Would your husband care about a one off lesbian kiss

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Relatively new fried of year that you’ve instantly clicked with. Both felt a bit lonely being SAHM and married to men who work incredibly unsocial hours. Neither consider themselves lesbians. No feelings involved. Very strange and unexpected.

Ive contemplated telling dh as he may well just laugh it off (he’s very level headed and not a jealous cave man type man) but I don’t see what is to be gained by doing so. It won’t happen again.

Tbh we probably leaned on each other too much and became a tad codependent. Friend and I probably spent far too much time together.

I don't believe 'no feelings are involved'. Might be unexpected for you both, but it won't have just happened, one of you must have initiated...

How can it be a lesbian kiss if neither of you are lesbians?

Yes, of course he would care that I cheated on him.

What makes you sure it won't happen again?

How would you feel if DH just had a one off kiss with another man?

Yeah that’s weird, but to answer the OP, of course my husband would care if I kissed someone else. Why would he not? I married him and made a commitment to him, he more than likely expects I stick to that, likewise I expect the same from him.

We have agreed to give each other a bit of space. Relying on one person for the majority of your day to day socialising was a bad idea. It was just the perfect storm in a way. Exact same age children, we go to the same kids centric places. Instead of always going on our own we became a bit co dependent. It was nice to find a team mate to get through the mundane with. Obviously that should be a place filled by husband. I don’t want to mess around with my marriage and my children’s stability

I’d be extremely confused

I wouldnt say anything over just a kiss tbh

You know now whats wrong with your marriage and it's time to figure out what happens next. How can you fix his unavailability? Hes not a cave man, so why is he so distant then? xx

Sounds like you’ve realised what a mistake it was. If you’re being completely honest with yourself about keeping a distance between you and your friend, then I don’t see what is to be gained by owning up to your husband. Of course he would be hurt and disappointed in your behaviour. You have let yourself down and spoiled a supportive friendship.

Cheating is Cheating.

Kissing someone else while married is generally frowned upon. The sex of the people involved is irrelevant.

It's not just a kiss though, it's an emotional affair.

Of course there are feelings involved. People don’t just go around kissing random people for no reason.

It doesn’t matter about gender, You’ve been unfaithful and you need to decide how you’re going to move forward with this.

Of course he'd care about me cheating on him. I find your post very strange...

My husband would not be ok with this.
I think perhaps you need to reflect a bit more on your life and if you're happy. You are veering into cheating - matters not if it's with another woman. It's still infidelity. Maybe you're not as straight as you thought.

You’ve cheated on your husband. You’re deluding yourself with all this ‘very unexpected’ and ‘no feelings involved’ business. You’ve been spending all your time with this woman and you’ve now had a snog. That doesn’t just happen from nowhere.

I don’t think someone would have to be a ‘jealous cave man’ to be upset that their partner has cheated on them.

You're basically having an affair.

If you want to stay married then stop seeing the friend and don't tell your husband.

Perhaps get a job rather than start throwing yourself at women - or men, for entertainment and stimulation.
The term 'bored housewife' springs to mind.

Did you enjoy it? Who initiated it?
I think you should tell your DH. Wouldn’t you rather know?

I’m happy in my marriage but it’s not perfect. I definitely want to make some adjustments as I do believe I formed very close friendship quite quickly due to feeling lonely and unsupported. I believe it’s a similar case for my friend

I'd keep this to myself to be honest, but would ensure it never happened again

It sounds like you’re trying to blame him for you cheating on him. If he’s barely around because he’s working too much you could get a job and take the pressure off him.

It sounds like you’ve had an emotional affair. Yes my husband would care.

Are we talking peck on the lips or a full on take your breath away snog?

Yes my husband would be devastated that I'd cheated on him.
My DH works away for months on end and I've never used it as an excuse to snog someone else.