To be sick and tired of DP’s requests?

[Newjob25]

We are two years in, and every time we are going to be intimate, DP asks me to dress up in something.

Started off with lingerie, now it’s ’oh do you have any leather’, or if we are watching TV - ‘do you have some boots like her for later’.

The odd occasion - absolutely fine. But it’s become a chore now.

He said I should feel sexy getting dressed up and seeing how much he enjoys it.

AIBU to say enough is enough?

Just say no. Tell him it's all a bit much and he can start dressing up for you.

He's being really entitled.

I'd dress up a character from a horror film, maybe Hannibal Lecter complete with mask

🤣

That's a whole other fetish

That doesn't work for me.

That simple.

He's a cheeky fecker. He'll try to talk his way around excuses and guilt you into not 'doing it for him'.

If he doesn't get the hint, a 'Fuck, no!' might suffice.

I’m all for spicing things up in the bedroom but this is a major turn off not to mention a bloody faff having to get dressed up every time he wants sex, either your own naked body is enough or it’s not you don’t need to put up with this shit.

He would be dumped he sounds like a creep ffs

He’s obviously in to dominating you in one way or another. And it seems you played ball at the beginning so he needs to understand that sex isn’t just for his pleasure, it involves the two of you. So it seems to me you would have been fine if this was a bit more 50/50 - some of the sex he likes and some that you like.

the comment ‘why don’t you wear boots like her’ to a rando on telly would fuck me off tbh.

The ick is strong with this one.

And you know once you've got the ick it doesn't go away.

😅😅

I could of written this myself! I am in the exact same boat! And we are getting married tomorrow

Is there a reason you havent dumped him??!

If you as you are is not enough for him then he isnt good enough for you.

Eeew. That's grim - he wants you to dress up as one of his colleagues. What a sexist pig.

Not too late to call it off.

I wish I had the night before my first wedding when I finally realised what a huge mistake it was. And no, it wasnt "easier to go through with it and get divorced later". It felt like it at the time but honestly, it wasnt.

Use the old MN classic on him “are you on glue?!”

Is he even thinking about you? Or the woman on the tv in the boots/ some woman in the office in a pencil skirt etc? Is it actually a way of fantasising that you’re someone else?

That wouldn’t be for me either. I can’t explain why but perhaps that it’s just too much preparation and would take the fun out of it somehow.

Another vote for telling him he's tedious bore and he needs to fuck right off. He's gross.

As an aside, who buys all these costumes and where do you stash them?

Suspect its more likely that he has a weird porn "storyline" in his head. Boss with secretary etc

And back in the sea he goes. What a massive ick

Who wears ‘pencil skirts’ ? Are they back in fashion without my realising?

my mum used to go on about pencil skirts in the 1980s.
I wasn’t allowed to wear one because ‘they ride up when you sit down’
i didn’t have a fucking clue what she was on about .
how old is this man op? it doesn’t sound like regular people chat.
Sounds like he was texting after waking from his fever dream

Please don't marry him. Sounds like he is a tedious, selfish sexist pig as well.

Please ask him to dress up as Mr Tumble.

When my son was about 3, I'd imagine being married to Mr Tumble. And just being able to lie in the bath drinking wine and reading a book while he Makatoned my son into a delightful human being.

You are worth some much more than this ...this is just yucky...he doesn't see you as an equal human being. So sorry OP

This text is unbelievable. This reads like something written to a commissioned sex worker. OP @Newjob25 , for your sanity and dignity, I would advise a swift exit without delay.

All kinds of grim