How to ask for my money? Girl’s night out a couple of weeks ago.

[brownalien]

I paid for a fair bit, everyone else has transferred the money back. Friend in question text to ask for bank details, I sent them, she still hasn’t transferred. Awkward.
We’re not hugely close (if we were I would just chalk it up and probably she’d get the next round in when we next went out). I’m finding it annoying more than anything else. Before anyone says - there are definitely zero financial issues.

Just send a reminder with the bank details attached again.
It's not awkward for you, but for her

'Hi, just doing my banking and realised I haven't had your money from x date. It's £42 - please can you transfer today? Thanks'

I would just message and say "can't remember if I gave you my bank details for that £X, here they are. Just give me a message when you've transferred it over. Was a great night"

Hopefully she just forgot.

Hi friend. I noticed you'd not transferred over said money. Here are my bank details again. Ill need this urgently so please transfer soon as you can. See you on the night out!

You have to be direct but polite. No extra language. “Please can you transfer £x, here are my bank details again”. Thanks brown

“hiya <friend>, did you do the transfer yet, if so can you let me know what date so I can find it on my statement? Thanks”

Hopefully this will nudge her into “gosh sorry I forgot! Will do asap” and she will.

If there are zero financial issues and she hasn’t got form for being a CF I would assume it is oversight rather than on purpose.

Hi friend, just checking that you got my details, as I can't see your payment in my account. Cheers, Brownalien

I feel so awkward sending bank details again. I’m so so rubbish at being assertive. I always assume the other person won’t appreciate me doing that

I wouldn't appreciate someone not paying me back. It's irrelevant if she is miffed by a reminder for something she should have done ages ago. Just send them again and ask if she can please reimburse you by the weekend.

If she’s already ask for your details that helps & shouldn’t be awkward.

I’d approach it as “hi, just checking if you did send payment over as I haven’t received anything yet. Might just not have updated yet but thought I’d mention in case there’s been an issue. Thanks!”

I dont understand why people find this so difficult. You just ask.

Did you ever send that cash, I can't see it? Or similar.

sod what they appreciate. They appreciated you paying, it’s time to settle up. Maybe she hasn’t paid because she thinks you’ll let her get away with it

Definitely not!

More than likely she has just forgotten, and will be very grateful that you told her.

If she is a cheeky stealer- now she knows that you aren’t a soft touch and will think twice about doing it again.

Just copy and paste what someone here has said, and press send.

And I probably will!

I don't think you need to worry about what she thinks. She's either completely forgotten, will be horrified and glad of the reminder (most likely) or she's hoping you'll be too embarrassed to remind her (and why would you let her get away with that?).

So don’t resend.

just ask if she sent as not received yet & you might need to chase up with bank as your app is a bit rubbish!

easy & I’m a very passive person!

I tend to go with the slight 'playing dumb' approach 'please can you let me know if/when transfered X amount from our night out, I can't seem to find it on my account and just wanted to check I haven't missed it'. I also struggle with being direct though

I agree with PP: it's awkward for her, not for you.

You can always say something like "I couldn't remember if I actually sent my bank details when you asked before - apologies if I forgot! It came to £X each to pay for the night out. Thanks."

You're hardly being assertive, just making sure she got your details. If she still doesn't pay then you will have to be assertive.

Hi Friend
Can you pay me back the £xx from Y night please - CC bill due to be paid . Fun night must do it again soon. Thanks !

'Tracey, you cheeky cow. You still haven't paid me back for the bottomless brunch. Are you going to pay up?'

Is another option.

You're not being assertive, you're just asking for money that you're owed.

Just text her again.

Stop being such a wet lettuce op.

How much are we talking?

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