DP’s family have uninvited my DLabrador from Christmas

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Feeling a bit pissed off. First Christmas with DP and he invited me to his parents house. They live a few hours away so I haven’t been there before, but have met them once for a meal where we live.

DP knows I have sole custody of my DL following breaking up with my ex last year, and he hates going into kennels. When he asked me about Christmas, I checked about whether DL could join and he said yes.

Fast forward to today and he’s told me his parents aren’t able to accommodate DL. They aren’t really dog people and are worried about their cream carpets.

It turns out he hadn’t actually checked with them before and only spoke to them last night.

This means I can’t go and won’t be spending Christmas with DP or the days either side as he’s travelling the morning before.

He says its just one of those things.

AIBU to feel upset with him?

He doesn't like kennels, but it won't do him any harm.
You're right to be annoyed with your DP, but I'd put the dog in kennels.

With him? Yes. He should have checked sooner so you could make alternate arrangements over Christmas.

It would be unreasonable to be annoyed at the situation though. It’s a lot to expect a host you don’t know to accommodate you and a dog, especially if they don’t have a dog already and are not set up for it.

Is there anyone who can house sit for you?

They haven’t uninvited him op
Your DP asked
they reasonably said no

do you live with your DP?

If I didn’t have a dog and had cream carpets, there is no way I would let a dog in my house.

especially a shedding, drooling Labrador. It’s not as if it’s a small dog, labradors shed all the time and are a smelly breed.

Yup. He should have checked, certainly. Your partners family haven't uninvited the dog, your dopey partner never asked them. They've simply said no, which is fine.

If your dog hates kennels then do you have any family members you can spend Christmas with who will let you bring your dog?

TBF his family haven't uninvited your dog, your dog was never invited in the first place.

It's fair to annoyed with him for lying to you tho.

Your title contradicts your post, OP.

I wouldn’t want a dog in my house, so can’t blame them!

They haven't uninvited him, he was never invited. Your dp fucked up, this is entirely on him

YABU for such a misleading title.

My DL really doesn’t smell. And shedding is minimal if anything at the moment. So I think that’s a very sweeping statement.

I’d definitely be annoyed at him for not checking with them and then lumping it on you a couple of weeks before Christmas when it’s much harder to make alternative arrangements.

To all the posters falling over themselves to talk about how dirty and horrible dogs are and how they’d never have them in their home, that’s not what this thread is about so take the day off eh?

No not over Christmas sadly

That was crap if your DP to have lied about asking. However, his family have done nothing wrong so your title is misleading.

All Labradors shed and smell. I say that as a dog lover and owner.

Either

1. he did ask. They’re fine with it. He now doesn’t want you to come so pretending he forgot to ask and saying now they don’t want the dog
2. he didn’t ask. When he did - they reasonably said no. So not their fault at all.

Sorry, but they didn't uninvite the dog, they never agreed tonitn8n the first place.

Get over yourself, not everyone's life revolves around your dog, and i say that as a dog owner.

Put the dog in kennels, find a dog sitter or book a dog friendly hotel so you can take the dog and leave it at the hotel for a couple of hours (travelodge allow dogs).

Your partner not your PIL is at fault he shouldn’t have just said yes without asking — your dog was never invited.

Yes I have met them, I said that in the OP

Sounds fair enough.

They still shed a lot even if it’s not shedding season. You become oblivious to dog hair when you have a shedder.

I wouldn’t want a lab around
especially a lab I hardly know
with a girlfriend I hardly know

His family haven't uninvited your dog OP.

Thanks to your silly boyfriend, your dog was never invited in the first place.

YANBU to be annoyed at him.