To be offended at my husband saying he prefers his mum’s cooking

[marinapl]

We’re at his parents’ house for the weekend. He says “I love coming here for the food” ie his mum’s cooking. I cook literally every day for this man and our kids. Some are admittedly relatively easy, like just rubbing some salmon with chimichurri sauce and sticking it in the oven or a simple curry, others more complicated like a bolognaise from scratch or trying to cook Korean cuisine etc.
I don’t get on well his mum so I’m not sure if that’s what has offended me or the fact that clearly my cooking is sub par but he opts to still eat it daily.

He was just showing appreciation for his Mum's cooking. I love my Mum's cooking more than anyone else's. Also we all tend to have our own standard repertoires so it's enjoyable to have a change. It sounds like you feel that your DH does not appreciate what you do enough but I would not interpret what he says as putting you down.

My husband loves his mums cooking. She’s a great cook and I last cooked in about 2010, so I’m quite happy for him to praise her. He’s a better cook than she is though.

Im a way better cook that my DILs and it’s standing joke in our house taken with good humour all around
the DILs are always angling to come over / take left overs or asking advice.
Its sweet
mind you I am fed of of fucking cooking for the five thousand if Im honest lol x

What do you eat lol ? X

Why do you cook every day? Is he incapable in some way? Hope he does the dishes at least…..

If you think a Bolognese sauce is complicated, it's not a wonder he prefers his mom's food. It's pretty basic. A lot of Korean food isn't complicated either.

My husband preferred his dad's sauce. No big deal, he was a really good cook and his sauce was perfected over years in his restaurant.

There's a thread about getting better at cooking

Same.

I think this thread is ridiculous. So what if your DH prefers his mum's cooking (not that he even said that). You'd think he said he likes her kisses more than yours.

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I would be offended, in fact I often was as ex always said how much better his mother's food was. I found out when we were invited to lunch and I went to put something in the bin that she had been dishing up ready made dinners and puddings, but ex never realised he had been eating junk for donkey's years.
I had learnt to cook from scratch, good wholesome food.

You put courgettes in bolognese sauce?? No! The secret ingredient is chicken liver

The mincemeat with tomatoes and garlic that often passes for a bolognaise a is a very simple meal to throw together. An authentic bolognaise ragu which will include a good sofrito as well as pancetta and possibly chicken livers as well as beef is a lot more labour intensive and time consuming. But worth it.

"If you prefer your mum's recipes, you are welcome to cook them at home."

You are totally over reacting. It is memories of a happy childhood and no doubt she cooks the food he loved then which is always comfort food when one is an adult regardless of how basic it was. What's the big deal - he gets food for once that he likes rather than what he gets at home which caters for children's taste etc. Doesn't your Mom do the same for you? It doesn't mean he dislikes your food - he's allowed to love his Mom's cooking. Don't make such a big deal of it unless there is actually something else driving it and you are unhappy in the relationship and looking to find fault with him regardless.

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..er, I love staying at my daughter's house because I prefer my son-in-law's cooking to my own. He's a better cook. I wouldn't take it as a slight if my daughter said she preferred her husband's cooking. She's be right.
They're coming to me for Christmas.

I'll be peeling the potatoes & carrots. DSIL will be nurturing the roast.

He will prefer his mum's cooking whatever you do, she's his mum, if she served up beef tough as leather and burnt roasties he's still it. He's allowed to.
You seem to go in for elaborate stuff. Maybe simplify and have him cook sometimes.
What's chimichurri sauce - and in what way is any curry simple - unless you just add curry powder to whatever?

It’s comfort food that reminds him of being spoilt by his mum. My husband prefers canned soup to homemade because that reminds him of being a child.

rude

My 12 year old already tells me he will always come home for my cooking never to his MIL when he’s older. His wife will have to come with him. He said no one’s cooking will ever beat mine 🤷🏼‍♀️

I can't get past a bolognaise from scratch being more complicated
Sorry OP but I had to re-read that!!
Bolognaise maybe time consuming but its hardly complicated!

My partner has openly said my mum makes a better bolognaise than you. That’s his preference I make a better roast than her and she’ll admit that. It didn’t offend me.

I always cooked with spices for my kids

He likes the nostalgia of his mum's cooking. Regardless of your relationship with her, she's his mum, who at one point was his safe place. He could just be being kind to her and making her feel important and useful. That's a kind thing. A man being lovely to his mum is a positive thing. He didn't say cooking was horrible did he?

YABVU and looking for offense where there is none.

My MIL is a much better cook than me with her home baking but I am good at stews, curries and things like that. I love going to hers for food so wouldn't be offended at all, remember she has fed him for a lot longer than you.