Fed up with DP going on about his mates new partner

[Cheysdiary]

As above - we met her for the first time at the weekend. When she went to the loo, my DP dramatically said to his friend HOW ON EARTH HAVE YOU MANAGED THAT and kept saying he is punching.

On the way home, he kept shaking his head and saying he doesn’t know how he has done it, and multiple references since this week including about her job being really good and how they’ll afford load of holidays etc. We are a bit stretched financially currently with young DC etc.

Last night I asked him if he was going to stop going on about her at any point and he got a bit defensive. Saying he’s happy for his mate, that he’s complimented them as a match and ‘it’s not like I’ve turned around and said I want to bury my tounge in her arse’.

AIBU to find repeated comments excessive?

He was talking about stuffing his tongue into her arsehole. How is that not derogatory?

First of all, how is that derogatory?

Have you never said you wanted to do something to a man before?

And second of all, he never said he wanted to do it - he said it to OP and said it’s not like he did say it.

If I was talking about a male colleague and my DP had implied I was going on about him too much then I would have said similar.

Reminds me of the time my ex came in from a night out with his mate and his new girlfriend.
He staggered into the bedroom and proceeded to tell me how mates new girlfriend was "fit as fuck" and how lucky he was to be "shagging that top notch pussy tonight" 🙄
Yes I dumped him the next day.

He's not "matter of fact" he's utterly disgusting.

‘it’s not like I’ve turned around and said I want to bury my tounge in her arse’.

I just clamped shut.

You sound nice.

YANBU he’s trying to neg you. He knows what he’s doing. You should start making similar comments about men you both know.

Talking about another woman’s arsehole is not derogatory? You must have some low standards if you think it’s normal for your partner to talk like that to you.

And no, I’ve never spoke about another man’s arsehole to a partner.

WTF. I have lived my entire life around and with tradesmen. No idea how they talk at work/ around only men - I could imagine it's not all that delicate at times - but none of them would ever talk like this in front of me, or any other woman. And tbh I'd be kind of shocked if they said that about a woman, even just to other men. Because, they're not misogynistic teenagers whose only experience of sex is porn.

It sounds like your partner has also achieved significantly above his level, relationship-wise.

Disrespectful as fuck. I have known a few men do this, have mentionitis about a certain woman - a mate's partner or wife, a neighbour, a work colleague etc, and I wonder if they do it purely to neg their wife/girlfriend. They do get limerance sometimes, but it's so rude, and disrespectful to their wife/partner. And they do get defensive because they can't see what they've done wrong. No real advice though sorry @Cheysdiary Question is, does he do it often, and if so, do you want to put up with this for the rest of your life?

Vile language from him but you do sound insecure and jealous. After all he just seems happy for his mate that he’s found someone great.

Yes he’s obviously thought about it for that comment to come up. Grim.

Good grief, he sounds about 15 years old and a crude, immature and thoughtless 15 year old at that

If she offered it, your DP would deffo shag her, LTB

😂

Yep OP. Your partner is also definitely punching.
You should recognise this.

🤢 what a disgusting turn of phrase!

He fancies her.

I thought that. It isn’t an excuse to act like a fucking Neanderthal. He didn’t pull that lovely line from the clear blue sky, he’s been thinking about doing exactly that.

‘it’s not like I’ve turned around and said I want to bury my tounge in her arse’

Strong echoes of Tubbs randomly shouting "We didn't burn him!" League of Gentlemen when the police ask her if she and Edward have seen a missing hiker.

Yuk

Well, you now know exactly what’s been going through this prince’s mind. I’ve got the ick from here.

Mentionitis, crude and vulgar.

YANBU

That one line alone would kill it for me. I split from someone once because during a disagreement he said ‘just because you think your shit don’t stink’. That was it, end of.

Your ‘dp’ has no class and is coarse. Yuck.

@Cucy how low is your bar?