To think life is better in a loving relationship

[AskTheFlowers]

I know there are lots of threads recently about how great being single is and there is a massive push for women to stay single and how much “better” it is. But for me I just don’t agree, life will always be better in a loving relationship with someone that cares about you. (Not abusive relationships) aibu to think life will always be better with a loving partner than single?

Aibu to think life will always be better with a loving partner than single?

Not if the partner is : -
Cloying
Needy
Demanding
Smelly
Hannibal Lecter
A middle lane hogger
Unable to divide chores equally
Pretending to be an airline pilot but actually works in Tie Rack
Married to someone else and lives half the week in Chester
Elon Musk

You're not doing it right.

And you have appeared like some weird missionary to convert them to your creed of pair-bonding?

I don't think there's a massive push for women to be single, I do think there's a push against the narrative that women should aim to be in a relationship with a man as if that's a goal... women shouldn't be socialised to accept this anymore which is slowly happening and is great for us.

Women should be centering themselves over men, if that's what you are seeing then good!

Yes but not everyone gets that. And if their marriage fails sometimes they just don't want to risk another awful situation and so being single is preferable. You can't just walk into Waitrose and select a loving relationship to check out at the self service tills.

I agree, I have good friends, hobbies, career, pets etc but my marriage and children are both great sources of joy in my life and I’m very grateful to have them. On the other hand I’m well aware that many people may well be just as content and fulfilled being single and I’m happy for them too.

The sooner that men realise that we only want them for their ability to reach things off high shelves and get the Christmas Tree out of the loft the better.

The fact that you have to actively turn off the voting says it all 😉 also , purple is the best because it's my favourite colour 💜.

Didn’t turn off voting?? I’m on the app

Almost everyone would prefer to be loved by a kind, reliable, interesting, attractive person than to be single.

The issue is that there are not enough of those people to go around :)

Not according to the posters on here they’d rather be alone. I don’t believe them.

To you it might not be but to
others it might be. Everyone is different and that’s ok.

Each to their own . I much prefer being on my own

I don’t see this at all! Being happy is the ultimate goal, whether that be in a good relationship or alone.

You’re protesting too much!

People don't make being single their 'goal' in life, that's their default state, and to depart from it, they have to find someone and partner up with them. It's not a goal to be single, it just is what you are if you don't have a partner.

How do you know the posters on here are alone? I'm not, I've been married nearly 40 years, but I have friends who are single (some widowed) who could well be in relationships if they chose but who choose to stay single because they are happiest that way and leading their best lives.

It is possible to be sufficient unto yourself.

It is possible to be in a relationship but understand that other people are happy not to be.

Are you in a relationship OP?
Are you a woman?

Do I need to show you my medical records to prove to you that I had a procedure 😳 to convince you that I opted to be child free, rather than I just couldn't find anyone to impregnate me ? Sorry for being so crude , but you aren't being serious so why should I be?
You don't believe us 🤭 hilarious.

No. For some of us, though, it's preferable. I don't want a man in my space. Or around for any length of time, really.

Not for me. I am happily single and have been most of my life. I just don’t enjoy relationships at all.
Happiness for me is my family and my animals.
Life in a relationship is hellish to me.

aibu to think life will always be better with a loving partner than single?
of course YABU, some people are happier single.

However, many of the arguments in favour of being single are based on a shit relationship:
no freedom (?) , silly things like being able to eat what you want, watch the tv you want (?) being in a relationship has never stopped any of that, how controlling were their partner!, not being able to see friends

Not being single means I get to share stuff, am just as free to do anything I want, but have someone who supports me, and offers to grab wine and chocolate on the way home.

I certainly don't think all men are evil, and have been known to defend them on MN. That doesn't stop me being extremely happy being single and a relationship is the last thing I want.

Being single and being alone are not the same thing.

Each to their own, different strokes & all that 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Personally speaking, I’m shit sick of being single !.
I don’t want to live with anyone again, but it would be nice to have someone at the weekends .
My youngest is only 15 though & we spend a lot of time together ☺️, so I’d have to find someone to compliment my life ..
I’m going to wish myself good luck with that one 😂 🙈 , so hard to meet someone who is geuine & attractive ..

It's mostly down to pure chance anyway, not really a matter of choice or any notions about what's ideal.
I've been miserable and happy, whilst both single and attached.
Just the tapestry of life!