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Husband and Lindor

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Clementina49er · 05/11/2025 16:15

A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together and he added a bx of Lindor in some weird flavour (possibly Baileys) to my shopping basket for which I paid without comment. They went on a shelf in the kitchen and I had maybe two out of the box before discovering the empty box a mere two days later. I made no comment but I must admit I thought "that's a lot of chocolate to eat between meals in such a short time."
Ten days later I saw a box of Lindor dark chocolate mint flavour in Sainsburys so I bought them. I have a bit of a thing for dark chocolate and mint.... but a box of Bendicks lasts me at least a fortnight.
The Lindor went in the cupboard but I'd have one from to time to time in the evening with a cup of coffee after my meal.... they weren't "hidden " as such because DH is perfectly capable of opening the cupboard door.... but I know what he's like with chocolate, sweets and biscuits and a packet left anywhere visible in the kitchen will be empty before you can say "I was looking forward to eating one of those"... After lunch I noticed him go and help himself to one of the Lindor.... I made no comment, and decided I'd have one too..... I did notice there weren't many left in the box butagain, I didn't comment.... he's a grown man.
However, when I saw with his hand in the box less than an hour later something snapped and I said "only one a day": he was very offended, but he knows where the supermarket is and has enough money to buy his own damn chocolate if he wants to make a pig of himself.... He is noticeably overweight and has a sweet tooth as well as a love of alcohol and fatty foods. I cook from scratch and we eat healthy, nutritious, filling meals so I really hate to see the crap he eats in between times, not because he's hungry, but because it's there.He buys bags of Doritos and creamy dips, adds mayonnaise to meals which have their own sauce and puts 3tsp of sugar in his coffee. I make no comment about any of this, but AIBU to set a rule that expensive chocolate which I have bought is limited to one a day? There is actually other chocolate in plain view on the table, so he could have helped himself to that, but he decided he wanted a second Lindor. I rather suspect that if I hadn't seen him with his hand in the box I would have gone to it this evening for a chocolate and found it empty.

OP posts:
Momrage · 08/11/2025 20:40

Just to add OP. I think any posters accusing you of being controlling have no experience of living with someone with a binge eating disorder. It's hard to truly understand how someone can have zero restraint, thought or consideration for others when it comes to food and I know first hand it can be frustrating and fucking miserable at times.

JMSA · 09/11/2025 05:58

You sound like fun.

hididdlyho · 09/11/2025 06:38

Save the empty wrappers and box and rewrap them with sprouts inside. I'd be a little annoyed if I was looking forward to eating some relatively expensive chocolate I'd bought and someone had snaffled it first. He does sound a bit selfish to not offer you a chocolate at the same time he's getting one for himself. I think the 'only one a day' comment sounds a bit odd as the issue is he's not sharing. If he chose to eat his half in a couple of days, but left your half alone that would be fair enough.

LearningFromAll · 10/11/2025 02:38

Have you spoken to him about this?

RedRiverShore5 · 10/11/2025 06:22

The 600g boxes are a bit cheaper on Amazon so I just bought one to refill the ginger jar a bit, as you can't see them, I don't tend to stuff them down so much

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