Inappropriate message in DP’s leaving card?

[Helenavets]

DP had his final day in his job yesterday and got a lot of gifts and presents.

His card has been signed by all his colleagues, I noticed one message signed off by a female says ‘I will miss you my favourite DILFY colleague xxxx”

I asked who this was and she’s a single woman a similar age to him.

Am I reading a bit too much into this?

Nothing more than banter probably.

What does it mean?

I wouldn’t take this in isolation, I would look at it in context. Have you had any reason to be suspicious of anything he has done recently? Any reason to suspect he has feelings for a colleague?

If not it’s probably nothing to worry about: its likely just banter. If its part of a pattern you might want to investigate further.

In and of itself its likely nothing.

Dad Id like to f**k

Probably just banter unless he’s mentioned her in the past?

It's inappropriate imo.

I don't know what you are reading into it when it's a fairly direct comment! She thinks he's attractive. What that means for your DP and your relationship depends on things you haven't mentioned in your OP. If it was my DP, I would be laughing at the front of this woman, and my DP would likely be a bit embarrassed about the comment. But I would not have any other worries about it at all, given my DP and our relationship.

Ewwwww who writes that knowing other colleagues will see?! If a colleague of mine wrote that I would never respect them again. DILFY, threee kisses, just cringe.

I’d be keeping an eye out but I can’t believe an ‘other woman’ would be that obvious tbh. Maybe just a crush.

Cringe. She’s wanting him to keep in touch

Yes, it’s inappropriate, but might be an in house joke.

That doesn’t fit- what’s the y for?

I think it's inappropriate knowing that he has a wife and would probably see it.

Of course it's inappropriate. Why would you write that in someone's card knowing that their partner would read it? Urgh.

Unless she was the last person to write in the card, then everyone else saw the comment!! Eek!! How embarrassing!! It may have been meant as a joke but a comment written in a card, has no context - it's simply words, that can be taken in many different ways. Do you trust your husband? Is there any reason for you to suspect he's interested or been having an affair? If not, I'd take it as a joke, and not dwell on it any longer.

-y so it’s an adjective. Like if she’d written ‘my favourite hotty/fitty/sexy colleague’.

Yanbu in my opinion OP, that’s weird and gross. TBH, if I wrote something like that in a leaving card my colleagues would think I was insane and my manager might have a word with me about conduct in the workplace.

The fact DH isn’t concerned would piss me off too. I bet he wouldn’t be the same if the roles were reversed.

The fact that she wrote it in the card means that they all know she wants him.

Absolutely wouldn't worry. Do you really think if he was having an affair she would write that. 😂

I’m not sure that’s for real, no one writes that in a card for everyone to see if they mean it. No one. Not in a work setting. I assume she’s taking the piss and your husband is no oil painting, just a nice guy.

Colleagues say all sorts of things to each other and discuss all sorts that don't travel well to personal lives. Which is why its just as well the two dont usually collide.
People also use the -ILF thing in a non literal way to mean someone who's looking good despite not being in the first flush of youth. I know women who call themselves Milfs to mean 'not past it'.
If you're not suspicious of your H I'd ignore it.

What utter bollocks.

Ask him what he thinks Dilfy means and why she said it. His reaction should give you some clarity

So inappropriate and id be digging more with your dh.
Even my male colleague i sit next to, who i get on with really really well wouldn't get more than a "best of luck, will miss our chats, Helen x"

Yes inappropriate

Just some workplace banter I wouldn’t really be worried about.

It’s a variation of MILF/DILF and doesn’t mean the same at all - it means someone at work who’s the ‘team dad’ or father figure. So usually older, wiser and takes the young ‘uns under their wing.

Not inappropriate at all if you know the meaning. It’s not the same as DILF/MILF I promise!