Would your husband care about a one off lesbian kiss

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Relatively new fried of year that you’ve instantly clicked with. Both felt a bit lonely being SAHM and married to men who work incredibly unsocial hours. Neither consider themselves lesbians. No feelings involved. Very strange and unexpected.

Ive contemplated telling dh as he may well just laugh it off (he’s very level headed and not a jealous cave man type man) but I don’t see what is to be gained by doing so. It won’t happen again.

Tbh we probably leaned on each other too much and became a tad codependent. Friend and I probably spent far too much time together.

Am i the only one rooting for OP and this woman to declare their love, leave their husbands and run away together?

Like you, I have a SAHM friend with the same age children. We do everything together, look after each other’s children and even go abroad together with our kids and leave the husbands at home.
Not once have I ever had the urge to kiss her. Obviously there must have been some form of attraction there for it to have happened. It’s unlikely you’re a completely straight woman and you should probably take some time to consider that.
As for telling your husband, you should.
Cheating is cheating. It doesn’t matter what sex the affair partner is.

You mean would my partner care if I cheated on them? I think they would - yes.

I thought i was happy with my husband, and very much straight, i had a good friendship with a woman
Then feelings grew. Ended my marriage and was with her for 10 years

If you want your marriage to work
Stop the friendship all together

I disagree. I kissed a female colleague once years ago. We were both extremely drunk and neither of us were/are lesbians or bi. I'm not sure why it happened - too much booze probably - but I've never been remotely interested in kissing another woman since (and that was over 20 years ago). So I can categorically say that I'm not bi. We've both since married men and had kids.

So basically what the op is trying to say is same sex relationships are not serious just straight ones?

'Oh a lesbian is nothing' wouldn't this be insulting and discrimination against people in same sex relationships?

I agree but if the OP did not know she was bi beforehand (quite common) she may have had no idea what she was slipping into until this happened. Now she has a chance to pull right back and end it before it ruins her marriage.

Suspect the reality would be quite different if you actually had a relationship with a woman while married to him

Am I rooting for a marriage breakup?
Er, no, not really.

Gross.

As a bisexual woman I would find this deeply offensive if it was my husband. Same sex relationships aren't a kink, and women don't get off with other women just for the pleasure of men.

Well the OP said they were both sober, so it's not the same situation.

And there have been times when I was younger when I've been very drunk but I have never felt the slightest urge to kiss another woman.

That's gross.

Meh. It's a sexual fantasy.

It would be gross if he were trying to coerce her into a threesome

My husband would be absolutely devastated.

You're telling yourself a lot of lies here, OP.

This is partly why biphobia exists, and why lots of gay women would prefer not to date gay women…