To think life is better in a loving relationship

[AskTheFlowers]

I know there are lots of threads recently about how great being single is and there is a massive push for women to stay single and how much “better” it is. But for me I just don’t agree, life will always be better in a loving relationship with someone that cares about you. (Not abusive relationships) aibu to think life will always be better with a loving partner than single?

Well, you do you, but some people don’t want or need it.

It depends on what people want.

A loving relationship with someone who is honest, trustworthy, and kind is wonderful for the whole time that the rose tint of a new relationship lasts.

Here we go 🥱

My life is happier in a good relationship.

I don't think that romantic relationships are the best all and end all.

If you have enough amazing relationships with friends and family, you don't need a romance.

Well makes a change from all the “life is so much better single” threads

There's no massive push for women to be single.

Not a nice change though.

I have been happy single and happy in a relationship. I've been unhappy single and unhappy in a relationship. My happiest is now, in the relationship I am now in. But that's me.

Well tbf I only see the push on mumsnet.

Not the same at all.

Obviously life is nice when nice people are around, But even nice people aren’t nice all the time. And being single is great.

Nothing is 'better' - it's personal preference. There are tons of reasons why people may prefer to be single that are nothing to do with 'a massive push' for it.

Your life might be. Not true for a lot of people.

No one is pushing anyone to be single. Having conversations about something on a social forum is not social pressure. Anyone who would end their relationship because of a post they saw on Mumsnet about how great being single is was not in a happy loving relationship to begin with.

Well being single isnt great all the time either 🤷🏻‍♀️

You do you and let them do them

I wish there was more of a push for women to be single

I’m still told in my 50’s don’t worry you will meet someone when you least expect it. It’s fucking tiresome

many of us are happy and content being single

What’s your situation, OP??

No not for me. I enjoy my own company and the peace and freedom of being single, there's no downsides to me. I don't want another person in my space day in day out, it's stifling and takes up more mental headspace. Even with genuinely nice men I still prefer to be alone.

Spend more time on mumsnet. They think all men are evil and being single for life is the ultimate goal

I think more women need to know its better to be single than in a relationship that makes them miserable.

Some of the threads I read on here how some women are living leave me speechless.

I think that for most people, being in a strong pair bond with another person is a pretty good way to live, being a team, sharing finances, risk, stress-relief of having someone else around, shared parenting. A similar effect could be achieved with shared parenting with women sharing that burden equally to some extent.

Unfortunately, back in the real world, the way men are socialised means that there aren't as many of these loving great sharing men around and so being single is definitely preferable to those situations for most women.

Also, singledom is more attractive as we age as we have less desire to compromise the way we live. Some people find their libidos drop, others don't.

I prefer being with someone for sure and that's what I choose, but I'm not mystified that anyone chooses differently.

I think it’s much nicer if you have a supportive helpful partner who is good company. It certainly makes life easier.

The biggest mistake I made was moving in with my ex, we were incredibly happy up til that point but I just really didn't like there being someone around 24/7! (not always him, just never alone in general) So I certainly don't think we are all happier with the same things. I'm my happiest single for now, definitely. I could not imagine being happier (well, if my job was better paid maybe!). I have a primary aged DC though, maybe when he's older and I end up with more time to myself I might think differently.
At the moment, once he's in bed I've never wished there was someone else here.