First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

[India87]

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

I hope you packed and left. This would've revolted me.

Oh right, you’re a prude for not wanting a used sex toy sprung on you without any pre-amble. JFC what a knob!

Well I think it depends on the items?! A little sexy underwear/lingerie maybe ok but anything else should be discussed!

My message back?

How fucking dare you? You do understand that shaming women for having boundaries makes you sound like a sex offender. My pleasure is up to me and any decent man ASKS what women like. They don’t just assume. I hope you are ashamed. Not for your interests, but for your total lack of understanding of consent.

<shudders> Fucking weirdo.

Thank you, OP ,for brightening everyone’s day with this extraordinary (and frankly hilarious) story. 😃

As somebody else just said, what a dickhead this bloke is. 😃😃

The sheer arrogance of assuming he knew that this fetish would give you pleasure is really quite mind-blowing. The truth is he knew it would give him pleasure and he didn't really care about you.

I really don't think this is her bailiwick.

Admit it - has anyone Googled this thing?

I’m scared to in case my computer is then filled with ads for the next two years. I’d be really worried that my wife might see it.

She might want me to buy one! 😄😄

He's annoyed at you, yet he wanted you to hop on, no foreplay or anything!?! Lover of the year right there. You were presumably supposed to swoon at the sight of the gag/peen mask

I just googled it. RIP my algorithm.

Ergh the audacity

You’re brave.

Or did you use somebody else’s computer? 😁

Fucking hell
Grim
Dump

Ew! Major ick OP. Well done on binning him.

I see nothing wrong with the mask thing itself, different people like different things. BUUUUUUT you don't just spring it on an unsuspecting person without as much as a mention - that's awful. And on top of it - he got pissy when you (understandably) didn't like it. What a knob.

I like that sort of thing, but even though I like it - I'd still expect a new partner to discuss it BEFORE it's whipped out. Quite a bit before, not when already in bed.

I’m all for people doing what they want in the bedroom but this needs to be a conversation.

That update!!!!

There are no words...

eugg.. good look finding women compatible with his 'interests' and are willing to share toys with his previous partners. I'm sure they'll be lining up around the block.

I'm not often speechless but this thread has opened my eyes and confirmed that I never want to date ever again!

Are you male?

I find it hard to believe that any woman, at least one able to empathise with how the OP felt in that moment, would find this funny at all.

I don't think I'm visualising this accurately. A mask / ball gag / hood? but also with an external dildo protruding from the mouth area? That can't be right surely. That's not so much kink as a complete rearrangement of human anatomy.

Definitely not something you spring on someone because you've magically intuited that they would like it. Aye, right.

Not a lot with a gag ball in his mouth, I would think.

I imagine the OP realizing that she had just strolled into the set of Pulp Fiction must have been most off putting!

Definitely not something you spring on someone because you've magically intuited that they would like it.

And especially not if your ex-girlfriend's vag has already sat on it. Several times.
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

🤣🤣🤣🤣

What was he wearing? Did he do it to. Break the ice and thinking it would make you laugh and it landed badly? Had you already slept together? Had you not talked about stuff like that before?