To have expected him to make sure I got home ok?

[Muffinmoo]

First date last night with a guy who spent most of the evening telling me about how rich he was and all the companies he had owned and sold.

Left the restaurant, freezing outside. I am having trouble getting an uber. He is just standing there watching me struggle to try and book a cab. He suggests I get a black cab. Tell him I can’t really afford it. Eventually I give up and say I will walk to the tube which is about a 5-10 minute walk (I’m in heels). He walks with me part way before leaving me alone at gone midnight to go to his easiest tube stop. I have to walk to the tube in the dark by myself. He could have got the same tube line from the same station as me.
AIBU for expecting him to at least walk me to the tube if not help get me taxi??? Or is that too much these days?! 🙈

I would have expected him to walk you to the tube station, but equally, did you ask?

I wonder if he got the vibe that you were hinting for him to pay for your cab?

It was a bit weird he just stood there whilst I was struggling to get one to pick me up in the freezing cold. As I said up thread if he’d offered to use his account I’d have offered to reimburse.,

I could have afforded a black cab but it’s twice the price and tbh didnt think he would let me walk on my own in the dark to the station when I made that call.

Wow, you're getting a hard time on here OP. I'm with you, if he was that rich he could have covered the cab fare. Tight and uncaring. In the bin he goes.

Sounds like he couldn't wait to leave. Or he is into you but thoughtless or tight. Either way, not a keeper.

Why do women on here always want to spend someone else's money?

• Standard behaviour is to book the uber before you leave the restaurant/bar and come out when it gets there. Why didn’t you just do that?
• A 5-10 minute walk isn’t a long walk. And if there were multiple tube stations within that radius, you were central. So, there’d have been people about. You weren’t hiking through fields.
• That being said, I’d have expected a half decent guy to walk you to the Tube. However, it sounds like he’d already given lots of evidence that he was an idiot, so it’s not surprising that he didn’t.

I am not sure I'd put him in the "total wanker" category, but he's definitely in the "not compatible" category.

You'd like him to have stepped in to help with the taxi issue. He didn't. Perhaps because it doesn't occur to him. Perhaps because he thought you wouldn't want that. Perhaps becuase he doesn't want people to think he's just a money bags. Who knows. Doesn't matter. You have expectations and preferences and he didn't meet those.

For myself, I don't need a man to walk me to the tube although I definitely have male friends who would in a situation like that. So that wouldn't be a deal breaker for me, but if you prefer that sort of approach, fine.

I will say however that you do have a slight whiff of entitlement to you that might put him off.

I think you should have been capable of making your own way home. It might have been nice if he'd taken you further, but definitely not essential behaviour on a first date, especially as it sounds like you didn't really get on. I would have been uncomfortable accepting him paying for the taxi in those circumstances.

Well he’s shown you who he is so believe him!

Don’t be swayed by replies on here, true gents would always check you at least had a route home!

It wouldn’t occur to me that someone might go out wearing shoes that they couldn’t walk for 10 minutes in.

It's not his job to pay for your taxi.

Don’t be silly 😂

Erm, this at least gives you the heads up to what sort of man he is and don't arrange any more dates.

It’s entitled to expect a man to walk me to the tube? 😂
also, don’t wax lyrical about how much money you have and then not utilise that to demonstrate a bit of chivalry? It’s just a bit weird. But yeah anyway the bar is literally in hell apparently. Or at least it is on MN.

I think it’s odd to expect a man to pay for you just because he has more money. He doesn’t owe you anything and surely you’re old enough to be responsible for yourself. He sounds super boring and probably you not being able to afford your own bills means he won’t call you again anyway so you can both move on from this.

Well, he sounds lik ea bit of a wanker if all he did was talk about money. But no, I don't think that anyone, even if they're loaded, should feel obliged to pay for someone they've just met's taxi.

I have no problem with you preferring the kind of man who would walk you to the tube. The entitlement comment was in the way you approached this, and the feeling like he should be leaping up to solve your taxi issue and/or pay for a black cab.

Why would you need to use his Uber account rather than your own?

Sadly, I agree he should have physically made sure you got on the tube or in a cab. It simply isn't safe for women to be wandering around on their own at that time of night. But, and it's a fucking huge 'but', your comment about a cab costing him pennies is disgraceful. We're not living in the 1950's. Expecting a man to pay for your taxi is embarrassing. You're setting back women's attempts to be equal 100 years.

I think it should be expected that a date would at least walk you to a safe place after midnight if you couldn't get a cab, unless he offered and you said no I'm fine. Maybe he's not as rich or as much of a gentleman as he was making out. If you know the area well and it's busy and well lit, it's probably fine, if it's dark and strange and you are a bit dressed up and in high heels I would not be comfortable walking alone.

How would his Uber account have more success than yours if you were standing in the same place at the same time? Unless you’ve got a bad rating?

Oh calm down. Setting back women’s rights?

Roughly, what part of London were you in? I mean, it’s pretty hectic in London in the evening. If you were out in Chalfont or similar, then maybe walking you to the station might have been nice. Brixton / Islington / central? I certainly wouldn’t have expected that.

ETA: I just don’t think he was that into you. And that’s ok - you don’t sound into him either.

I’m astounded by some of these comments! I have a son and I’ll certainly be raising him to make sure any lone female friends/girlfriends get home safely. It’s pretty basic stuff.

Wow, please stop posting before you make an even greater embarrassment of yourself. Have some self respect and pay your way.

Who paid for your meal OP?