To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

Ruining his family's life won't make yours any better.

Ouch. If it could be guaranteed that only he would see it, I’d say it’s no more than he deserves, but if his wife sees it first that’s a very hurtful way for her to find out. Ditto kids if he’s lied about that too.

Of his wife obviously.

So you've never even met him and you've done this? 🫣

I think you were expecting a cheer of 'you go girlfriend', but honestly, it's so cringe.

You should have just blocked and ignored him and reported the unsolicited pictures to the police.

Block and report to what ever app you are using and the police

I absolutely agree with reporting men sending unsolicited pictures which is flashing this has become so the norm it’s disturbing

You've put far too much effort into this! Better to block and move on. Anonymous letters are really spiteful. What if he retaliates?

I'm not jealous of a woman with a cheating husband, no. Who would be?

What wrong has OP done?

He obviously doesnt care about any wife or children, so why should anyone else?

Great idea @IslaSkywalker - especially that any postie can read it!

I wasn't expecting that no, just expecting comments in all their forms.

HE is ruining it, no-one else

Stop blaming others for men's vile behaviour

If his post arrives as promptly as ours, he can expect to recieve this in 2-3 years

Sending a moonpig postcard makes the whole thing a joke. Not pleasant for you, of course, but not life-wrecking – you will move on. Making a drama of this in a jokey way is such an unbelievably cruel thing to do to another woman. Imagine finding out about your husband’s infidelity on a jokey moonpig card.

Who cares what the postman thinks. He very likely won’t even read it.

I'm not trying to make my life better. I don't understand this.

So why did you go to the trouble of doing something you know could throw a hand grenade into her family?

If you genuinely had concerns for her you could have contacted her privately.

This has just made you look mad and vindictive.

He obviously doesnt care about any wife or children, so why should anyone else?

What fresh hell is this comment? Why shouldn’t anyone care about his wife and kids? Give me strength.

What if that wasn’t his real house or address?

I don’t agree that anyone is doing a wife a favour by being discreet about her husband’s infidelity.

I don't think a man who loves and respects his wife would act like him.

It definitely is.

That may be true but that doesn’t give you the right to force the issue into her life.

You know nothing about her. How presumptuous of you to decide you have the right to be the person to blow her life up.

I applaud your actions, @IslaSkywalker and I'm at a loss to understand why so many posters think you should have kept quiet and covered up this wanker's inappropriate behavior. Please do report the dick pics to the police as it's a crime to send them.

His poor wife, her husband is a scumbag and she has to find out with some joke post card. He probably doenst give a fuck what the postman thinks but she might. If you want her to find out just tell her by contacting her privately so she can get the full facts. He will probably convince its not real anyway. It's very cruel and vindictive.

You want revenge against him- go for it!, but why be cruel to his family who are innocent victims too.

How did you end up in contact with this man?

I can’t believe the vitriol towards the op. Ingrained misogny at its finest. Be dignified, be silent, stfu. Don’t ruin a man’s reputation in the eyes of his family. Fuck all of that. No. He’s the prick and deserves to see the consequences of his actions.

How do you know, when did you find out he was married, did you block him straight away.

Moonpig! People are being so melodramatic. He will laugh it off, say it was a prank and get one of his mates to say they did it as a joke.