To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

While I understand wanting to let his partner know, I think it could have been done more constructively.

I hope he doesn’t have kids who might pick it up and read it.

It sounds more like you wanted revenge than anything else.

Why did you do this?

The way to deal with bellends like this is to ignore them. Not to inflate their self image by sending greetings cards. What did you think you were going to achieve?

You’ve also made it quite likely his wife will discover this. If you want her to know tell her directly rather than sending something which will alarm and unsettle her.

To embarrass him and make him think twice about doing it again.

You haven’t done the right thing

you should have told him off - but now his wife and or kids could find this. And they deserve to find out in a better way

you sound a bit spiteful

And what if he has children who pick up the post? This is a horrid thing to do.

Yeah sorry op I think that’s an awful thing to do to the wife. Tell her yes - but not like this.

I wouldn't have met him anyway after the conversation turned raunchy when he'd never even met me.

There are no children living at home if he's telling the truth that is.

Well you could have done that by blocking and ignoring him. Far more dignified and free.

What you have done will make him think you are obsessed with him and a bit unhinged and risks causing serious upset to his family.

He will just write you off as a bit batshit and move onto his next victim.

If he’s the kind of guy that sends unsolicited pics then he’d probably get a kick out of the postcard tbh

Bloody hell, how spiteful.

You could have privately messaged the wife with evidence, you could have even reported his unsolicited dick pics to the police and let them deal with it.

Sending an anonomous postcard to his home, so his wife and kids have to deal with it is out of order.

He deserves all he gets, but his family deserve some respect.

Exactly

why would a married man even give you his home address?

I am going to report the pictures to the police.

Really bad idea

Because he was showing off about his house. He sent pictures of that. A quick check online reveals he's not living there by himself.

Yeah. None of this is stacking up.

Well, you've done it now so whatever happens, happens.

I hope he was telling the truth about no children at home because while I do generally believe people should not be protected from the consequences of their actions, this feels a little much.

It sounds bloody brilliant as long as you've done it anonymously.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Your behaviour comes across as a little unhinged.

As others have said does he have kids who could pick this up and read it? If this happened to me and my DD read it, it would ruin her life.

As a married woman I would appreciate being told if my husband was playing away but there are better ways to go about it.

God, How embarrassing, for you more than anything else. I'd be embarrassed to look so invested/unhinged. You should have just stopped talking to him.

The police will not be interested and if they are, will want to see the whole conversation leading up to the pics being sent. Bet that will be embarrassing for you too.

God, just let it go. I am cringing inside out for you.

Spiteful.
Not only dose make you sound Spiteful but also jealous.
You could have told him to fuck off and block him in the first place.

Jealous of what?

Cringing for you.
Stop embarrassing yourself.

I once sent a book titled "How to Catch a Cheat" to the live-in partner of a serial adulterer.