My husband just hit me in front of our 2 year old daughter

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My husband just hit me in front of my 2 year old daughter.

I’m terrified for my daughter that she had to witness this …

Call the police they will track him down and also make sure he don’t return tonight so u will feel safe keep calling the peoples phones your trying to reach surely they will eventually pick up police will make sure he don’t return tonight for sure been here my self
your daughter is so young don’t let her grow up seeing this as it wiill
progress and get worse I can garuntee that get out

So she is meant to just sit there and take that vileness lol

This was me. Never take him back whatever he says or does, it’s done. I stupidly fell for the bs again and fell pregnant for a second time and he did the same again. They never change, they just get more abusive.

No. She is meant to get herself and her daughter to a place of safety, not escalate by assaulting him.

Verbal abuse is utterly disgraceful - but it is not a physical assault which in this case, was quite the escalation.

I don't expect her to tolerate verbal abuse. I don't expect him to tolerate having his face spat on. Nor do I expect any parent to perpetrate any abuse and put their child at risk - both have done exactly that.

The problem is - neither party are doing the right thing for their daughter, and both of them are perpetrating abuse instead. When you're a parent, there becomes a point you have to behave like one, and in this case, the pair of them need to do the right thing here.

Why won't both take some personal responsibility as both are perpetrators? If I have my daughter with me and I'm on the receiving end of verbal abuse by ANYONE, the last thing I'm doing is spitting in their face for fucks sake. Ridiculous, on all counts in this situation. Utterly gross behaviour by both parents whom, let's be reminded, are supposed to be setting an example for their daughter.

Or is that the example? - That we verbally abuse people? Or that when we don't like what someone says to us, we spit in their face? Or if someone spits our face, we return the favour and add in hitting for extra measure? There is no defending any of this. At all.

OP have you called the police? Are you safe now?

Call the police to log as evidence. From the UK or not, you’re here now and we do not accept abuse. Logging this is a good way and having crime references etc. you can be cared for a looked after you and your daughter. I’m assuming your daughter is a British and born here now? Even call 999 they can help support you. Get your sister with you. Don’t let him control you, get away from him. You need to get out for your daughter.

Tbh now u said all that yeah I get that I do I just get defensive as been here my self

Also don’t fall for the I won’t do it again etc cos he will say that. Once u let him back it will escalate do u want ur daughter to grow thinking its ok for men to do this think that threw

This woman has dealt with two years of emotional abuse which has turned physical, I don't think now is the time to chide her.

OP, it was always going to end up in his being violent because he wants to hurt you. It doesn't get better and there's no right thing for you to do that will fix how he is. Please call the police and do not forgive him.

I agree . They’ve both assaulted each other . Op do you work? Whose name is the house/ flat in? You can kick him out all you want but if he’s paying the bills you need to think hard and fast over what to do. Report everything to the police and then seek guidance on next steps.

Who the hell put that YRBU?? Even if you don't have 'money' , you & your child's safety is more important. Call local police wherever you are, look up women's protection organizations, get away from him, get to an embassy if not in UK, terrified for you, not just your child. He sound like a misogynist psycho.
Maybe Red Cross /Salvation Army or similar / hospital ? if not in UK? Where are you? Walk away, even with just what you can carry, + water & baby food, & never go back. Or, maybe contact his parents, as this is their grandchild?? Please update xx
You just posted this just 2 hours ago - you have access to internet?? Good luck, don't be afraid, this is the first step.

Retired police officer here.
OP, you must phone the police NOW. Tell them what happened and tell them you are scared he will come back. They will be able to put you in touch with agencies to help you. But please do this now.

If you call the police, they can stop your husband coming into immediate contact with you. They advise your best steps. It's important to contact them for your own safety and your child's.

Also, check if you get legal aid so you can put an emergency order in place for longer term protection.

He bloody hit her, previously verbally abused her for having a child, also in front of a small child......this obviously isn't the first time, but hopefully the last time. Unhealthy relationship yes, & vile actions from both - but - I agree, actual physical abuse......what would you do? Let him hit her because maybe he pays the bills?? Come on.....

Giving this a bump just in case it was missed. Ignore some posters who are not realising this is in the moment ask for help. Please follow advice above.

Police - please call them. They can do loads.

Women's Aid... They're fab and are the experts.

Get all your allies around you today... Either in person or on phone... Let them know what's happening.

Please don't let this man around your child... Or make your child motherless..

Tragically it happens.

Call womens aid... If he's done this once he s too dangerous to be around.

What’s your situation financially? Are you renting are you both on the deed? How long have you been married and most importantly does baby have a passport can you go home to your family?

This is not mutual abuse ffs

He is a man in his own country while she is a vulnerable woman in foreign country with a baby.

Ridiculous statement

I hope you both got to a place of safety and SHAME on the trolls who voted that this was reasonable!

Please phone the police, I’ve been in your situation, I phoned the police, they arrested ex h and he was put on bail for 3 months, with a target on the house. The NCDV line will help you get a non molestation order. Find a refuge in your area and seek help from women’s aid. You and your deserve so much better. I can kind of understand why you lashed out also, after so many years of abuse your emotions build and you fight back. Be strong, do this for your little girl xxx

Call the police. This is assault. If someone grabbed or hit you in the street the police would be called.

At the very least they can help you take a restraining order against him and escort him from the house if he chooses to come back .

Remember UK divorce law means that the starting point for divorce is 50/50 of what ever you own and things like “his house” can be considered marital property and with a child to house and the assault then your percentage will reflect this accordingly. Also with the assault you can ask for supervised visitation as he cannot be trusted to manage his temper around her especially as he spit in her face and he got you whilst you were holding him.

It's wrong all around, but I think OP said she spat at him first when he was shouting at her, so I don't know if she should mention that, as you said it's assault.

it's good he's gone now OP. Don't give him any more chances, get help from your sister and whatever organisations you can find (there will be help ❤) to start a new, peaceful life.

The police will be able to keep him away from you and your daughter, for a start. Even if it's his house.