Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

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Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

YANBU

It is beyond rude. Is it too late to send them packing?

YANBU that would make me mad. Tell them you are busy!

Very rude. Parents/in-laws? Siblings?

Wtf.

Just no. Who could possibly think this is acceptable??!!

Sending wine OP x

At 60 miles, they live around an hour away?

Why on earth do they need to stay over?

I’d be annoyed by that. Impromptu lunch, fine. Actual overnight stay? GTFO.

Unspeakably rude.
But then they can only take advantage if you let them. Tell them you have plans and send them packing or you will be stuck with this appalling behaviour for years

YANBU! I never understand people who do this.

How does that go down?

Knock knock: hiya, SURPRISE! We thought we'd come and stay 2 nights at your house! What's for tea?

YANBU at all. I think that it's incredibly rude to drop by unannounced, let alone assume that you can stay with someone without asking or checking first. Can you tell them that you have plans this weekend and send them back?

I just want to be on my own.

60 miles isn’t that far at all, I’d have made them a meal/offered tea and biscuits (time-depending) if I was feeling generous and made it clear that my own plans for the weekend don’t involve them staying. Don’t become a doormat.

Say no?
Use your words to say you are busy. An hour and a cup of tea and off they trot. They can’t just turn up uninvited! I am assuming they have form for this?

Who is it though? That makes a huge amount of difference. If it was my parents, (sadly no longer with us), I would have been delighted.

Depends on who it is and how you get along with them I'd say.

So tell them you're off out tonight, so they'll have to leave at 6. Then start getting yourself changed and hand them their coats. Push them out the door if you have to.

Fake phone call to a friend, "yes sure I'll be round there soon".
Byeeee!
Shut the door behind them, switch the telly on.

So they’ve literally tipped up with overnight bags? You could have had plans.

Have they done this before?

60 miles to stay unannounced ? Stupid

60 miles? A cup of tea and a snack is all they need before they can drive home, that’s nothing.

I’m guessing that it’s your parents or a sibling? One of DH’s sisters has form for just announcing that she’s coming to stay. DH turned the tables on her earlier this year and said that he was staying with her for a night and she made a right fuss initially. It all worked out in the end but her reaction was funny. 😂

Well you can have your weekend - send them away. You aren't being rude, they are.

This is madness. Them for thinking this is ok and you for allowing it!

I don't do unannounced- and everyone who knows me knows it. This is rude, entitled and inconsiderate. They live an hour or so away...? I'd firmly say it is not convenient! They can return home.

If you don't feel you can just tell them to leave tell them you've got a really horrible stomach bug so they can't stay.

What a shame you are away for the weekend!