Greedy husband?

[Bunchofcoconuts]

Does your husband expect to eat more than you?
Over the years I have always accepted the fact that my DH expects to have a much larger portion of food than me. He has always said that because he is much taller and of a larger build that he needs more. This is fine most of the time and if we are eating at home I just cater for his large appetite. It becomes more of a problem when we are away and eating out and I feel that this is almost leading to a food disorder as I tend to pack secret cereal bars in my luggage as I worry about being left hungry.
For example whilst away last week we met friends for wine and pizza. As the pizza's in this particular establishment are large we agreed to share one per couple. I was quite surprised as I would say my DH had at least two thirds of the pizza we shared, whilst the other couple split theirs down the middle.
This has made me question the fact that he always takes the lions share of food and I guess I just want to ask if this is the case in other people's relationships?

I've eat more than my DH most of the time

If you want more food, just say so!

Yeh I mean obviously he’d just order more food if he was still hungry. I just mean he wouldn’t assume he was entitled to more than half of something we’d decided to share. Even though I often eat less than half.

I don't understand what you mean by saying "it happens all the time"? Why don't you just order a meal each when out rather than sharing?

Just order more food, surely? Yes, my husband expects to eat more than me- he's a lot bigger than me and his daily calorie requirements are actually double mine because he's a lot bigger and has an active job. I also expect him to eat more than me.

This makes sense I think! Women and children do have higher iron needs than men and this should be publicised more.

I think tbh we are giving the OP a hard time

We have all learned about Penis Portions on here

Ive said my DH needs and wants more food then me, and like the op - when at home cooking - its easily sorted

But eating out is a different matter - cost - not looking to raise the cost when eating with friends? it can get messy

So two couples meet for tea, first couple say well we are sharing a pizza and having a beer - so second couple feel they have to do the same - to split the bill

Second couple have a hungry husband

But etiquette tells them they cant order more - they arent going to be the ones pushing up the bill

I think we have to read the room

So maybe this is where the OP is at? We have gone out for tea/supper/dinner - and seeing as you invited us - we will be guided by you and maybe a share ( even unevenly) of a pizza will have to do me because I dont want to embarrass anyone

So why not say oh I'm really hungry today, I'm going to order more, lets not split and all pay for ourselves, (these are supposed to be friends) or failing that, pick up a mcds or bag of chips on the way home.

There's something off about the DH expecting more than op or dictating what she can eat I suspect, but she didn't give the whole story and it doesn't look like shes coming back so we'll never know 🙄

@itsthetea this is normal biology but somehow along the way people started seeing that as unfair...

This is it! Plates have become bigger and women eating the same if not more than men and wondering why they're overweight.

It's easy to dish up the same amount for both of us but I've had to remind myself that he needs more as he is bigger.

Even though I do a more physical job, having the same amount of food meant I gained weight whilst he stayed the same.

Being able to eat a certain amount doesn't mean we should.

I am physically half the size of my husband (as in literally, he weighs double my weight) and he would never ever serve up more food for himsefl! If we are sharing, yes he will typically finish mine of fbut only after I genuinely can't eat anymore. I am in shock yous husband does this.