Is my husband and close family right about her?

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Bit of background - this friend and I are both late thirties, I got married last year (met by lots of comments about my engagement ring and new marital home being OTT by her which I let go - they are not BTW three bed and a classic round cut 2c diamond but an upgrade from my 1 bedroom flat 🤣). She has been in a LTR for about 10 years with a guy, she is keen to settle down and he moves to various countries for work which she follows. She is keen to get married and have 3 children. We have know each other since mid 20’s. Now we are 39.

After a few years of trying - 2 miscarriages this year and a referral for IVF I somehow by a miracle fell pregnant this summer. I am due in Spring time which correlates with a friends wedding in Italy which I likely will not be able to attend due to my gravid / potentially post partum state. Upon receipt of my pregnancy news the above friend, mentioned how my timing and planning was poor for the pregnancy due to the upcoming nuptials, rolling her eyes and even messaged to check if ‘I have told her yet’ several times, as the bride will be disappointed in me and she is keen for her reaction. I was so upset I messaged the bride to be and she is just delighted I am pregnant and happy for us to be in attendance at her local wedding instead in due course.

my husband and sisters want me to leave this friendship now. I have never actually seen my husband so angry and my sister looked like she was going to cry when I told her. My husband asked if she knew about the MCs and IVF referral for which I said yes.

Any advice on how to approach this? Am I feeling more upset by this with my pregnancy hormones?

This isn’t a friend OP, sorry. Friends pick eachother up during their worst moments and congratulate eachother at their best, she should be happy for you. Ultimately it comes down to her personal circumstances but that’s life, it doesn’t give her the right to put you down for yours, especially if it’s good news. This won’t get better, I would leave the friendship as is x

Back away. She's digging for info that's not her business.

I'd block her myself.

Her OCD is for her to manage. I think it's just nosiness and she wants to start trouble if possible. You have better things to do.

OP what do you get from this relationship?

Friendships should improve your life.

It is nothing to do with ocd at all. I had a 'friend' like that who literally devoured information about me just to try bait me with it at a later stage and when I did finally walk away from the friendship she pretty much blackmailed me and said she knew too much about me for me to walk away from her. I did anyway and she told everyone my business but fuck it was worth to get the toxic twat out of my life anyway by then. I had fed her a few lies too over the time so a lot of people laugh at her anyway now.

And you’re friends with her because….? FFS OP your DH is right, she sounds a right weirdo!! You know this. Please keep ignoring, and I would phase her out, she sounds far too intense and jealous

Are you getting some kind of masochistic pleasure from this OP? It sounds deranged. Ditch the bitch. Just ghost her and don't respond to anything. Block her number.