To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

"A note from me to you, Dave"

I’m also surprised the OP is getting so much criticism. Either cheating overconfident husband intercepts postcard and maybe it makes him think twice before showing off his flash house and offensive photos. Or wife sees postcard and either a) she already knows he’s cheating so makes no difference b) it confirms her suspicions, c) it starts suspicions and she can take action if she wants - at least she has the information rather being kept in the dark by everyone.

Unhinged. Mad. Obsessed stalker.

The man sent unsolicited pornographic images, but the recipient must play nice and do things the 'right' way.

More women need to do things like this. That they don't is why men continue.

I knew someone like this and these men pick women who they see as " classy" and wouldn't get involved in denouncing him. It's part of their game.

Why have you been flirting with a married man? As soon as you found out, or received unsolicited raunchy messages and pictures you could have told him to f××k off and/or block him. You obviously did neither but are happy to destroy his wife and children out if misplaced spite. You need help. Or a soul.

Ive not read the whole thread yet so sorry for any repeat comments

How do you know for sure that was his actual house and he wasnt just to impress you with either a house who he diesnt know who the owner or is a mates place?
I would be concerned a out his reaction towards his wife if be is a violent type.

Youve created drama, if you have indeed do e this.

A man sends you unsolicited dick pics and you reply with an anonymous moonpig postcard. Why don’t you just tell him to fuck off and block him?

For everyone who say she should have just blocked and ignored - this is exactly how married men get away with being utter skanks.

His wife deserves to know and the blame for that is on him not OP.

You will come across as a stalker and therefore an unreliable witness. Your postcard will not work out well for you, nor badly for for him as a result. There were better ways to handle this.

I did not flirt with a married man. A seemingly single man flirted with me, then his conversation turned sexy which I didn't respond in kind to. Then a picture of him arrived. I blocked him without any more interactions. I was going to tell him to piss off but I didn't say anything.

He's probably doing it now with someone else.

@IslaSkywalker do you know this man well?

If not, it was a foolish move. He will presumably know it was from you (or hazard a guess) and you’ve potentially dropped a bomb in his life. You might find he’s a nut case who retaliates. Not a good thing to put your own safety at risk.

Have you done stuff like this before OP?

I think reporting the pics would have done the job without the 'life of self-made drama' vibe.

But he's a twat and his partner deserves better. I hope she's okay.

Grow up

Not that I believe this tale, but then I don't give my phone number out to strangers anyway.

You should’ve just told him what you thought blocked and moved on

Erm no definitely not!

I do work in prisons and secure hospitals as a psychologist and so I can definitely tell when some men are predators (violent rapists or peadophiles, not cheaters - very different things) but I am also very vocal on how the most dangerous men are the ones that you would not suspect.

I may see red flags more than others purely because I’ve been round so many of them but I’d still never blindly trust a man.

I am always telling women on here to stop introducing their kids to men they barely know, no matter how ‘nice’ they are.

But regardless, a cheater is definitely not the same thing as a dangerous predator.

you’re horrible.

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Oh my life, the reaching to blame the OP. It almost reads as if a load of dick-pic sending men have invaded Mumsnet to DARVO. All the tropes are there - unhinged, stalkerish, upsetting the wife, OP's fault if the wife gets beaten up. You need to take a long, hard look at yourself.

Dating apps dont require you to give other people your number and is premised on the goal of connecting people. Same with things like Instagram.

Its one thing to judge how the op has chosen to react, but totally out of order to blame her for this mans actions in the first place.

Honestly. It comes across as you’ve been having an affair and been ditched.

The level of investment is too much for a passing conversation

If more men thought there was real repercussions of their actions like this, they might think twice about doing it.

I think you did the right thing. He didn't care that you didn't want to see his dick. Why do you need to put him above yourself? Dirty perv

Good for you, a great idea and nicely executed.

Absolutely agree. I think the OP is a genius! In fact if this was a standard response to horrible pictures, if all women could somehow send embarrassing postcards to the perp…we might actually have the upper hand and stop this sort of behaviour.

well done op!

You should have just blocked him and moved on.