Husband and Lindor

[Clementina49er]

A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together and he added a bx of Lindor in some weird flavour (possibly Baileys) to my shopping basket for which I paid without comment. They went on a shelf in the kitchen and I had maybe two out of the box before discovering the empty box a mere two days later. I made no comment but I must admit I thought "that's a lot of chocolate to eat between meals in such a short time."
Ten days later I saw a box of Lindor dark chocolate mint flavour in Sainsburys so I bought them. I have a bit of a thing for dark chocolate and mint.... but a box of Bendicks lasts me at least a fortnight.
The Lindor went in the cupboard but I'd have one from to time to time in the evening with a cup of coffee after my meal.... they weren't "hidden " as such because DH is perfectly capable of opening the cupboard door.... but I know what he's like with chocolate, sweets and biscuits and a packet left anywhere visible in the kitchen will be empty before you can say "I was looking forward to eating one of those"... After lunch I noticed him go and help himself to one of the Lindor.... I made no comment, and decided I'd have one too..... I did notice there weren't many left in the box butagain, I didn't comment.... he's a grown man.
However, when I saw with his hand in the box less than an hour later something snapped and I said "only one a day": he was very offended, but he knows where the supermarket is and has enough money to buy his own damn chocolate if he wants to make a pig of himself.... He is noticeably overweight and has a sweet tooth as well as a love of alcohol and fatty foods. I cook from scratch and we eat healthy, nutritious, filling meals so I really hate to see the crap he eats in between times, not because he's hungry, but because it's there.He buys bags of Doritos and creamy dips, adds mayonnaise to meals which have their own sauce and puts 3tsp of sugar in his coffee. I make no comment about any of this, but AIBU to set a rule that expensive chocolate which I have bought is limited to one a day? There is actually other chocolate in plain view on the table, so he could have helped himself to that, but he decided he wanted a second Lindor. I rather suspect that if I hadn't seen him with his hand in the box I would have gone to it this evening for a chocolate and found it empty.

Just don't buy chocolate.

Trouble is, it's very 'more-ish' and once you start on a box, it's hard to stop.

1 a day sounds like a very small amount and quite controlling so easier just to not buy it?

Crikey - he sounds like your child, not your husband! I'd be really offended if my husband spoke to me in that way - 'only one a day' indeed! You sound as if you are telling him off in the manner of a school teacher from the old days!
If you don't want him to have your Lindt chocolate, put it where he can't find it. It makes me wonder if you have these kind of rules and regulations around other food and he's fed up with being told what to do!

One a day?

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One a day??

My dh likes to tell people he doesn’t have a sweet tooth… absolute lies, he will demolish any chocolate in sight, including the kids !

edited to add - op you sound like the chocolate police 👮

Emm poor husband - just hide your stuff better but don’t shame him

My husband and I devoured a box of lindor in one sitting at the weekend. I have 0 self control. Sounds like your husband doesn't either and maybe you should hide them better

Personally I couldn’t stop at 1 a day, maybe 2 or 3 , but if you’re that bothered I’d buy 2 boxes and have 1 each, make it clear that when his are gone he’s to leave yours alone ! I get you in as much as it would annoy me that someone constantly ate ‘my’ treats , but as an adult I wouldn’t be rationing him or talking to him like a child

One a day. Please tell me you don’t realise speak to another grown adult that way.

I'm a chocolate addict as well, you and I wouldn't be friends if you were gonna check up on my chocolate habits 😂

He sounds like a bit of a pig.
So unattractive.
Buy chocolate in a bar and keep it in your bag, as he sounds greedy and has little self control.

In my relationship my husband is you and you are my husband, except my husband accepts I love chocolate and buys me extra when I want it. He’s not your child op why do you want to be his mother?

We all have our own treat stash in this house. No sharing or stealing but we can replenish our own (or each other’s) stash as much as we like. If he buys Lindors they are his; if I buy them they are mine. If I’m eating I offer him one. Simples.

To be honest if my husband snapped "only one a day" at me like I was a toddler I'd laugh in his face and eat the whole box.

Thankfully my husband isn't weird and controlling about food, and if one of us eats the others snack we just replace it. You know because we're married. We share a home, a life, bodily fluids, I'm pretty sure we can share fucking truffles.

I get why you're both annoyed here; you wanted a treat that could be yours, to be saved and used as you desire, he wants to be treated as an adult who is charge of what he eats (whether you like it or not). I think you should speak up when you get a treat, it's ok to not put every chocolate in the family sharebox and it's not unreasonable to tell DH to get his own box if he wants one. However, you'll have to own the fact that your comment was pretty nasty- he's not a child and it was probably quite embarrassing for him (I'd hate my DH to comment on what I'm eating or how often I have a treat).

You are going to have to hide them. I actually know a woman who has a fucking lock box in the cupboard so her partner cannot gorge himself on her chocolate and snacks. They have separate finances too, newly together so it is her money.

Use the box of something he wouldn't reach for. One a day is a ridiculous thing to say to a grown adult. They are more moreish.

Tbf there’s only about 12 in a box now , so 6 each 🤣

Oh get in the bin op. One a day. Just divorce him
if you hate him so much

1 a day is unreasonable
As is chocolate mint as a flavour

Waiting for the people who wouldn't be able to eat for a week/month if they ate a whole lindor in one sitting! 😄

Lindor are expensive! We only have chocolate like that on special occasions or as gifts and they last a while.

I do wonder why you and your husband have separate chocolate buying money? How do you do groceries? Surely food is a joint expense.

My trick with my husband is there is a treat I don’t want devoured is, “let me know if it runs out so I can pick up more on the way home” this is effective in stopping him polishing off things without thinking.

If my husband told me I was only allowed one a day of anything id eat the lot in front of him. You’re talking about your husband like he’s an infant.

He scoffs the chocolate you buy, doesn’t buy his own, and leaves the empty boxes for you to find?

Yeah, no, he’s obnoxious.

Ah, a classic case of 'Greedy Husband'. There's no cure, I'm afraid. Sorry!

Well this is why I am fat! I am on team husband, I would not be able to restrain myself and having one would be more of a tease and I would rather have none than to get my taste buds going only to be told off and not allowed another. I would say I would need at least 3 to feel satisfied and if a box was in the cupboard and I was home I would be tempted to visit throughout the day.

Do you not share a joint account? As you seem very keen to point out whose buying what.
If you are going to be possessive over your treats then I think you need to state that they are yours and not for sharing and to then keep out of the main cupboards.

Only way to solve it is to hide your stash. He has no self-control and tbh, you shouldn't need to mumsy him by saying one a day.