Friend dumps junk on me

[MyameVyce]

My friend keeps dumping her unwanted stuff on me. Stuff is in bad condition and it would be unfair to send it to charity shop and no one would take it for free even. That leaves the option of taking it to the tip which is really hard for me to do because I’m on my own with a 1 year old. getting to the tip that’s 10miles away at the weekend, and getting the stuff into the right bins without DC having a meltdown because I’ve left her in the car is not fun .

Recent examples of these gifts are a broken bread maker that I don’t have a clue how to fix, a mouldy bouncy chair (black mould), newborn clothes when my DC is 1, and a set of rusty pans. This time it’s a grotty old mini fridge and the door doesn’t shut well.

She brings this rubbish every time I invite her round. I tell her: no. Please take it away, I don’t need it/want it. And she says oh that’s fine, take it to charity or pass it on if it’s not for you. I’ve told her that it’s not easy for me to get stuff loaded up in car to take to charity/the dump and then she just ends up leaving it behind anyway. I think she does it so she can feel eco because it’s not her sending stuff to landfill.

I live in a small space with no storage. I’m super peeved that I’m having to spend the weekend sorting out disposing of a fridge instead of doing something I want to do with my kid!

AIBU to load up the car and take the fridge and the rest back to her tomorrow AM?

Stop inviting her round.

If she asks why, tell her it's because 1.)you don't have the room to store the things she's giving you. 2.)None of it is any use to you

She is a CF! You should text her and tell her to collect it! But she probably won't so take it back to her.

Tell her you don't want her broken junk.
You're abode is not the council tip.👍

You’ve already told her no, and she doesn’t listen to you, so no it’s not unreasonable to do them back at her place. She’ll probably get arsey with you, but sod it

100% you need to drop it back off at hers. Tell her clearly you don't want or need any stuff and she's not to bring anymore crap to your house or you'll stop having her round.

When she leaves, put it back in her car and don't let her leave without it. Or stop inviting her round. She's using you to assuage her waster's guilt.

You have to pay to dispose of a fridge!! Absolutely take it all back.

I was going to say refuse to let her in with anything in her hand, but taking it all back to her is miles better!

Bonus points for breezily saying ‘oh just take it to the tip if it’s not for you’

Bag all of the shit up and dump it on her doorstep. The CF is using you as her free skip.

Don’t let her come round anymore she’s taking the piss

This person is not your friend.

Youre not Bagpuss.😁

How can you call this person a friend? Dont invite her round anymore.

Yeah I’d either put it straight in the bin in front of her or next time you go to her take a huge black bag (ie so that it looks clearly like rubbish) and leave it in her house (ideally along with a few things you were hoping to get rid of)

as above.

Do not invite her around anymore.

I despair. How do people get themselves in these situations? If any of my friends did this, I would be telling them to take it away. If they refused, I would make it clear that I am not happy. If they left without the rubbish, I would be dumping it back at their house and not letting them visit again. Why are you just accepting this??

Essentially YOU are allowing this to happen.

If she tried this on with me she'd be swiftly leaving WITH these items!

That's bonkers. If you want to keep her as a friend, tell her she will not be invited back into your house until she stops dumping stuff on you.

If you don't care, stop inviting her over or stop any contact.

Stop inviting her round and if you can’t do that, don’t let her leave without it. Physically put it in her car if necessary as I’m assuming she has to drive to your house with all this junk.

Leave it all on her door step and say I told you I didn’t want it.

@B1anche Exactly this.

I can't imagine men getting this treatment from their mates. Sharp words would be exchanged very briskly.

You have to pay to dispose of a fridge because of the gases inside it.

Put it all in the car and take it back to her. Leave it by her front door if needed. To soften things you could send a message along the lines of "thank you for thinking of me but I don't have room for the items you brought round so I've given them back to you." That's gentler than "Stop dumping all your crap on me."

Keep returning things until she stops.

I do tell her to take it away! The fridge ended up staying because she was over for dinner, I put DC to bed, she kept waking die to teething so in the end I asked my friend if she could let herself out. I’d told her to take fridge back and rehome it elsewhere.she left it next to the shoe rack instead of taking it. I text her immediately to say hey, you’ve left your fridge. Can you come back and get it. It’s blocking the hallway. She said she wouldn’t be back this was again for a few weeks and I she didn’t mind if I gifted it on 😡

I’ve looked it up nearest tiP doesn’t seem to take fridges. Looks like you have to pay the council to come and remove it. I’m definitely sending it back. Good idea about the slightly nicer message.

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