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Needanadvice · 2025-11-22T00:15:34+00:00

My husband just hit me in front of my 2 year old daughter. I’m terrified for my daughter that she had to witness this …

Genevieva · 22/11/2025 00:49

Needanadvice · 22/11/2025 00:43

What can the police do ?
I was calling the national abuse line - no answer. I have tried to reach them so many times - never available. It looks so scary, where am I going to go in a foreign country with a 2 year old?

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Can you go home? I think you’d have a much clearer head if you have your family around you to support you and your daughter.

StephensLass1977 · 22/11/2025 00:51

Why won't you say which country you live in? Impossible to advise.

MissyPants · 22/11/2025 00:51

OP what's the update?
were here for you
Hope you and your daughter are ok and safe

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Needanadvice · 22/11/2025 00:53

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 00:49

Can you tell us which country you're in.

I’m in the UK, England but I’m myself a foreigner I got the settled status through marriage

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Needanadvice · 22/11/2025 00:54

I just put her to sleep but she was shaking 😞 as he spat towards her as well as he was spitting me. She got so scared

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Fends · 22/11/2025 00:57

Ok, then ring the police before he comes back

Crambino · 22/11/2025 00:57

Do you have a family member or friend in the UK you can call and go and stay with?

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Needanadvice · 22/11/2025 00:59

Crambino · 22/11/2025 00:57

Do you have a family member or friend in the UK you can call and go and stay with?

I do - I’m lucky my sister is flying over tomorrow evening but obviously she was about to stay here with us.
Everyone that I’m trying to reach is sleeping, phones are on silent or off

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99bottlesofkombucha · 22/11/2025 01:00

He’s committed assault op, this is a police matter as well as abuse, please please please call the police.

is there a place for you in your home country? You do need the domestic violence services as you’d need to take your daughter of course.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/11/2025 01:02

You must ring the police.
You're in danger and so is your baby.

KimuraTan · 22/11/2025 01:02

Don’t admit to the spitting. Nothing can be proven. Report being hit and make sure he can’t get back in. Get to a safe place if you can.

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 22/11/2025 01:03

Please call the police, deadlock the doors and make sure your baby is safe

user1492757084 · 22/11/2025 01:05

Face reality. Neither of you like each other any more.
Spitting, name calling, and now hitting and chiding.. terrible.
You need to negotiate an immediate separation.
Call the Police in fear of your safety. Take out an intervention order and in the morning have the locks changed.

Your husband needs to never set foot in your home again.
Pack his stuff up. Call all assistance lines suggested.

Adventuresof3 · 22/11/2025 01:06

Please call the police, I can imagine you are very shaken, but he could come back at any time.
They will be able to support you and signpost you to relevant agencies who can help to keep you and your daughter safe

Apol1710 · 22/11/2025 01:12

Are you ok and are you safe? Even if this isn’t the first time this has happened it will likely happen again. Are there any other signs of abuse that are invisible like coercive control, mental abuse etc? I have experienced a relationship with a narcissist and it’s the worst… they are evil. If you feel you are in a narcissistic, coercive relation and being controlled you should look into escaping with your child. I hope you are both ok.

Holycowhowmuch · 22/11/2025 01:13

FetchezLaVache · 22/11/2025 00:16

Call the police. Do you have family who could come and collect you and DD?

Please do this x

Jeschara · 22/11/2025 01:14

Call the Police, he is dangerous, your daughter is shaking, she need protection, you also just stated he spat at her as well.
Please do the right thing. There is a child involved to.

JinglingtoChristmas · 22/11/2025 01:15

Call 999 and ask for the police. They will help. You need to seek help to keep your daughter safe.

Lavender14 · 22/11/2025 01:16

Absolutely call the police op. This is important on lots of levels

it means if this escalate and he gets scarier then you've already made them aware and they will be more prompt to deal with it.

it means there is a verified recording of the incident should you need to fight him going for full custody of your child
it can be used to help you get points for housing
the police can red flag your address for faster call out.
they can use this as evidence to help you get a non molestation order out to protect you from him.

It's very important op that you do this as soon as possible. You owe him nothing, his behaviour is unacceptable and you didn't do anything to deserve this. Do not protect him. Protect your dd from him.

Apol1710 · 22/11/2025 01:18

Needanadvice · 22/11/2025 00:19

My family don’t live in the UK sadly, he just packed a small bag and he drove off.

I’m so worried about my little one :(

Do not let him back in. You should report this to the police and end the relationship, hard when you are in it but I feel like this is the beginning of something terrible for you. It’s so hard but you need to take the first step to safety for you and your baby. We are here for you.

Lavender14 · 22/11/2025 01:18

Also op if he spat at your dd and he's abused you in front of her then he has directly abused her. Spitting on someone is a form of assault. He's assaulted her by doing that. Please ring social services gateway so they can support you to protect her from him as well. If you are the one to step up and ask for help they will look at that as you doing all the right things to protect her. If they find out second hand from her school or neighbours etc then it will look like you hid it to protect him at her expense.

99bottlesofkombucha · 22/11/2025 01:25

Lavender14 · 22/11/2025 01:18

Also op if he spat at your dd and he's abused you in front of her then he has directly abused her. Spitting on someone is a form of assault. He's assaulted her by doing that. Please ring social services gateway so they can support you to protect her from him as well. If you are the one to step up and ask for help they will look at that as you doing all the right things to protect her. If they find out second hand from her school or neighbours etc then it will look like you hid it to protect him at her expense.

Yes you must let the police know he spat on your child and hit you while you were holding the child and the child was terrified. He’s abused his child.

Missy0901 · 22/11/2025 01:26

Is this the first time how did it all start just out the blue hit you ?

PersephonePomegranate · 22/11/2025 01:30

You spat at him?!

I understand that he has been verbally and emotonally abusive, but is that not assault? It's absolutely disgusting.

You need to end this.

Apol1710 · 22/11/2025 01:35

Lavender14 · 22/11/2025 01:18

Also op if he spat at your dd and he's abused you in front of her then he has directly abused her. Spitting on someone is a form of assault. He's assaulted her by doing that. Please ring social services gateway so they can support you to protect her from him as well. If you are the one to step up and ask for help they will look at that as you doing all the right things to protect her. If they find out second hand from her school or neighbours etc then it will look like you hid it to protect him at her expense.

True… but this could be mental abuse where the woman is confused and he is coercing her so she doesn’t know what to do for the best. This happens a lot, however yes she should report this and escape immediately… there could be financial control and she feels scared and no options. We dont know the facts… OP you need to report him to the police and take the correct steps to escape for you and your daughter.