the relationship! This man doesn’t care about you.

OP, go out on your own and when you get back home, dump him.

You don't leave together so that makes it easier.

Get out now before you waste any more time on him.

Hopefully the fact you now know because of those messages that didnt just want to stay in, he also wanted to ruin your weekend, will be all you need to leave.

Dump him. Life's too short for this BS.

Only just seen this thread come up, but so glad you went out and did something fun, OP!

You're not the one 'playing at' anything. What kind of controlling, rude, man-child behaves like that?!

I hope your lovely evening meeting some interesting peole has reminded you that there are good people out there and how much fun your life could be without that miserable baggage!

Oh OP,
Some of us have experienced this...he is bringing you down because he wants you to feel the misery of the level he's on. Furthermore, if he can achieve that and get you there, he can control you, yank your chain, and feel powerful whilst doing it.
You are clearly a thoughtful, caring individual who wants things to be lovely; the perfect fit for a coercive controller.
In reaching out here on MN, you maybe know you're at a fork in the road: there are better routes/outcomes other than the deadend hell hole he's dragging you down into.
Life is hard enough without this! You should be cherished, not treated like this.
I truly wish you well.

You don't live together so I would consider finishing the relationship when you get home. Have your meal tonight and try and enjoy it. Life is too short to be with a grumpy partner.

@Notmyrealitythey are not married

OP refers to DP

I have eaten in many countries alone. Asked to sit facing people, sometimes I get in conversation with other singles, couples, groups, lovely. I really love it. Jazz or any music places are great. Have a great time on by yourself and meeting other like minded people.

Hope you are ok.

If he wasn't like this in the past it does sound like he's struggling with something - depression perhaps. I'd try and have a chat with him to find out what's going on. I'm glad you managed to have a lovely evening out. Wishing you all the best.

Op, are you married? Just think the drama will fall you home whether you leave early or not!
anywag just want to say you will be absolutely fine eating dinner and going out on your own! I used to begged kids! Example hubby will
drink too much the night before and couldn’t get up for breakfast I used to get up and have breakfast and then take myself to the pool/spa!

is DP not feeling well? Is he particularly tired? Only asking as I just said to my husband to remind me to take an iron tablets tomorrow I have no idea why but I am so exhausted wonder if it’s something going around…
anyway he doesn’t deserve you. Go out and make the most of your weekend away….

Honk honk.
Sqeal, squeal.

The unmistakable sound of a male chauvinst, misongynist piggie.

Tell him to blow his mean comments up his arse and then leave him.

Get someone you can have fun and enjoy your life with.

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