to think getting up as a guest at 5.30am is too antisocial?

[LoisLaneKent]

Once or twice a year, I host a friend for up to a week because she is travelling from a distance.

The last two times she has stayed with me, she has left on a Saturday morning at the crack of dawn. The first time it was to catch a flight but the recently it was just to meet friends in another city and screwed up my sleeping pattern that weekend (with earplugs!).

Am I AIBU to ask her to change her leaving plans in future or should I suck it up and I'm being a moany host!

Get a grip, how absolutely pathetic to whinge about once or twice a year. Are you that rigid that you can’t survive one or two nights of waking up early ?

She has only been with you on two previous occasions and to date I can't see that there is anything unreasonable with her behaviour. If they are staying for a week maybe they will not need to be getting up so early. If they do want to get up and go out earlier then they can let themselves out. If this is all going to bother you too or you think they are using you then don't accommodate them at all.

It wouldn’t have bothered me at all.

May exhibit ask her next time, that if she's making plans to leave before a certain time, could she make arrangements to stay at another friends as you're exhausted and need a lie in on the weekend, really if meeting friends that early should stay with one of said friends the night before

Op has suffered a recent bereavement, maybe be a bit kinder?

It's a little bit rude to leave at that time in the morning at the weekend when rest and extra sleep is precious. Could you ask them to travel (into the city or to the airport) in the evening before? If you are hosting them for a week that seems a reasonable request in return for your hospitality

As an early riser (3-4 am), I don't like staying with other people or in hotels because everything is so out of sync with how I live my life. But, it can't always be avoided if I want to spend time with my far away friends. So, I sometimes need to adapt. I don't always like it and I wouldn't do it for all my friends - it needs to be worth the disruption. I guess you need to think about how important seeing your friend is v.s a night of disrupted sleep. I hope you find a way to respect and honour your peace, whilst maintaining your friendship

You clearly don’t have children. Suck it up princess. Literally only once or twice a year. It’s a friend. I bet she’d do the same for you.

if it is only a couple of times a year and she is trying to max her time i would ignore it

It wouldn’t bother me and as an early riser I would hate to feel that I was expected to lounge around in bed for hours just because my host was. I never lie in beyond about 8am: it feels like a waste to me. I wouldn’t stay with someone who tried to foist this on me.

If she’s crashing around making loads of unnecessary noise you could say something but I don’t think you can expect her to sync her body clock to yours.

She is not a mind reader.