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MIL called me cruel for putting DD in the crèche at the gym

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Ganes · 05/11/2025 00:16

I have 2 DC, I work part time 3 days a week, my eldest is 4 and my youngest turned 2 in August. Since my DC were 3 months (the minimum age) I’ve been putting them in the crèche at my gym for an hour while I go to a class or do a work out. Right now our set up is generally on my two non working days I drop my oldest at school, we drive to the gym, DD goes into the crèche for an hour roughly from 9.15-10.15, we have a little play in the play area then either stay at the gym for swimming or go to a toddler ballet class from 11-11.30. The rest of the day we play together, make lunch together all sorts. She doesn’t always nap now but I do put her down for a nap around 1.30 sometimes she just plays in her room other times she will nap, then she is back up at 2 and we get another hour of play before picking up big sister from school at 3.15 (only a 5 or so minute walk away). I’ve done this with both my DDs, and typically on Saturdays both DH and I go to the gym together and the girls spend an hour in the crèche.
Tonight MIL said this was cruel and I clearly don’t enjoy my children’s company very much. MIL is usually lovely and is very supportive so this took me by surprise and now I’m wondering, is it cruel!
I really enjoy going to the gym, I feel it improves my mental health and I obviously can’t go while I’m at work! DH tends to go 2-3 mornings a week before going to work so he gets his time to go.

AIBU putting my DC in the crèche at our gym?

OP posts:
Cherrytree86 · 06/11/2025 20:33

cherish123 · 06/11/2025 18:00

Once in a while, okay. Every week, lazy parenting. I'm with your MIL. Unless dd loves it, YABU.

@cherish123

kinda the opposite of lazy considering she is leaving her daughter in a crèche to do an hours workout in the gym.

do you not think that exercise is important ?

CharlotteByrde · 06/11/2025 21:17

It is NOT lazy parenting to put your child in a creche and go the gym for an hour. That's ridiculous nonsense.

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