Husband and Lindor

[Clementina49er]

A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together and he added a bx of Lindor in some weird flavour (possibly Baileys) to my shopping basket for which I paid without comment. They went on a shelf in the kitchen and I had maybe two out of the box before discovering the empty box a mere two days later. I made no comment but I must admit I thought "that's a lot of chocolate to eat between meals in such a short time."
Ten days later I saw a box of Lindor dark chocolate mint flavour in Sainsburys so I bought them. I have a bit of a thing for dark chocolate and mint.... but a box of Bendicks lasts me at least a fortnight.
The Lindor went in the cupboard but I'd have one from to time to time in the evening with a cup of coffee after my meal.... they weren't "hidden " as such because DH is perfectly capable of opening the cupboard door.... but I know what he's like with chocolate, sweets and biscuits and a packet left anywhere visible in the kitchen will be empty before you can say "I was looking forward to eating one of those"... After lunch I noticed him go and help himself to one of the Lindor.... I made no comment, and decided I'd have one too..... I did notice there weren't many left in the box butagain, I didn't comment.... he's a grown man.
However, when I saw with his hand in the box less than an hour later something snapped and I said "only one a day": he was very offended, but he knows where the supermarket is and has enough money to buy his own damn chocolate if he wants to make a pig of himself.... He is noticeably overweight and has a sweet tooth as well as a love of alcohol and fatty foods. I cook from scratch and we eat healthy, nutritious, filling meals so I really hate to see the crap he eats in between times, not because he's hungry, but because it's there.He buys bags of Doritos and creamy dips, adds mayonnaise to meals which have their own sauce and puts 3tsp of sugar in his coffee. I make no comment about any of this, but AIBU to set a rule that expensive chocolate which I have bought is limited to one a day? There is actually other chocolate in plain view on the table, so he could have helped himself to that, but he decided he wanted a second Lindor. I rather suspect that if I hadn't seen him with his hand in the box I would have gone to it this evening for a chocolate and found it empty.

I struggle not to steal Easter eggs from my own child. Any food in my house is fair game

You are married, so I don't understand why it matters who bought them?

Sounds like he needs to improve his eating habits, but shouting rules is ridiculous, perhaps sit down and have a sensible conversation about his health and why you are worried.

It's annoying that your DH is basically behaving like there is no one else in the house that might want to eat them - whether it's this chocolate or anything else. If he is seriously hovering up that much of treaty type food, I'd have a word. My DH could kill a whole box of Tunnocks in one go - not healthy but also it is annoying when the ratio becomes, one me, seven him over the course of a day or so?!

If my husband told me ‘only one a day’ I’d find that incredibly patronising….and I’d definitely not have only one a day.

Me too! I couldn’t get past the OP being in Wilko - had to look at the date of the post. Thought she’d gone back in time. Not a day goes past when I don’t think “could’ve just picked that up in Wilko”. Yesterday - cat treats, doormats and batteries. Today - tea lights and photo frame. My best hairbrush ever was £1 from there, only bought it to put in my work locker but it’s better than my Aveda one!
Sorry to go off topic OP, I prefer savoury snacks so I’m no help really 😂

I just really don’t get this Mumsnet thing about hiding food/sweets. I would expect small children to be able to share properly, never mind teens and adults. It’s just bizarre!

No as I'm normal

You are both gluttonous. I rarely indulge in chocolate - I’m so full after my massive salads. At times I have been gifted a box of Lindor, and honestly, a lick is MORE than sufficient. It can take me over week to reach the sacred inner chocolate.

I’m proud to show such restraint and glad I’m still the same weight and size I was at 7.

Your DH sounds repulsive and you must continue to remonstrate and humiliate him before he completely lets himself go. I’d get the ick if my DP wantonly gorged on chocolate.

It's more reasonable to tell him not to eat your chocolate in the first place than it is to tell him 'one a day'. Tell him to get his own.

Wow really you need to cut down I've managed to get down to my birth weight 💅

The responses to this are so odd. Why can’t a grown adult have some self control and not eat all the ‘treat’ someone else has bought?

Hide them.

You lost me at ‘cook from scratch’ as if that makes you somehow beyond reproach.

They’re either for sharing or not. If not, keep them for yourself but enough with the ‘one a day’ nonsense.

I feel your pain, OP. Santa knows that I like Lindor, so he put some in my stocking. I put them in a glass dish on the side in my dining room, and had maybe one or two on Christmas Day. We had family round on Boxing Day and SIL proceeded to help herself to my Lindors all afternoon, and ate them all.

Where is the share properly part? He is eating them all before she even has a chance. Where is the respect?

So many people calling the OP ridiculous because of the 'one a day comment'.

Very few mentioning that this is an adult unable to respect his wife and stuffing his face on the chocolates that he knows are special for her.

So am I. Just sometimes like to make them last a bit longer.

OMG. Is a big pre schooler?!

clearly something else amiss here.

If you don’t want him to eat Your chocolate, hide it. Or tell him it is only for you.

but don’t baby him. You are not his mother.

Normal? Its giving disorder eating nobody eats half a lindor

I get you OP, my DH is similar and not just with chocolate. I bought Satsumas the other week, he'd eaten 5 in a day and there was just 1 left. Had a long day at work, was really looking forward to a cuppa and a chocolate digestive as I knew I'd seen them in the biscuit tin the day before but no, none left by the time I got there. The disappointment was real.
No idea what the solution is, apart from at the cinema when I insist he buys separate popcorn as he'll wolf it down before the film has started and I'm left with crumbs at the bottom of the box.
He always says things are there to be eaten but I want to enjoy things when I want them, not competitive eat them just to get 'my' share!
Soooo frustrating when you're looking forward to something and it's gone.

One a day is strange! I could easily eat 5-10

A pig for eating more than a single chocolate in one day?! What?!

OP i cant believe you told an adult off for eating a second chocolate you sound absolutely awful, so controlling!
Lindor chocolates arent very big, eating two of them is no worse than eating say a chocolate bar like a mars bar, would you have snapped and said 'only 1 bite per day' at that?!

Have you lot ever thought your husbands are so hungry because you feed a family of 4 a chicken over a week with a giant salad

I do. I just said I did. So ‘nobody eats half a Lindor’ isn’t true as I do. I suspected I might get a horror reaction. At it seems eating a Lindor in two goes because I want to enjoy a bit now and a bit later is ‘eating disorder’ whereas other posters who’ve admitted eating a full box in one go….isnt?

In recent years, DH and I have increasingly had separate food cupboards and separate areas in the fridge.

That was mainly because we tended towards eating different things. I was into nuts, seeds, avocado, nut butters, wholemeal sourdough bread, pulses, dark chocolate and other such healthy stuff (well, it's what I deem to be healthy anyway!). He was into sausages, meat, cakes, white bread, chocolate biscuits and so on.

A few months ago, things changed when DH was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. Now he no longer eats all the cakes and biscuits, but we have largely retained our separate food areas. I got annoyed when I went to have some peanut butter and found that he'd eaten it all and not mentioned it, so I hadn't bought any more as I thought I had plenty left. He now buys and scoffs his own and it's kept separately from mine. 😂

Separate houses is quite appealing, because he's so messy and leaves stuff all over the place. I was quite tempted when the next-door house went up for sale! 🤣

Poor bastard, you don’t like him do you. Hide the poxy “lindor” since it matters so much.

I’m not competitively under eating. I just occasionally do a Lindor in two goes.