To be sick and tired of DP’s requests?

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We are two years in, and every time we are going to be intimate, DP asks me to dress up in something.

Started off with lingerie, now it’s ’oh do you have any leather’, or if we are watching TV - ‘do you have some boots like her for later’.

The odd occasion - absolutely fine. But it’s become a chore now.

He said I should feel sexy getting dressed up and seeing how much he enjoys it.

AIBU to say enough is enough?

Leave him and leave a blow up doll on his couch. That's clearly all he wants.

If, and that's a big if, you want to keep this selfish dude around, tell him he's turned sex into a dreaded chore with his constant wardrobe special requests. You're tired of it. You want sex where your pleasure matters. Not to be treated like a dress up mannequin.

Or just dump. He doesn't really sound with the effort.

Another one that has watched too much porn...
An occasional lingerie set is one thing, but every time?
Would dry me up faster than a roll of Regina Blitz. (Other absorbent cleaning products are available)

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I wouldn't do this even once, plus other particular things regarding sex and men.
I didn't miss on anything, quite the opposite.
Tell him to jog on.

Dump him. Most men find their partner's naked body all the turn on they want. I would be so put off by this man's relentless demands. As a PP said, your guy is pornsick. I find myself wondering if he has erectile dysfunction without all the trappings he requires.

As I said - dump the waste of space bastard. And don't ever worry that you're to blame for any of this. It's all him.

Made me laugh.

Yuk that would put me right off. It’s not you he wants to be intimate with but a fantasy

And he’s doing what exactly to please you? It’s all about him. Honestly, life’s too short to have to explain to someone that not giving the barest thought that you might you have your own desires and needs is a pretty major turnoff. X

Fucking hell, what office does he work in? In what decade? He's fancying himself as Don Draper isn't he? Put on trackies and an oodie and tell him its a wfh day.

That is grim. Basically telling you he’s got the horn from how some of the women in his office are dressed.

finish with this man op, but please learn something from this. Women are not placed on this earth for the entertainment and sexual wants of men. The key word for you would be mutual. It doesn’t sound like this guy gave a second thought to what you might want in bed, just what he does.

Why are you doing something you don't want to do? Say no for Christ's sake!

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@FeliciaFancybottom fucking dying at Mr Ben 😭

Same 😂

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Bring back the Funny button!!!

It's horribly clear what he's placing "front and centre"!

My ex did this. It was fucking tedious.
it also made me feel shit about myself because I wasn’t enough as I was, IYSWIM?
He wouldn’t dress up for me!!
did I mention he is my EX?

BLIPPI

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Yes do this!

Tell him you’d like to urinate on him, then tell him he should want to do it to make you happy. Twat.

I think it's time to send this twat packing. You can do much better than him.

It's wearing isn't it.

OK, I'll be the lettuce if you are the cucumber ... but no onion this time - it makes my eyes water.

So he's telling you he spends his time in the office fantasising about all the women who work there. So they are all sex objects too. He's telling you "I'm a creep".

Dressing up every now and again is fine, but every time you start to get intimate, he wants you to pull a sexy costume out of the bag 🙄 Can he not have sex without you dressing up? If that's the case, then he's got issues, that you can't solve. Have you spoken to him regarding how you feel? Him telling you, how you should feel, is him, not listening to you and minimising your feelings. When he comes over on Friday, expecting you to be wearing a low cut blouse, black pencil skirt and high heels - I'd be wearing a onesie! When he asks where's the sexy outfit, I'd be blunt - I am bored out of my bloody mind dressing up for you every time we have sex. It's tedious and making sex a chore. So no, there won't be a pencil skirt tonight or any other night.

That would give me the major ick