To have expected him to make sure I got home ok?

[Muffinmoo]

First date last night with a guy who spent most of the evening telling me about how rich he was and all the companies he had owned and sold.

Left the restaurant, freezing outside. I am having trouble getting an uber. He is just standing there watching me struggle to try and book a cab. He suggests I get a black cab. Tell him I can’t really afford it. Eventually I give up and say I will walk to the tube which is about a 5-10 minute walk (I’m in heels). He walks with me part way before leaving me alone at gone midnight to go to his easiest tube stop. I have to walk to the tube in the dark by myself. He could have got the same tube line from the same station as me.
AIBU for expecting him to at least walk me to the tube if not help get me taxi??? Or is that too much these days?! 🙈

Well at least you know not to go on a second date!

Yes I would have expected him to see you safely home. At least you know he is not a keeper.

Maybe he had invested enough of his time on you?

How on earth do you manage life when you’re not on a date?

YABU to expect him to help you get a taxi - I assume you mean pay - as you’ve just met him
it would have been nice for him to walk with you to the tube
FWIW sounds as tho neither of you enjoyed the date or you wouldn’t moaning and he would have accompanied you

That was handy. You now know exactly who he is.

He is your date not your dad.

YABU. He is not a keeper but if you could not afford a black cab home why were you out on a date? What would have happened if the Tube had stopped for some reason?

For everyone who says they’d expect him to get you home safe, someone else will say they wouldn’t want a first date knowing where they live / risking them pushing for an invite inside.

I fall on the side of it’s not his responsibility to get a Woman he doesn’t know home, and you could have booked yourself a private hire cab in advance if getting the tube worried you?

I agree with this. Did you check if he got home
ok?

It doesn’t sound like either of
you were that interested.

Its a first date - he is not responsible for 1) your choice to wear heels, 2) your finances, 3) your ability as an adult to get yourself home, 4) you not wearing enough clothes to keep warm.

A cab fare would have been literal pennies to him but if he’d have offered to try from his account I would have offered to reimburse. Date went ok before then, I would have at least expected to not be abandoned late at night. I know it upsets some people on here when women have even the mildest of standards.

It seriously annoys me when people decide that they know better than I do and insist on accompanying me, so I have absolutely no problem with what he did.

You chose to walk to the tube, you are presumably capable of making your own judgement about whether this was safe or not. If you'd wanted him to walk you there, you could have asked him to do so.

I won’t make an effort to look nice in future then 😂

Did you make sure he got home ok?

You are an annoying princess type. Do you have friends and do you expect them to sort everything out on a night out?

How do you get home from nights out with friends OP?

I would be be binning a man who expected you to wear unsuitable clothing on a cold evening to "look nice".

Or could you actually have worn flat shoes and a warm coat?

So the date didn't go well for you both then - you didn't like that he didn't do these things, potentially he didn't like that you expected them. Not a match. Move on. Neither of you are wrong and isn't that what dating is for?

You weren’t abandoned
that’s totally dramatic
its not about standards - this sounds like weird expectations from someone who is basically a stranger

YABU. You're an adult.

You aren’t being a “princess”. No man worth seeing again would leave a woman to walk the streets alone at gone midnight, especially when he could also get home from your tube station.

Having standards is a good thing, OP. What on earth’s the problem in ensuring someone’s safety?

I would have blocked his number as soon as he left.

Yikes you wanted him fo pay for your taxi? That’s really grabby. DDI him talking about money bring it out in you?

no I’d not expect him to walk you to the tube fully or pay for a taxi as your skint, I’d expect you to be an adult and take responsibility for yourself.