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To dump DP after what happened last night

284 replies

Relationshipover2 · 13/12/2025 15:26

NC’d for this. There have been some minor flags around my DP’s drinking in the past but nothing like what happened last night.

DP was on his work do in town and I was expecting him home late. I got a call about 10pm as I was getting ready for bed and it was from his phone - but when I answered it wasn’t him. It was a colleague who told me I’d need to come and pick him up because taxi’s were refusing to take him because he was covered in sick.

I went to get him, he had to be helped into my car by two colleagues propping him up. He was smashed, had been drinking since 2 on an empty stomach and was an absolute mess with sick all down his jeans.

On the drive back he was barely making sense, he kept saying he wanted to have sex and was turned on. I got him in the house after telling him to take his clothes off in the porch and set up bedding on the sofa (I’ve got a spare room but it’s an office and no bed) and left him to go to sleep.

I heard a load of crashing two hours later, he had fallen over into my coffee table (it collapsed) when walking in the dark. He then told me he had not made it to the bathroom in time and had pissed in the corner of the living room. Bullshit because the bathroom is in the other direction.

This morning he still seemed drunk and got funny with me for not ‘seeing to him’ sexually and then said he’d sort himself out and locked himself in the bathroom for ages.

He has finally sobered up this afternoon and claims he was spiked and is going to make a report to the police.

I am 99% sure that didn’t happen but does anyone think there’s any chance that’s true? I’ve never known him to get that drunk.

OP posts:
Potteryclass1 · 13/12/2025 20:03

Ugh. Imagine if he said all that sexual stuff to a female colleague.

Lilyargin · 13/12/2025 20:05

What are you going to do, OP?

UxmalFan · 13/12/2025 20:05

Just possibly his drink was spiked, though I'm not sure that the way he behaved is a typical response. But he seems to have a drink problem anyway which he needs to deal with in order to be a responsible partner and father.

Knittedfairies2 · 13/12/2025 20:09

Get rid, but only after you've called his bluff and driven him to the police station to make a report and he's replaced the coffee table.

working4ever · 13/12/2025 20:09

Had similar. Get rid.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 13/12/2025 20:13

Yikes. That's not drink. That's stupefied into oblivion.

Start the new year with a clean slate and end it.

TFImBackIn · 13/12/2025 20:18

OP, when he stays at your house, does he pay for 50% of the food and electricity? Does he pull his weight in terms of cleaning?

I wonder whether he's the sort of guy who is decent and kind, or whether he expects someone to pull him out of scrapes.

MummyJ36 · 13/12/2025 20:18

He sounds truly gross.

DBD1975 · 13/12/2025 20:19

If he is 18 maybe give him the benefit of the doubt, any older and definitely not.

Marble10 · 13/12/2025 20:20

Only a man would be covered in sick not able to stand and still want sex 🙄

80smonster · 13/12/2025 20:20

Spiked my arse.

Grapewrath · 13/12/2025 20:22

He wasn’t spiked ffs. He’s a massive wanker and this is a serious ick
Get rid of him
I had a similar situation in my early twenties and I had to bin him off because it was repeated. He still hasn’t changed from what I hear- they don’t tend to

CalmLemonCrab · 13/12/2025 20:24

What a loser. Dump him

Bloozie · 13/12/2025 20:25

Some people would laugh this off, others wouldn’t.

Me, I hate sick and erratic drunk people. They both scare me. Not to phobia level but near on. So it would be the end.

EstherGreenwood63 · 13/12/2025 20:30

Even if I was prepared to overlook drinking so much they were sick on themselves and pissing on my living room furniture and breaking it by falling over drunk, the sex stuff would be my 'line in the sand'. He is a fucking pig OP. Get rid immediately.

smallsilvercloud · 13/12/2025 20:40

EstherGreenwood63 · 13/12/2025 20:30

Even if I was prepared to overlook drinking so much they were sick on themselves and pissing on my living room furniture and breaking it by falling over drunk, the sex stuff would be my 'line in the sand'. He is a fucking pig OP. Get rid immediately.

Exactly this, it wasn’t just a drunken mistake, but how the vile sex pest behaved the next morning, thinking you should see to him after what you’ve witnessed with no apologies.

MajesticWhine · 13/12/2025 20:41

A drunken night out (if not too often) I could forgive. The revolting sexual demands and pissing are beyond the pale. I would be wanting some space from this man.

Cantanna · 13/12/2025 20:45

Call me naive ,but why would a man get his drink spiked ? .

bigboykitty · 13/12/2025 20:52

Men do get their drinks spiked, but this one didn't

Thepeopleversuswork · 13/12/2025 20:53

80smonster · 13/12/2025 20:20

Spiked my arse.

I’m marvelling at the fact people are credulous enough to think that this guy was spiked. People are so stunningly naive.

Catladywithoutacat · 13/12/2025 20:56

People always claim spiked when they cannot accept their behaviour the day before

Catladywithoutacat · 13/12/2025 20:57

Cantanna · 13/12/2025 20:45

Call me naive ,but why would a man get his drink spiked ? .

Cause someone wants to rob them or they accidentally put it in the man’s drink when it was meant for a woman

Sowhat12345 · 13/12/2025 21:10

Relationshipover2 · 13/12/2025 15:26

NC’d for this. There have been some minor flags around my DP’s drinking in the past but nothing like what happened last night.

DP was on his work do in town and I was expecting him home late. I got a call about 10pm as I was getting ready for bed and it was from his phone - but when I answered it wasn’t him. It was a colleague who told me I’d need to come and pick him up because taxi’s were refusing to take him because he was covered in sick.

I went to get him, he had to be helped into my car by two colleagues propping him up. He was smashed, had been drinking since 2 on an empty stomach and was an absolute mess with sick all down his jeans.

On the drive back he was barely making sense, he kept saying he wanted to have sex and was turned on. I got him in the house after telling him to take his clothes off in the porch and set up bedding on the sofa (I’ve got a spare room but it’s an office and no bed) and left him to go to sleep.

I heard a load of crashing two hours later, he had fallen over into my coffee table (it collapsed) when walking in the dark. He then told me he had not made it to the bathroom in time and had pissed in the corner of the living room. Bullshit because the bathroom is in the other direction.

This morning he still seemed drunk and got funny with me for not ‘seeing to him’ sexually and then said he’d sort himself out and locked himself in the bathroom for ages.

He has finally sobered up this afternoon and claims he was spiked and is going to make a report to the police.

I am 99% sure that didn’t happen but does anyone think there’s any chance that’s true? I’ve never known him to get that drunk.

Disgusting pig. Absolutely get rid

GreyBeeplus3 · 13/12/2025 21:15

If he's been drinking on a empty stomach that's on him; he's adult should know better, I'm rather revolted by his behaviour and since when should you be so understanding??
You're not his excuse to do whatever he fancies because you'll clean up like a human mop behind him with sex thrown in
He says his drink was spiked, well he had to say something didn't he??
It's up to you
But remember/think about whats happened; and like how you're viewed/thought of by his "colleagues"
Enough said

usedtobeaylis · 13/12/2025 21:16

I can't stand that kind of drunk and sleazy. Nobody needs that kind of man in their life.

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