To be offended at my husband saying he prefers his mum’s cooking

[marinapl]

We’re at his parents’ house for the weekend. He says “I love coming here for the food” ie his mum’s cooking. I cook literally every day for this man and our kids. Some are admittedly relatively easy, like just rubbing some salmon with chimichurri sauce and sticking it in the oven or a simple curry, others more complicated like a bolognaise from scratch or trying to cook Korean cuisine etc.
I don’t get on well his mum so I’m not sure if that’s what has offended me or the fact that clearly my cooking is sub par but he opts to still eat it daily.

I don’t get on well his mum so I’m not sure if that’s what has offended me

Just because he loves his mum’s cooking, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love yours too. It’s like if you tell dc1 that you love them, it doesn’t mean that you don’t love dc2.

Is his mum’s cooking different to yours and taste good? Remember that he’s eaten a lot more meals with his mum so eating certain dishes will create a sense of familiarity and love because he may have happy memories eating meals with his mum.

Your food sounds tasty btw but adults don’t get as excited as kids about it being spaghetti bol tonight and his mum had the child version of him happy about the spaghetti bol.

I chuckled at that bit too!

I think you are reading far too much into it and being oversensitive.

I always loved my mum's cooking. It just signified home and the tastes of childhood. I still liked MIL's cooking too, and other people's. DH doesn't cook often. I'm fine with it if he does though as he chooses nice ready meals. 😃🤣 I'm certain that DH also would prefer his mother's cooking to mine and that wouldn't bother me

But he didn’t say he prefers her cooking? I couldn’t compete with my DH’s mum’s cooking, neither of us can recreate her pastry despite following exactly what she said. She ran a restaurant, she would bring back desserts she’d made. My DH was thoroughly spoiled with her cooking. I have her handwritten recipes, just never have time to make them.

Does your Dh cook?

Is he appreciative of your cooking? Is there a reason he doesn’t cook any meals? Are there any meals his mum cooks that he could do at home @marinapl

You’re being jealous and unreasonable. I’m sure he loves you. You don’t need to compete in every department with his mother.

My mother in law was the worst cook I have ever come across in my life. Her food was inedible. My husband and his siblings loved it. I think it’s what you’re brought up on, it just feels like home and can’t be matched even if objectively it’s not very good

When DS leaves home I am sure it will be DH’s cooking that he will miss the most!

I actually said this about my MIL recently! That I love her cooking for me. Hopefully DH is not about to refuse to ever cook for me again 😬

No wonder he likes coming to his mum's for food in that case, if he always eats the same as children back home. Can imagine I'd miss spices, for one thing.

Well, it takes longer and involves more ingredients than whacking chicken nuggets in the air fryer.

OP, try ' Get her to teach you'.

You are being entirely ridiculous OP.

He loves his Mum. His Mum’s cooking tastes like home and reminds him of happy childhood times.

Wouldn't you want your own children to feel exactly the same way?

Huh? Why wouldn't kids eat spices?

This thread has made me really nostalgic. My DP and I are both better cooks than my mum. But I am really sad I won't get to eat her meals again (even if we did have to add salt to it).

She was definitely a better baker than me. Missing the mince pies, biscuits and cakes!

I thought you weren't supposed to give kids spicy food? That's what I meant. My misunderstanding.

I mean my kids take great pleasure in telling me when Granny does a certain dish better, couldn't give a shit-she's been doing it longer and also has fuck all else to do with her day. I, on the other hand, work full time.
Agreed though that perhaps your husband should cook more.

The sun is the sun. It doesn't change.

But people do go to places because they love the architecture or the scenery whilst loving the architecture and scenery in their own country. It's just different.

Unless there's a huge dripfeed coming, you're reaching massively.

Spices =/= spicy.

You are getting offended over nothing. I love my mum's cooking. It doesn't mean I don't like food elsewhere too.

My mother's cooking was absolutely dreadful, but my father's was great and I do miss it. I also like eating an all day breakfast from one particular greasy spoon in the nearest town. I very much enjoy the meal when we go for a work lunch at a nearby gastro pub. I love eating fish and chips down at the sea side. My cousin is a fantastic cook, and though that isn't the main reason for visiting her it is an additional attraction to staying there.

None of these mean I don't like my own cooking, or that it's "sub-par". Consider that a decent Michelin 2 is very good indeed and can't be described as "sub par", but maybe a 4 is even better? Or that of 2 equally rated restaurants one caters more to your taste than the other (e.g. Haute cuisine vs Indian vs traditional British but elevated).

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Him saying he loves going there for the cooking doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like your cooking though. He can like both and just enjoy a change sometimes.

Yes you would, especially during rainy season in the Caribbean when it rains every bloody day!

You are being unreasonable and somewhat manipulative. Saying he loves going somewhere for to food is not saying he prefers his mum's cooking. Plenty of people love the food they grew up eating. And even if he does prefer her cooking that's fine he's allowed to have a preference and from this "others more complicated like a bolognaise from scratch" it doesn't sound like you are a culinary genius, I consider bolognaise pretty basic cooking and I certainly don't think I'm any sort of expert in the kitchen.