To be sick and tired of DP’s requests?

[Newjob25]

We are two years in, and every time we are going to be intimate, DP asks me to dress up in something.

Started off with lingerie, now it’s ’oh do you have any leather’, or if we are watching TV - ‘do you have some boots like her for later’.

The odd occasion - absolutely fine. But it’s become a chore now.

He said I should feel sexy getting dressed up and seeing how much he enjoys it.

AIBU to say enough is enough?

What if it turned out that’s what he’d wanted all along? And OP had to stand there in her kinky boots with her DH rubbing his Gruffalo paws saying ‘you’ll taste good on a slice of bread!’

🤢

'Absolutely, I am dashing upstairs to get into my PVC boots and French maid costume as you speak. Oh, I'm assuming you are also dashing off to climb into the pants, corset and suspenders of the Frank N Furter costume I'm sure you've provided yourself with. No? You thought only men got bored and needed titillation? Bless.'

Turn it around on him and ask him to dress up up as a fireman, wear a mankini etc.

Ugh. Porn sick, probably. There's nothing hotter than someone being into YOU. Just you. And he will be out there, somewhere.

Hahahahahaaaaaaa!

GENIUS @FeliciaFancybottom 🤣🤣🤣

Another one in favour of this, throw in Mr Bean too for good measure 😁

Tell him a buy a sex doll that he can dress up however he likes. If you're really lucky he'll end up leaving you for her.

I thought you said Mr Bean and was trying to think of a time Mr Bean had worn leather and kinky boots.

Absolutely this. Go find that person, OP.

"men" is a bit of a jump. It's like saying that "women always have a headache"

I don't 😂

He said I should feel sexy getting dressed up and seeing how much he enjoys it.

It's all about his enjoyment.

His enjoyment requires you to dress up in the gear of his choice and that effort should be your turn on. Not things like, say, making sure sex is enjoyable for you.

Ewwwwww. A one sided sex life is not going to go anywhere but downhill

Thanks all. Yesterday was the final straw I think - he had a rare day in the office and text on his lunch: “idea for Friday. You can tell I’ve not been in HO for a while. Pencil skirt?!”

I wouldn't wait for that "luck", I'll be looking for a hot replacement already.

Why should the OP give up on her sex life because she's with the wrong guy

@Newjob25 urgh that text would make my fanny slam shut 🤢

Jesus.

Why are you putting up with it!

He’ll be wanting to wear that pencil skirt himself next 🤮

If you don’t feel turned on by it, don’t do it. We’re not performing monkeys. Just tell him, you know what this dressing up stuff is so not my thing. If he moans about it you know he’s more bothered about what he wants and doesn’t respect you.

If you have made it clear that you do not appreciate his dressing up fantasies, he needs to stop, and find a sex life you both enjoy.

Every time...!! I'd develop an enthusiasm for reading in bed.

😂😂😂😂😂 here …

Fuck that shit, OP. I’d be firing him immediately

That's disgusting. Objectification at it's most obvious. I'm very sex positive and I'd fucking gip at that message. He doesn't want you he just wants anyone in a pencil skirt.

Oh God he sounds revolting.
“Yes, darling, wear a pencil skirt so I can imagine I am fucking the hot new intern instead of you…”
🤮
He really hasn’t got a clue, has he?
Next!

“Do fuck off!” Him, not you

Have you told him how you feel?

I love dressing up, it makes me feel so sexy but doing it to regularly would defeat the purpose.

It’s meant to be a special thing to spice things up every now and then, not do it to death.

How to make dressing up in sexy lingerie and the like really fucking boring? Wearing it all the time.

He sounds tiresome OP. And that message about the pencil skirt… just no.

If he can't get aroused by regular intimate loving sex, he's got issues.

Run.