To have expected him to make sure I got home ok?

[Muffinmoo]

First date last night with a guy who spent most of the evening telling me about how rich he was and all the companies he had owned and sold.

Left the restaurant, freezing outside. I am having trouble getting an uber. He is just standing there watching me struggle to try and book a cab. He suggests I get a black cab. Tell him I can’t really afford it. Eventually I give up and say I will walk to the tube which is about a 5-10 minute walk (I’m in heels). He walks with me part way before leaving me alone at gone midnight to go to his easiest tube stop. I have to walk to the tube in the dark by myself. He could have got the same tube line from the same station as me.
AIBU for expecting him to at least walk me to the tube if not help get me taxi??? Or is that too much these days?! 🙈

I’d have expected him to walk you to the tube at the very least as a gentleman.

I can afford a black cab, but I wouldn't get one where there's an easy Tube alternative.

Fwiw I feel much safer on the Tube at night than alone in a cab.

I'm guessing not wandering around at midnight.

It seems quite sensible to me

If safety was the Op's paramount concern she would have joined the Tube with him for one stop and then changed trains to her line.

Messing about walking to the further station was on her.

My DH always offers to walk women to where they feel safe. Regardless of whether he’s on a date with them or not.
(obviously he’s not since we are married!)
He once tried to walk my very drunk friend back to her’s after she left our place following a party at 4 in the morning, because he wanted to know she git home safe - she got really annoyed with him and said he should leave her alone! 😆

I think I’d have just jumped in a black cab. In your situation OP.

You might want to rethink the heels on a date with someone you don’t know next time… they might be an axe murderer and you need to leg it!!

If safety was her concern she would have paid for a cab!

It’s not normal. I agree it sounds like he probably just wasn’t into you.

I have brothers and one thing I’ve learnt is that if he was really into you he would have cared enough to do it but if he didn’t he wouldn’t.
Maybe his next date will see a different him and he’ll walk her home, text goodnight and see how she is in the morning because he’ll want to and that’s how they behave when they meet someone they’re really into.
Nobody else gets that side of them. Don’t see him again.

Sounds like you weren’t at all suited.
Onwards and upwards OP!

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Yes, if he could also have got a tube from your tube station then I’d have expected him to walk with you. I’d have wanted to walk together whoever it was.

I assume that your tube only went from that station. But his went from both stations.

I love how talking about how rich he is all evening was fine but having to pay your own fare is "standards".

If you had standards OP, you'd have lost interest much earlier.

His station was apparently 5 mins closer.
His tubeline ran through her preferred station.
She just had to get off and change lines after one stop.

He didn't like you, for obvious reasons.

He paid for the meal and you wanted him to pay for a cab?

OMG seriously if he was intetested he would have checked you got home ok..ge didnt as hes not intetested...did you pay on the date if you didnt then thats why hes not interested....men get raped attacked and stabbed too

If you were struggling to get an Uber then surely he would have also struggled to get one for you?

So? Why would that bother him or any other potential date as long as you're clean and presentable?

That's unforgiveable. My DDs 18 year old male friends ensure every girl in their group gets home safely. They escort to the door and wait until they're inside or ubers are booked so the girls are never the last to be dropped off. This has been the friend group code since they were 13/14. If they can do it every time, an adult man going on dates should be doing it. I presume you wouldn't countenance a second date but if he has the cheek to ask I'd let him know why you're declining.

Agreed. It is not relevant his wealth -

Women can't be wanting equal rights on the one hand and then expect men to pay to pay for them on the other.

Personally, I would not want a 2nd date with someone so crass talking about wealth like this

Maybe he didnt enjoy the date and wasnt planning to see you again so not bothered about being seen as chivalrous.

Expecting a man you barely know to pay for your transport is the reverse of "having standards." Being self-sufficient, independent and not reliant on men is "having standards."

As others said, why didn't you dress appropriately, make sure you had funds and otherwise prepare? If you cannot afford the transportation, you can't afford the date. Eyeing his finances is unseemly.

Are you a child?

I was with about not walking you back to the tube until this.

If you'd budgeted for half a meal why didn't you use the money you saved for the black cab?

But presumably OP is an independent adult woman, not a teenage girl.
Adult women don't need to be escorted around by men they barely know when they could pay for their taxis.

As he paid for the meal , could you not put the money you saved towards the black cab