for secretly taking weightloss injections

[ravingandbehaving]

and not telling anyone, even my husband?

Is anyone else in this boat?

I've just ordered them today. My husband is dead against them. Work colleagues would probably be supportive though as half of them are on it.

I've tried everything to lose weight but food is just a crutch for me. I'm much better than I used to be but I'm a sugar addict and struggle with portion control. I've got a lot of trauma from having food restricted as a kid. As an adult I've dealt with the mental health side but just cannot lose the weight! I have tried literally every single diet you can think of. I've had a PT. I go to the gym regularly and walk the dog and play with my children. I just cannot lose the weight... It's either this or WLS...

I'm 5 stone overweight and miserable about my body and just want to change.

Your body, your choice.

On the one hand, I think that it's no one else's business what type of medical treatment you receive. But, from a practical standpoint what if you have an adverse reaction? If your husband doesn't know that you've been taking them and you would, God forbid, need to go to the hospital, he wouldn't be able to tell the doctor that you've been taking them. It's really not his place to be against them for you. He doesn't need to take them, but he shouldn't criticize you for doing it.

Absolutely fine. You know your own body, and you have every right to privacy.

Its your own private medical information, so I wouldn't even view it as a secret....it's just not their business.

Good luck with it...it's the best thing I've ever done...three stone off in 6 months

You might find that you get more answers if you move your post to the weight loss injections forum on Mumsnet. I think it is a shame to have to keep secret something that will help you to become healthier and happier, but you will find you are not alone.

Why is he against him and do you think he’ll take news lightly if he finds out or you tell him? Have you talked about taking them? In that case he will surely be suspicious why your losing weight quickly and why your appetite has shrunk… you could say your on a fancy diet etc,, but, I agree with one of the posts above as if anything every happened they wouldn’t know, so inform your GP and ask them to add it to your medical record..

on the other hand, do be careful and consult a doctor before you continue this. If you truly want it to be secret though, don’t tell anyone because you don’t know who will make an offhand remark and let your husband know..

No YANBU. It’s your decision how you lose weight, and presumably you’re using your own spending money.

It’s a shame that your DH is anti WLI to the point that you won’t be able to tell him. Do you think you might once you’ve been using it for a while and have lost weight? Or would he still be against it?

I did the same as it’s only my business. I eventually told my DH after I’d lost 5 stone and he asked how I did it.

I honestly don't understand why some people might feel ashamed for at least trying something that seems to work for so many.

YANBU to take the weightloss injections, they are absolutely a great help for people who find it difficult to lose weight. But YABU to keep it a secret. If other people very like yourself ("a sugar addict who struggles with portion control") see you losing weight without knowing how, they will just feel even worse about themselves. Surely you'd want to make it clear that you needed these injections to make weight-loss possible for you? Otherwise you're re-enforcing the message that diet and exercise can work for everyone.

@NeedAnyHelpWithThatPaperBag has the OP said she is ashamed? It seems to be about the attitude of her DH rather than anything else.

@ravingandbehaving I would also say that you are absolutely under no obligation to publicise your private medical decisions as some kind of public service to help other obese people. Obese people, like you and me, are perfectly able to figure out what WLI are and that they are helpful without needing to be told so by another obese person.

I've been on WLI for over a year and haven't told a soul. People have noticed the weight loss my over 4 stone weight loss, but I have kept quiet about how I did it.

I think it is your body, your choice.

Wishing you well on with your weight loss. I feel and look so much better being lighter 🙂

You are not unreasonable to take them because that should be your choice (assuming you have the money), but you are unreasonable not to tell you DH. There is a (small) chance you may have bad side effects or even need to go to hospital and he needs to be able to tell them what you are taking. Having been on them for over a year my eating habits completely changed so unless he is really unobservant he will definitely notice. I couldn't eat a big meal or have a takeaway for the first few weeks and didn't want any alcohol. I am now someone who can just have one biscuit - who even am I?! If you live with someone, this will effect some of the things you do unless you never go out/eat out/eat together. I know he will probably object but (again assuming you have the money) it's not up to him and you need to point this out to him. Good luck with it. It has been life changing for me. I have lost 4 stone and my side effects have been very manageable. I feel so much better for it.

Absolutely fine at your choice and your body.
the only issue is where are you hiding the pens ( in think they need refrigerating?) and what if you have a reaction that needs some support.

Don’t they need to be refrigerated? Won’t he see them anyway?

Why would that be U? Do what you gotta do. I bet you won’t regret it. Maybe tell your GP (prescriber probably will anyway) so if you suddenly have some emergency side effects then it’s not a mystery. But that’s vanishingly unlikely .

I would find it sad that I couldn’t talk about decisions like this with my DP to be honest. Why is he against them? Would he rather you remained overweight?

I'm ignoring the stigma.....if anyone asks how ive done it then I say.....its not a "magic drug" it still takes willpower..... I've got 10 stone to lose and have lost 5 of it using MJ. Don't be ashamed!

I felt like I had to tell someone in case I had an adverse reaction, I also ticked the box to inform my GP. The only other person who knew from the start was my friend who was also on WLI and is my support person. If people ask, I tell them the truth but it’s taken 5 months and nearly 3 stone before people have started asking 🤣

its your business. I will just say I hid it and found it quite stressful. My reason for hiding was more because I didn’t quite qualify so I was one of those dicks who embellished the truth to get them. But either way, I felt really bad lying and also for getting kudos when I was saying no to treats etc. made me feel like a fraud.

Why is DH so against them? Is he generally narrow minded?

I would just tell him and say you aren’t interested if he starts berating you. It’s a medication prescribed to you for your health. Same as if you needed statins/beta blockers/etc etc.

YADNBU. Why is your DH so against them? Is he controlling in other ways? Personally I'd be telling him to lump it and to STFU about what I do to improve my health but if it is easier for you to keep it private then go ahead. I don't buy that he needs to know in case of side effects - I'm sure plenty of single people take them and manage to get medical attention as needed.

I’ve been on WLI since January and I’ve lost four and a half stone. I wish I’d done it sooner.

I didn’t want anyone to know, so I haven’t told anyone. I’m senior enough at work that colleagues are discouraged from interrogating me about how I’ve finally managed to lose some weight and I live alone. My Mother is very intrigued but so far Ive always managed to change the subject.

Its nobody’s business but mine

I understand but as it’s a drug I think you should tell your husband in case it goes wrong. Also have you thought about what happens when you come off the drug? How will you control your eating?