To not apologise to sibling

[Bearingsbear20]

It's another inheritance one!

My sibling and I had a verbal agreement that I would take DF's whole estate when he died (as I'm the only one named in his will, sibling isn't as they don't get on, they keep saying he was abusive when they were a child etc. which is stupid as he's pleasant now) and my sibling would take DM's.

DM died earlier this year somewhat unexpectedly and didn't leave any legal will. We then found a draft will naming sibling as taking the bulk of the estate and leaving me a small remainder. This tallies with what DM told me i would be left, as she phoned me up before she died and told me she was trying to 'make it fair' between us.

Initially I told sibling to sort out all the administrative stuff for DM's estate as I was about to have my first DC and was too busy to take it on. Sibling initially was communicative, let me know what was happening. Involved me in the funeral etc.

After a few weeks I told sibling I wanted 50% of mum's estate as per the law since there was no valid will and that i would buy sibling out of their share of the house. Sibling then mostly stopped talking to me, I couldn't find out what was happening with the estate etc. and we argued several times. Sibling was insisting I was doing the wrong thing for pushing for my 50% and they kept mentioning DF's will, which is unreasonable IMO and I find it sad they are talking about this before he's even passed. Sibling wanted to put DM's house up for auction and said they'd be in touch when the estate admin was sorted and would follow the intestacy rules. Then they started selling off assets e.g. the car without consulting me.

I went and got a solicitor to send a letter to my sibling as I wasn't getting any detail about the estate and they were refusing to have me buy out 50% of their share of the house. The solicitor sent a few letters and eventually now sibling has agreed I can buy out their share.

They're now not talking to me though and have refused to see me over Christmas etc. until I 'acknowledge what I've done'. I don't see that I've done anything wrong, I've just pushed for my legal inheritance, and sibling cut contact first. So AIBU?

You had an agreement op.

God you sound vile. The only way it’s ok is if you split your fathers assets when they time comes. Are you planning on doing that?

But you don't have to, and you do know what your Mother's wishes were.

You also know your Father was abusive to her, saying he is nice now means nothing when you've been harmed as a child.

I'd hate you if I were her.

Yeah I would cut contact with you too. Nobody is ignoring the law, you can always give your sibling your half but sounds like you're too selfish to do that. Law or not, it's morally wrong considering what was agreed. You greedy arsehole.

What's that got to do with your mum's draft will?

OP - are you going to admit that you only care about money?

You're a really shitty person who is throwing their relationship with their sibling away over your desire for money

What a terrible cunt person you are

You come across as a fairly unpleasant human being in this thread. You seem to be hell-bent on justifying your immoral actions so why bother starting - thread?

So you fell out with dm and she planned to disinherit you but died to soon to finalised it; your sibling fell out with ddad and you’re happy it’s fair they get nothing?

And now you’ve bought the house and you’ll make a windfall profit flipping it, which I guess you won’t share with your sibling either (not that you are obliged to, but wouldn’t it be a generous and kind act to share the good fortune provided only because you have a share of your mums estate, which your mum didn’t even want you to inherit?)

I hope your sibling uses their share of the estate to buy herself some lifelong distance from you. I would not forgive you.I wouldn’t want an apology either.

This cannot be real the OP is just adding insult to injury, already discussing selling the property for a profit after she’s dwindled her sibling. If not, I don’t know how people like you sleep at night @Bearingsbear20

You are just angling to get 50% of your mothers estate, and 100% of your fathers op. What the hell. You are being incredibly greedy and hurtful.

I suspect your father is am alcoholic abuser, and telling your sister to get over it won’t help. You sound awful. I am team sister. Apologise and honour the agreement you both have.

The more you come on here and try to justify yourself, the more of a selfish greedy bitch you sound to be honest.

Your sibling should "get over" being abused! Your sibling should "get over" being financially shafted!

The only thing that should be got over is you and yourself.

You're a horrible human being

'Rules of intestacy, rules of intestacy!' cried the OP. 'It's the law, nothing to do with me, Guv!'

You know what's also the Law? A Deed of Variation.

You are one greedy selfish little madam. You're already getting all of your father's worldly goods but no, that's not enough, you want half of your mother's even though you are aware of how she intended to split it. Were you angry at that, and are spitefully taking it out on your sibling?

And of course, you only told your sibling that you were taking half AFTER she'd done all the work - so greedy, selfish and lazy.

I hope the extra money keeps you warm, because there's precious little love in you to do that.

And I really, really hope you're a troll and just goading people (successfully in my case) for shits and giggles and that none of your sorry tale is true.

https://grantsaw.com/services-for-you/private-client/deed-of-variation

I don't see why I should share any profit or share of my 50% with a sibling who doesn't communicate with me. What is the sense in that? If they want some of it, they should be building bridges with me, not the other way round.

I'm hoping this is a reverse.

So you'll take half your mum's estate, AND all your dad's, and that's ok with you because her letter of intention wasn't legal?

Ask yourself what the value of a good relationship with your sibling is worth?

If this is a genuine post!!! you are a horrible person and I probably would not speak to you ever again, if you were my sister.

I have nothing nice to add, and on top of how foul you sound about your mother’s estate, you are despicable to say your sister’s memories of abuse are irrelevant because your father is pleasant now.

So you think the verbal agreement was foolish, and you also believe you should inherit 75% of the joint estates and your sibling 25%. So why would you want to spend Christmas with your sibling as you don't agree with their life choices/accept their lived experiences. Spend Christmas with people you like and respect. Best all around.

they would communicate you if you wasnt being a spiteful greedy so & so though. This has to be a troll wind up post surely?

So you are blackmailing her now as well, nice.

OP, can you see the results of the vote? Does this give you pause for thought?

sibling kept going on about his will as if they were entitled to half even when they didn't visit him!

Yeah, that's not how it works. It's not like a Tesco clubcard where you build up a % of the estate for every day you visit.

Exactly this and echoes my thoughts too.

Greed is so so ugly, I hope you get the Christmas you deserve OP.

Gosh, you're a nasty piece of work, aren't you.