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Girl Guides are now GIRL ONLY!

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Iamwhoiamwhoareyou · 02/12/2025 14:41

Following April's supreme court ruling, the Girl Guides have FINALLY made a statement and will remain GIRLS ONLY - Finally closing the door on admitting trans members or allowing BOYS to invade female only spaces/camp (which, would be done without informing parents that their daughter would be sharing a room with a biological male!) - I have a previous post in feminism chat for anyone wanting to read the previous thread on this

EMAIL RECEIVED HOT OFF THE PRESS 5 MIN AGO -

As the parent of a young member in Girlguiding, following April’s Supreme Court decision relating to sex and gender, we wanted to give you an update. Many organisations across the country have been facing complex decisions about what it means for girls and women and for the wider communities affected, including us.

Girlguiding’s governing charity documents set out that the membership and people who benefit from our organisation are girls and women. In April, the Supreme Court ruled that girls and women are defined in the Equality Act 2010 by their biological sex at birth.
Following detailed considerations, expert legal advice and input from senior members, young members and our Council, Girlguiding’s Board of Trustees has made the difficult decision that Girlguiding must change Girlguiding must change, following the Supreme Court’s ruling.

From today, 2 December, it is with a heavy heart that we are announcing trans girls and young women will no longer be able to join Girlguiding. This is a decision we would have preferred not to make, and we know that this may be upsetting for members of our community.

There will be no immediate changes for current young members but more information will be shared next week.

Most adult roles, including unit helpers, district helpers and administrative support, are already open to all, so we are confident that no volunteers will have to leave the organisation.

Girlguiding believes strongly in our value of inclusion, and we will continue to support young people and adults in marginalised groups. Over the next few months, we'll explore opportunities to champion this value and actively support young people who need us.

You can find our full statement and updated policy on our website.

We are proud to be the UK’s largest youth organisation dedicated to girls and is focused on creating an equal world for girls and young women. For over 100 years, we have been a welcoming space for all girls to have new experiences, support their communities, build friendships and grow their confidence.

While Girlguiding may feel a little different going forward, these core aims and principles will always be the same. We remain committed to treating everyone with dignity and respect, particularly those from marginalised groups that have felt the biggest impact of this decision.

If you have any immediate questions, we have our special support team in place, to give volunteers, parents and carers the best support we can. We are asking Girlguiding HQ, trading and country/region staff to refer any volunteer or parent who has questions about this announcement. Details below.

Contact [email protected] or 020 7532 3970
All calls/emails will be confidential, and the service will be open 24hrs, 7 days a week.
Find out more, including how this team will handle personal data.

Denise Wilson (Chair of Trustees), Felicity Oswald (CEO) and Tracy Foster (Chief Guide)

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CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:17

Fingers crossed we can make Scouts boys only now too. Both genders need their single sex spaces especially as children.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 02/12/2025 23:18

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:17

Fingers crossed we can make Scouts boys only now too. Both genders need their single sex spaces especially as children.

Scouts just for boys isn't popular though.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 02/12/2025 23:19

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 23:15

She has been my "daughter" now for longer than she was my "son". If she hits puberty and feels very different and realises she's a boy after all, then great I'll support that too. Because guess what - our identities aren't fixed. I love my child and want her to be supported in who she IS not feel othered for who she isn't. 40% of trans adults have attempted suicide at least once - hopefully, by supporting my child, she won't become a statistic. Feels very strange - and quite hurtful - to have you deliberately misidentify her. As for single sex spaces, I think Brownies and guides could do well for being kinder and more inclusive, that's all.

How old is your child, and at what age did you start using female pronouns etc if you don't mind me asking?

Namelessnelly · 02/12/2025 23:19

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 23:15

She has been my "daughter" now for longer than she was my "son". If she hits puberty and feels very different and realises she's a boy after all, then great I'll support that too. Because guess what - our identities aren't fixed. I love my child and want her to be supported in who she IS not feel othered for who she isn't. 40% of trans adults have attempted suicide at least once - hopefully, by supporting my child, she won't become a statistic. Feels very strange - and quite hurtful - to have you deliberately misidentify her. As for single sex spaces, I think Brownies and guides could do well for being kinder and more inclusive, that's all.

Why? Why should girls give up their single sex space to make your son feel better because you lied to him and told him he could be a girl if he wanted to? Thought you were a feminist. Don’t those girls count? Why should the fact you lied to your son mean they don’t get female only spaces? It’s on you. You did this to your don, now you have to deal with the consequences.

Arran2024 · 02/12/2025 23:19

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 22:46

I will - and I do. But there's no equivalent to Brownies that is mixed sex. Anyway, she took her Brownie promise in good faith, I feel it's now the organisation that is letting her down. I'm a feminist. I'm also pro-trans. It is very possible to be both. We didn't ask for a trans kid, she happened to us. Trans people have always been here, we all need to make room for minorities (approx 1% of population) where we can.

Trans people certainly weren't joining the Brownies when I was a member back in the day. In fact, nobody considered for a moment that a parent would enroll their son in the Brownies. He would have been shown the door if they had tried. What did all the trans kids and their parents do back then?

lifeturnsonadime · 02/12/2025 23:19

Good, I'm pretty sickened by the social media posts by Girl Guiding UK though. They've really let girls down by making it a mixed sex organisation through the back door whilst claiming it was only for girls.

I am also sorry for the male children who have been lied to by everyone, most of all their parents.

The complete disregard for the fact that female children should have spaces free from males will never fail to astound me.

CautiousLurker2 · 02/12/2025 23:20

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:17

Fingers crossed we can make Scouts boys only now too. Both genders need their single sex spaces especially as children.

No need because a) the scouts voluntarily elected to become a mixed sex organisation and b) there are several boys-only organisations to accommodate them (see Boys Brigade mentioned above).

Worry not!

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:21

Did anyone ask the boys, or was a boys institution just made thoughtlessly co-ed? I'm minded to think of the men in sheds thing where they realised men's mental health warranted a different approach so a single sex space was a good idea then in one town the wives decided they wanted to come. Just ill-thought and selfish.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 02/12/2025 23:22

RareGoalsVerge · 02/12/2025 23:13

I was a bit of a crap guide but the thing I most remember was that the single sex space gave us the freedom to not be feminine. We could be rough and tumble and coarse and sweary (singing campfire songs like Nobby All and A Soldier I Must Be and other sweary songs) and learn to whittle wood into useful things (I still have scars on my fingers from inexpert use of a penknife on guidecamp). It was very much not a feminine space because it was single-sex. Turning it into a tool for validating the feminine gender identity of a male person would destroy that.

I think this is a really good point and deserves highlighting.

Bloozie · 02/12/2025 23:22

Girls can join Beavers, Cubs and Scouts. Duke of Edinburgh is Co-Ed. There are no safeguarding issues within any of that.

On lots of levels, this decision is regressive and somewhat bewildering.

Zov · 02/12/2025 23:23

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! Finally!

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 23:23

The biology ideology is scary. No, the other girls are not "validation resources". They are her friends.

Autumngirl5 · 02/12/2025 23:23

Good news and good old fashioned common sense for once.

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:23

I have never in all my days, and there's been a lot, seen a Boys Brigade in the UK

Ihatetomatoes · 02/12/2025 23:23

CohensDiamondTeeth · 02/12/2025 22:08

You didn't answer my question, do you think that trans identifying people actually and literally change sex? Or is it a "polite" fiction you go along with to "be kind"?

I think you could do a lot worse than listen to some of the feminists who have been talking on this thread about the necessity of maintaining single sex spaces, in this case for young girls, because they make many excellent points.

One last big heaped plate of food for thought before you go. You know nice trans identifying males, many of us also know nice trans identifying males. That's all good and well. In reality even the nice trans identifying males are still male. They don't actually become women.

If we go along with a "polite" fiction like you, treating them as women in all areas, as I and others have said this leads to a number of things:

  1. Firstly it's not at all kind to position women and girls as emotional support Non Player Characters (NPCs) as emotional support animals for men and boys. Women and girls feelings matter too, and lots of us aren't happy about including men and boys in previously female only places or groups.

  2. It changes any previously female single sex whatever to mixed sex, so no female sport, health care, rape crisis centres, refuges, prisons, groups, awards, sponsorships, scholarships, schools, hospital wards... and so on and so on.
    2a) As an aside, did you know that a lot of those things previously single sex for males are still actually single sex? So still single sex for males - male sports (because what woman has a hope to win against top male athletes? Especially when they have gone through hormone "therapy" and surgeries which take a massive toll on their female bodies), prisons, and primogeniture laws which don't allow female children to inherit peerage and still only benefit male children. There's probably more that I'm forgetting right at this moment.

  3. Lots of girls and women will self exclude from things if men and boys are included, for a variety of reasons, none of which are bigoted. ND, conservative religions, previous sexual abuse, privacy and dignity etc. This is not conducive to inclusion of, or supportive of the really vulnerable women and girls out there.

  4. Speaking of schools, are you aware that there is an alarming amount of sexual assault and rape that happens in schools, as in peer on peer, male on female sexual violence? I'm sure you can see the immediate increased risk to girls that mixed sex toilets brought. Girls self excluded from toilets too because of this, holding it until they could get home and not drinking as much as they should. This is a further risk to their bodily health, UTI's and kidney infections result.
    Review of sexual abuse in schools and colleges - GOV.UK

  5. As well as increased risk of physical or sexual assault, hidden cameras, voyeuristic crimes and exposure are all increased risks too.

  6. Finally, if you let the nice trans identified males we all know and like/love into female single sex spaces, you have to also let in the not nice ones. It's not like the bad ones wander around with signs around their necks, so we can't tell the good from the bad until something unthinkable has happened. It's safer for women and girls if we just stick with the safeguarding we have now and keep all the men out, even the nice ones.

Google Isla Bryson, Karen White, and Barbie Kardashian if you want to see how this "be kind to the transwomen, I know some really nice ones!" thin end of the wedge kind of thinking goes at the other end. They and all the other men who would be a threat to women and girls are the ones you invite in when you handwave female single sex spaces to "be kind".

I could go on, I've gotten caught up in my thoughts so have surely missed many points I could have made, but I think you get the point.

I really do hope you chew over all this food for thought stuff. It's ok to realise that actually we might have a point. You can still support the trans identified people in your life, and they can still participate in all areas of life, without running roughshod over women and girl's rights and single sex spaces.

This. 100 💯

WearyAuldWumman · 02/12/2025 23:24

CohensDiamondTeeth · 02/12/2025 23:22

I think this is a really good point and deserves highlighting.

Yes - I remember as a Guide we'd bellow out "The Quartermaster's Store".

CohensDiamondTeeth · 02/12/2025 23:24

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:21

Did anyone ask the boys, or was a boys institution just made thoughtlessly co-ed? I'm minded to think of the men in sheds thing where they realised men's mental health warranted a different approach so a single sex space was a good idea then in one town the wives decided they wanted to come. Just ill-thought and selfish.

You know, you've got a really good point! You should totally take that up with the Scouts!

Namelessnelly · 02/12/2025 23:24

Bloozie · 02/12/2025 23:22

Girls can join Beavers, Cubs and Scouts. Duke of Edinburgh is Co-Ed. There are no safeguarding issues within any of that.

On lots of levels, this decision is regressive and somewhat bewildering.

Why? Why are girls not allowed a single sex space? You’ve even listed co ed organisations boys can join if they want, so why can’t girls have a space just for them?

ThatBlackCat · 02/12/2025 23:24

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 23:15

She has been my "daughter" now for longer than she was my "son". If she hits puberty and feels very different and realises she's a boy after all, then great I'll support that too. Because guess what - our identities aren't fixed. I love my child and want her to be supported in who she IS not feel othered for who she isn't. 40% of trans adults have attempted suicide at least once - hopefully, by supporting my child, she won't become a statistic. Feels very strange - and quite hurtful - to have you deliberately misidentify her. As for single sex spaces, I think Brownies and guides could do well for being kinder and more inclusive, that's all.

No, he had no choice. It was your decision. Using the suicide as a tactic to manipulate and control is an abuser's tactic. Therapists always advise to never give in to it. Also, trans have low rates of suicide, even trans lawyers have admitted this, so the suicide lie is just a line to manipulate and control people.

I think males need to 'Be Kind' and more 'inclusive' to males. I am sick and tired of females being asked to 'Be Kind' and 'inclusive' to females. It only ever goes one way. We've had enough and we're angry, and we so no more. How about we start being kind to females instead? Just for a change? And realise not everything is supposed to be, has to be or should be 'inclusive'. That word 'inclusive' now almost always means erasing womens rights. The word never means anything good for women. It makes me shudder every time I see and hear it. It really is a buzzword for male supremacy.

SternJoyousBeev2 · 02/12/2025 23:25

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 23:15

She has been my "daughter" now for longer than she was my "son". If she hits puberty and feels very different and realises she's a boy after all, then great I'll support that too. Because guess what - our identities aren't fixed. I love my child and want her to be supported in who she IS not feel othered for who she isn't. 40% of trans adults have attempted suicide at least once - hopefully, by supporting my child, she won't become a statistic. Feels very strange - and quite hurtful - to have you deliberately misidentify her. As for single sex spaces, I think Brownies and guides could do well for being kinder and more inclusive, that's all.

What is kind about gaslighting hundreds of thousands of girls?

Using threats of suicide is abusive and the stars don’t support your theory about reduction in ideation following medical transition.

Catiette · 02/12/2025 23:25

SolidMam · 02/12/2025 22:36

My daughter is heartbroken. It's the first time she has felt that real discrimination for who she is. She is a proud trans girl - but also just wants to fit in. More than anything, she just loves going to brownies with her friends, her sister and her mum - who up to now has volunteered to help out in sessions. We felt confident enlisting her because of the Trans Inclusive Policy. A light has gone out in my child today. For an organisation based on spreading kindness, this decision feels very far from "kind".

And, as I can't in good conscience not add this, and wasn't quick enough in my previous edit: if your post isn't making a rhetorical point and you really do have a trans child of Brownie age or so, please, please do your reading on the counter-arguments questioning what I'd call this ideology, and particularly on critiques of social transitioning, de-transitioning rates and the impacts of all forms of medical intervention.

TheKeatingFive · 02/12/2025 23:25

Bloozie · 02/12/2025 23:22

Girls can join Beavers, Cubs and Scouts. Duke of Edinburgh is Co-Ed. There are no safeguarding issues within any of that.

On lots of levels, this decision is regressive and somewhat bewildering.

I'm not sure why you're so bewildered.

Either the organisation is single sex or it isn't. Guides have opted to be single sex, therefore there should be no provision for boys on the grounds of their 'gender identity'.

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:25

Boys Brigade is co-ed in the UK!

WearyAuldWumman · 02/12/2025 23:26

CakeArse · 02/12/2025 23:23

I have never in all my days, and there's been a lot, seen a Boys Brigade in the UK

Maybe there are more up in Scotland: they're usually loosely attached to churches and make use of the hall facilities there.

A lot of the Armistice Day parades round my way included both cadets and the Boys' Brigade. Come to think of it, I didn't see many Scouts or Guides in the pics. (I used to attend, both as a Brownie and as a Guide.)

IwouldlikeanewTV · 02/12/2025 23:27

Scouts chose to be mixed sex otherwise they were going to close due to lack of interest and more importantly lack of leaders. It was the right decision at the time. Might be different now - if enough boys ask they may do a vote. At my son’s scouts group it was run by all women - so let’s be grateful for it being mixed sex otherwise my son would not have been able to attend. Perhaps more men need to step up and volunteer.

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