Fed up with DP going on about his mates new partner

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As above - we met her for the first time at the weekend. When she went to the loo, my DP dramatically said to his friend HOW ON EARTH HAVE YOU MANAGED THAT and kept saying he is punching.

On the way home, he kept shaking his head and saying he doesn’t know how he has done it, and multiple references since this week including about her job being really good and how they’ll afford load of holidays etc. We are a bit stretched financially currently with young DC etc.

Last night I asked him if he was going to stop going on about her at any point and he got a bit defensive. Saying he’s happy for his mate, that he’s complimented them as a match and ‘it’s not like I’ve turned around and said I want to bury my tounge in her arse’.

AIBU to find repeated comments excessive?

Ew. He sounds charming

Ugh. I would hate this and hate him for it. YANBU.

Wow, he went defensive pretty hard!

Obviously took a shine to her

I can’t for one minute believe this is the first time this man has been disrespectful to you.

YANBU what a creep, cringe!

YABU to put up with it though, yes

Oh, he really does 'want to bury his tongue in her arse'. He is disgusting. I hope he has some good points

Does he always use such grim language? Can't imagine my partner saying anything like that.

Your boyfriend is a knuckle-dragging neanderthal.
And you can tell him I said that.

There's 'a bit defensive' and then there's 'utterly repulsive'. Your DP falls firmly into the second category.

Yeah that’s grim.

He's showed you where you are on his pecking order… it’s up to you what you do with that info now.

🤮

Hope this is fake and no one would actually use that expression. Repulsed is the only word.

He can be matter of fact, which he always puts down to the nature of his job (trade) and the company he is in with that.

I’d go right off him tbh. I’m not a LTB type but one thing I know is once the attraction has gone for me, it’s gone, and it’s not coming back. I think I’d tell him to toddle off and find himself a higher standard trophy woman, and wish him all the luck in the world in doing so, because he’s going to need it, accompanied by a peal of derisive laughter.

Oh he is 100% talking about other woman is this way behind your back at work

That’s not matter of fact though. That’s just gross. Does he always say such repulsive rude things to you? How does he treat you generally?

He's pissed off his mate has the hot bird and is jealous. No doubt because he thinks he's 'stuck' or 'settled' for you. Hence him lashing out at you with his nasty comment. Because he's an insufferable prick himself and you could do better...

I would start beagging about some female friend of your boyfriend, what a good looking guy with a great job, how lucky she is and how she has hit the lotto, childish yeah.. but maybe the only way he will get it.

Well he sure knows how to make you feel good doesn’t he - Hope he has some very good points because he isn’t coming over at all well .

Would some check for me ? Are we living in 2025 ?
And I'm afraid the bury my tongue would see me single in a nano-second.

He sounds disgusting

His turn of phrase would turn me off let alone him going on about this woman.

He really doesn’t have to verbalise every thought in his head.

That Is hideous behaviour and is disrespectful to you regardless of whether he admits it or not. Clearly he has had that exact thought.

Being a tradie isn't a race to the bottom

They've just started dating and he already thinks his mate is entitled to her money.