To be offended at my husband saying he prefers his mum’s cooking

[marinapl]

We’re at his parents’ house for the weekend. He says “I love coming here for the food” ie his mum’s cooking. I cook literally every day for this man and our kids. Some are admittedly relatively easy, like just rubbing some salmon with chimichurri sauce and sticking it in the oven or a simple curry, others more complicated like a bolognaise from scratch or trying to cook Korean cuisine etc.
I don’t get on well his mum so I’m not sure if that’s what has offended me or the fact that clearly my cooking is sub par but he opts to still eat it daily.

Maybe he should do more cooking?

Stop cooking so much for him, and stop trying to be in competition with his mum. She’s his mum, he’s allowed to love her cooking and have preferences, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like your cooking.

He said he loves his mum's cooking. You didn't say anywhere that he put yours down? Not sure why you're taking offence to him complimenting someone else's food, is he only allowed to like like yours?

Lots of people are very fond of their home food.

So he's told his mum he loves her cooking? Did he say anything about your cooking?

It's what he grew up eating. It's probably just the familiarity he likes. There's been a million posts here from women that talk about how they love their mother's Sunday roasts. Don't take it personally.

I can't get past a bolognaise from scratch being more complicated.

Do you want him to lie to you? If he prefers his mum’s food, he just prefers it. He’s allowed to have a preference! He didn’t say he doesn’t like yours, he just prefers hers. No big deal.

He was just complimenting his mum on her cooking? He didn’t say “preferred”, just that he’s loves her cooking. He might not even mean it, just being polite to his mum.

If you cook every day, it’s not unreasonable to not want to do that though, and want to share the load more.

@ToKittyornottoKittyi cook for our kids and as he’s there I naturally make an extra portion for him.
it’s just an odd thing to say. You don’t get fed at home? If you don’t like the food why eat it? Or cook something else yourself?

I think she meant because it takes longer to make.

Did he actually say he prefers it or just that he loves his mums cooking? Your title and post don’t match.

“Coming here for the food” implies it’s better than at home.
you wouldn’t say “we’re going to Miami for a bit of sunshine” if you live in the Caribbean

He didnt say that. He said he loves going there for the food.

You interrupted it as a dig because you dont get on with his mother.

Most people prefer their mum's cooking don't they? It's home.

@ThejoyofNCtry with 3 kids running around :)

Nothing ever has or ever will taste as good as my mum’s cooking did. It was the taste of my childhood, the taste of love, nurture, safety. I expect your children would probably say the same about yours @marinapl. I’m sad every Christmas that I’ll never taste one of my mum’s mince pies again. 💔

I think my DH prefers my mum's cooking ;)

But he didn't say he likes his mums food over yours, he loves going there for food. I love going to my parents for food because its familiar and homey...DP is. a far better cook though...

It doesn't at all.

Again this is a you problem and its coming across like you see yourself in some sort of competition with her.

How's bolognaise complicated?

But it could just be good in a different way, different foods or it reminds him of childhood. I love my partners cooking but I still love eating my friends cooking.

Is he a good man, or would he say this sort of thing to upset you?

I love my mums occasion dinner with all the trimmings.

I think this is normal.

i don't necessarily miss the day to day normal dinners she makes.

My mil probably goes all out for the weekend.

I think you're reading way too much into this.

I love going home for my mum's cooking - it doesn't mean I don't like what DH makes, but sometimes, nothing beats what you grew up with.

you've read waaaay too much into this