for secretly taking weightloss injections

[ravingandbehaving]

and not telling anyone, even my husband?

Is anyone else in this boat?

I've just ordered them today. My husband is dead against them. Work colleagues would probably be supportive though as half of them are on it.

I've tried everything to lose weight but food is just a crutch for me. I'm much better than I used to be but I'm a sugar addict and struggle with portion control. I've got a lot of trauma from having food restricted as a kid. As an adult I've dealt with the mental health side but just cannot lose the weight! I have tried literally every single diet you can think of. I've had a PT. I go to the gym regularly and walk the dog and play with my children. I just cannot lose the weight... It's either this or WLS...

I'm 5 stone overweight and miserable about my body and just want to change.

I don’t think you should have to tell anyone your personal medical information BUT I do think it is so obvious when someone is on the jabs if you work with them or otherwise see them most days it’s apparent as they just lose the weight so quickly…

Doing it slowly is giving my brain and skin more time to adjust

in my experience, it is not fast on WLI. Couple of pounds a week at best for me. There’s the reason right there as to why people keep quiet - people with little or no knowledge assume they know best. And ultimately, it will be a different experience for everyone who uses them, just like dieting and exercise alone.

Interesting that you assume shame - perhaps that kind of attitude might help to explain why some people prefer to keep it to themselves.

Anyway, it’s not shame, not for me anyway. Just that I prefer not to share details of my medical history and the medication I am on with other people. Same with other treatments I have had over the years. The GP knows so it’s in my notes in case of emergency.

If it made a difference to DH, so for instance if I were diagnosed with something infectious, or if I had to stop driving, or if I would need him to care for me, I would tell him. But this is nothing to do with anyone but me.

(I do post on here because it’s anonymous, it’s been a great source of information for me and I feel I should support those just starting on WLI.)

Why is everyone's husband suddenly ADHD? I dont think its relevant to also being a cunt

I use Mounjaro, which is slightly more effective than Wegovy, but not by much and it’s more expensive, so either is a valid choice

No side effects beyond a couple of days of burps (in 16 months). When I went up to the highest dose I felt a bit weird so just came back down again

On MJ, everyone starts at 2.5mg, you take that weekly for 4 weeks and then can go up to the next dose or not, up to you, how you’re feeling and how well it’s working. The other available doses are 5, 7.5, 10, 12.5 and 15mg. Some people spend months and lose a lot of weight on 2.5 or 5mg, others need the higher doses

There are comparison sites where you can find out prices at the various online pharmacies: monj.co.uk is the Mounjaro one I think and there’s one for Wegovy which you can google

I have used MedExpress, Simple Online Pharmacy, Swift Dr and Pharmulous and they have all been fine, but you can pick any registered pharmacy you like, the drug will be the same. You can also shop around every month if you want. Don’t get it from anywhere that is not a registered pharmacy though, and make sure you know what you’re signing up for as some work on a subscription basis I think

I have lost 6+ stone and my life is completely transformed so would recommend these drugs to anyone 👍

Thanks but he's in his late 30s and been diagnosed with ADHD since he was a child. Nothing sudden about it. He was one of those problem kids who was on report and kicked out of school for constantly climbing on the desks and told no primary schools would take him etc. he's grown up a lot since then and manages somehow to maintain a professional job, but his hyperactivity comes out at home.

And I find there is a really lovely side to ADHD that people don't talk about - yes he is very active and busy and struggles to concentrate unless he's really interested, but he's also up and at em ready to take DC out at a moments notice, plays with them non stop, and he can be so much fun. He never leaves the house without dancing round with me first and comes up with some absolute random ideas which turn out great and he's great at inventing things.

He can be a bit of an opinionated arsehole sometimes but I wouldn't refer to my husband as a cunt, personally.

Not that any of that is relevant to the jabs at all really!

My close colleague is getting ready to start on them, and I am thrilled for her knowing that she struggles a lot with her health and knee pain just from walking.

There are lots of people at work who have been open about being on WLI, and it makes no difference to me whatsoever.

I have noticed some dramatic weight loss in a couple of coworkers who I am not close with, but I would never comment on anyone's weight and their method of weight loss unless they brought it up themselves.

WLI is becoming so common though, that people will assume you're on them even if you're not , if you've lost loads of weight.

I've seen threads where those who didn't use WLI have been annoyed as they've been accused of lying in RLI, and then called smug here for being accused of lying and not using WLI.

It really doesn't matter what methos you use what others think though. You're doing it for your physical and mental health.

If your dh has been supportive in the past with your attempt to lose weight through dieting without medical assistance, then I bet he will be supportive when he sees how much happier and and healthier you look with WLI. Good luck with that.

Have a look at Slimpod. Focused on the mind - unless we get the right mindset, yo yo dieting can be so hard to crack. I’ve found it very helpful - helps stop the unhealthy habits and build new healthy habits for food and fitness in a way that doesn’t rely on willpower.

Ive been on them a few months now and i have not told anyone, DH is oblivious to their existence really as he has zero interest in celebs and online gossip, he genuinely couldn't give a stuff what people look like. He is happy for me that i have lost lots of weight for my health, but its attributed to a diabetes diagnosis which prompted me to starting a healthier lifestyle. He knows i am happier and is very proud that i have turned things round, obviously he sees me eating much smaller portions and avoiding carbs etc sees me going to gym classes 4 or 5 times a week but has no idea my little helper is stashed in the fridge or in a cosmetics box in the bathroom. People can assume all they like, i dont feel the need to tell anyone and most people are too polite to ask directly. If anyone asks how ive lost the weight i tell them about the diagnosis and that basically i move more and eat less to reverse it. So far its working.

One passed out and the husband could tell the paramedics where her pain had been for the last few days, at the lower back, they then asked about medications and he could say she was on the injections, to which they said they’d seen an increase in cases. Please don’t doubt peoples truths, it’s dangerous.

I said the paramedics would be trained to deal with what they're faced with regardless of knowledge of WLI and 'helpful' husbands.

If it's so bloody obvious when people are taking these medications (according to so many on here) you'd think it would be a consideration in cases where symptoms might be linked.

Once medical records are accessed, the whole picture is there anyway. And regardless of whether a person should have stopped taking certain medications or fasted or whatever for a planned procedure, if there isn't time and and it just needs doing (in some unrelated emergency) it'll be done.

Him being up for spending time with his children has bugger all to do with his adhd op

It really doesn't work like that

@ravingandbehaving what a lovely balanced reaction to the unhinged ' cunt' adhd accuser. I have a husband who is 100% adhd possibly asd, but he is 70 and would not get an off icial diagnosis. Anyway, I didn't tell him about the jabs because he has quite black and white thinking coupled with wanting to super analyse everything to make it make sense, so telling him would have been exhausting lol, so I didn't, I guess it's the same for you. Get yourself on them, it's a game changer, and one thing I would also say to you is that although it's highly commendable exercising and of course that helps with toning, but honestly I don't exercise at all really apart from dog walks and the weight dropped off, diet always starts in the kitchen, so many people I think get the idea that they are doing runs, going to the gym etc. but they aren't eating in a deficit so they aren't losing weight. Give yourself a break get the mj stick to a protein heavy low carb diet and you'll be a lot lighter in a few months no problems.

Wait why is he a “cunt” because he doesn’t like the idea of the jabs? Does everyone have to worship them lest it offend someone who has made a different decision? Some people aren’t ok with them. That’s absolutely fine.

Honestly the defensiveness around these jags is insane.

he is very much of the opinion of why do something you don't need to do

even in the face of

I'm 5 stone overweight and miserable about my body and just want to change.

bit of a twat

Although you only have birth less than a year ago @ravingandbehaving so surely quite a bit is baby weight?

He’s entitled to his opinion. The OP can listen to it, or she can ignore it. If she’s daft enough to be dictated to by her husband then that’s her look out.

Baby has just turned 1. My problem is I've gained so much weight every baby. I was 12 stone pre-babies so never thin anyway. After first baby I was about 14 stone. Yoyo-ed a bit within about a stone range. After second baby I was about 15 stone, never got back down to less than 14st7lbs. When I weighed in a month after having my third baby I was nudging on 17 stone 😩

Some came off naturally and then I have managed to lose 15lbs since May with diet and exercise, but it's taken me 6 months. I don't want to take 3 years to lose the rest of the weight 😩 I'm currently 15st 7 and been stuck here for ages.

And you husband has been aware of this substantial change around your diet and exercise and supportive?

Well I think keeping secrets from your husband won’t end terribly well. I imagine most of the perfect wives all saying your body your choice would all consider leaving their spouses for keeping secrets and think it was proof their partner doesn’t trust them. If food is just a crutch for you then are you planning on staying on injections for life or will you address your underlying psychological need to use food as a crutch?

Gosh I wonder why on earth people might not want to share their personal business with others? 🤔

This post prompted me to respond. It reminds me of myself! I put on a lot of weight with each baby, and lost a lot of it each time, but kept hold of about a stone each time. I lost a similar amount to you (15 lbs) through intermittent fasting, but then stalled. At a very similar weight to you (15 and a half stone) I began the jabs. It's been great so far. I'm at my pre baby weight for the first time in over ten years (after 3 months), and I'd like to lose another stone.

Just a couple of thoughts. You don't owe anybody private information about your body, or medicines you choose to take. But it can help to have the support at home for so many reasons. For motivation, for understanding and support if you experience side effects etc. I know you say your dh is against them, but perhaps if you present it as a done deal, and let him know you won't change your mind, and invite him to listen and find out more about them, it'll work out fine. He probably doesn't know much about it currently, and just has a vague notion of not liking the idea. My dh was just like this, but supported me after we discussed it. Let him know you won't appreciate him trying to dissuade you. Because also, if/when he does find out further down the line, he may be hurt that you didn't tell him. It's up to you of course. Not telling him to start with, but being honest if he asks, would also be a reasonable way of doing it. You could then explain what you've told us... That you didn't want to share to start with, in case it didn't work. You mentioned you have secret binges at home... Would it be worth telling him about that, so he'd understand you better? Binge eating is a disorder, and needs patience and understanding.

Best of luck with it! Come over to the WLI board... It's very supportive and super helpful. I don't think I'd have started without it!

Which of us saying your body, your choice have claimed to be perfect wives 🤔