Husband and Lindor

[Clementina49er]

A couple of weeks ago we were in Wilko together and he added a bx of Lindor in some weird flavour (possibly Baileys) to my shopping basket for which I paid without comment. They went on a shelf in the kitchen and I had maybe two out of the box before discovering the empty box a mere two days later. I made no comment but I must admit I thought "that's a lot of chocolate to eat between meals in such a short time."
Ten days later I saw a box of Lindor dark chocolate mint flavour in Sainsburys so I bought them. I have a bit of a thing for dark chocolate and mint.... but a box of Bendicks lasts me at least a fortnight.
The Lindor went in the cupboard but I'd have one from to time to time in the evening with a cup of coffee after my meal.... they weren't "hidden " as such because DH is perfectly capable of opening the cupboard door.... but I know what he's like with chocolate, sweets and biscuits and a packet left anywhere visible in the kitchen will be empty before you can say "I was looking forward to eating one of those"... After lunch I noticed him go and help himself to one of the Lindor.... I made no comment, and decided I'd have one too..... I did notice there weren't many left in the box butagain, I didn't comment.... he's a grown man.
However, when I saw with his hand in the box less than an hour later something snapped and I said "only one a day": he was very offended, but he knows where the supermarket is and has enough money to buy his own damn chocolate if he wants to make a pig of himself.... He is noticeably overweight and has a sweet tooth as well as a love of alcohol and fatty foods. I cook from scratch and we eat healthy, nutritious, filling meals so I really hate to see the crap he eats in between times, not because he's hungry, but because it's there.He buys bags of Doritos and creamy dips, adds mayonnaise to meals which have their own sauce and puts 3tsp of sugar in his coffee. I make no comment about any of this, but AIBU to set a rule that expensive chocolate which I have bought is limited to one a day? There is actually other chocolate in plain view on the table, so he could have helped himself to that, but he decided he wanted a second Lindor. I rather suspect that if I hadn't seen him with his hand in the box I would have gone to it this evening for a chocolate and found it empty.

You need to learn to hide them better. Have you thought of keeping them in your knickers? Then if he wants chocolate... well things could get very interesting!

We buy our food together but we buy our own treats.

If one of my family kept finishing my treats, I would not be happy.

I'm so disappointed by all the people saying "well, you can't expect any better, hide/don't buy them"

He's an adult. No adult should ever need to be hiding food from another adult in a house. That, far more than having to remind him not to chow them all down with no consideration for anyone else, would be babying/controlling him.

It's a very simple case of willpower and acknowledgement that "I have been asked not to indiscriminately over-consume this treat food that my partner bought".

If you can't expect that very basic level of consideration in terms of food (where he could, and apparently does, buy his own very easily), then how do you expect any consideration on anything bigger, such as not cheating?

"Well, I saw it, and I wanted it, and I never think about anyone else usually, so you can't be mad at me about it this time..." 🙄

My boyfriend is the same...anything sweet around and he'll eat the whole thing there and then. I just don't buy sweet treats anymore, dessert for us both is always fruit now, maybe some dark chocolate, ...with the exception of birthdays, christmas, easter etc.

I'd be more likely to say, "Oi, those are MY chocolates, get your sticky fingers out of them and eat your own chocolate."

Why so mean? Certainly, he's overweight but one chocolate a day? That's a bit Scroogy.
But let him buy his own if he likes. You should organise his diet better, though. Nothing you can do about sugar but you can stop buying snacks and you can cook healthily without loads of fat etc - he won't notice.
A few chocolates is not his problem!

Quarters ? Feeds a family of 4 no drama 🤣

I wouldn't hide them, I would just buy a lockable tin and put them in there.

That isn't hiding them so he can't complain.

He can do the same.

That's the point. He can't regulate his own food intake.

Holy fuck how an earth do you have the will power for one a day. Bananas and YABU

If the OP has the self-discipline to limit herself to one a day, why on earth should she be deprived of her little treat just because her husband has no restraint?

Hide the Lindor, OP. He can buy his own chocolate.

Well, if he's finding your hidden chocolate stash, you're not doing a good enough job of hiding it. I'd find a really good spot and use it. If he still finds it, oh well! I'd then tell him plainly that I have to hide it or else he'll eat it all, and if he doesn't like being told the truth, he can stop bringing it up.

You're in a mixed marriage, OP - between one person who has good self-control around food and one who doesn't.

One Lindor a day is crazy. What's the point of having them?? I think 3-4 is much more reasonable.

Yup. Me too.

Your children are made of chocolate??

You sound very controlling, no wonder he comfort eats.

I’m very confused. Surely you mean one box a day?

This is why I buy posh chocolate, hide it and eat it all myself.

I can polish off a box of Lindt D'or chocolates in one sitting. 😂 I suspect I'm probably not the only one!

My husband and i have our own treat boxes.

Treats are divided into the boxes and once they're gone, there're gone.

Babe, you weird!

Lindt should make this into their Christmas advert. A husband constantly taking his wife’s chocolates and going on the bad list then realising at the last minute he hadn’t got her a gift going to find some lindor balls but they’ve all sold out! Then he goes on a magical Xmas quest with Santa to wherever they are meant to be from (some kind of picturesque European chocolate place) manages to get a box and gets home in time. Wraps them and puts under the tree. But in the night hears a noise goes downstairs and sees Santa tempted by them so whispers ‘only one !’

Hide the Lindor where he can’t find it ,, my DH would eat the whole lot in one go , really grinds my gears

Who the feck is ANYONE to tell their DH 'Just one a day!!!'?!!!

If mine said that to me I'd tell him to fuck right off.

Why can't you just have a normal conversation in which you tell him you want them to last and to go buy more if he wants more?

No. That's crazy and smacks of disordered eating.