Ultrasound childcare

[Momofboys97]

Mondays my mom usually looks after my eldest son at my house while I'm working from home, they are both retired but we only ask them for help on one day a week.

She told me that they couldn't do one particular Monday because they had decorators come in for the entire week and both my mom and dad need to be there to move furniture around. I thought it was odd but I said that's fine I'll just work around it however I've now been referred for a growth scan for my second child and they have asked me to come on the first day of my parents decorating.

This was the first appointment available I was able to attend and without thinking I booked it, the lady on the phone was extremely rude to me about it being so far in the future but the other times were just unachievable with our other child.

I asked my parents while I knew they had decorators if just my mom could spare a couple of hours on that day to look after my eldest and they said no because they both need to be there to move furniture around for the decorator I said wouldn't your furniture have been moved the day before, still they declined and creating a drama out of the decorators coming, my last message to them was that my husband would have to miss the scan because we have no other childcare and I'll have to go my own and my own mother has completely ignored it.

I'm so upset about the lack of support here, we don't ask a lot of them compared to a lot of people I know, this is obviously an ad-hoc request but it is on a day they would normally have him anyway if it weren't for the decorators.

AIBU?

I went to 10 growth type scans with my first due to a serious risk, I just went alone as my DH was at work, most people I know do. Your DH could bring your child to the hosp and wait outside for moral support. The actual scan is only a few minutes and your toddler might be a nice distraction if you are fretting.

They are busy. You f'd up scheduling your appointment. That doesn't make it your parents responsibility to change their plans, for you. Your husband can watch your child. Your plans are not more important than theirs.

So you feel entitled to free child care.....

Did you not read the post? Her parents are booked! They have something already planned for the day, they warned OP about. Something costing them lots of money.

Because decorators charge more to move furniture.

That means you are extremely entitled, and ungrateful to your parents. OP screwed up, that doesn't make her lack of babysitter an emergency for her parents, who warned her weeks before, they would be busy, period.

Yes I read the post abd suggested her husband help with the furniture moving. Assuming, rightly or wrongly, he may be in a physically more able state to move furniture than her mum.

But did you not read my whole reply? I also suggested husband and child go with her and wait in the waiting room.

Not sure you you're being so snippy at me? 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦‍♀️

You’re being dramatic. ‘Scared to go alone’?!? It’s just a scan. Your mum is probably fed up with your drama too. Just let your husband look after your child - he could even come with you in the hospital for support afterwards if you’re concerned as children are allowed in hospitals, just not in the room itself when you're having the scan. What a load of fuss about nothing. It is not like you’re a single parent.

I can't believe how nasty a lot of these posts are! I don't think you're unreasonable at all @Momofboys97 it sounds like you've offered your parents lots of ways they could make it work without impacting their plans too much and for something important like a scan you'd think they'd make more of an effort to help out.

I hope your scan goes well 💐

Wants it removed because she doesn't like the answers she is getting. 🤷

I don't understand you're not willing to be flexible with your plans but your parents must be with theirs to fit around yours.

Growth scans are for the most part not an emergency, I went to most of mine myself and I've had traumatic pregnancies and multiple miscarriages.

I can't believe the entitlement of yourself and some people. It's as if when your parents are retired, they are simply not allowed a life of their own or to make any plans at all as they must be on standby by 24/7 to provide childcare at the drop of a hat. Failure to do so means they can't possibly have any help when they are older.

It sucks but your husband will have to miss the scan. My husband attended 0 scans with our 4th because of childcare. It was a huge ask to get my mil to have our 2 youngest when I went in for my cesarean! I nearly had to go that alone

@Momofboys97

It sounds like your parents are rather anxious which is why they stick to their routines and can’t cope to deviate.

I hope the scan went well, and that you have a lovely time away before the big change. I think that was a lovely idea!