Is this acceptable in the workplace?

[Middleware]

In a group Teams chat someone has posted asking for some work to be done. Some one (male) has responded that ‘the queue for that is longer than the one for Bonnie Blue’.

Another woman on the chat has pulled him up for this saying it’s an unacceptable comment.

Is this acceptable? My gut is telling me this is not reasonable but I would like to formalize in my head why it isn’t. Misogynistic? Inappropriate reference to porn on a work chat?

Fwiw the bloke is a bit of a twit and the woman is highly respected but known for being a bit prickly

YABU = this is acceptable
YANBU = this is unacceptable

Actually it's the poo emoji that does it for me. Instead of apologising for his inappropriate remark he's actually doubling down and effectively saying her view is shit.
And so now we've moved from mildly inappropriate comment to targeted bullying (or at least starting to). And that would make me want to raise it with HR, maybe informally in the first instance.

It’s people like you who give women a bad name and mean that real sexism and misogyny is easily dismissed.

No, it's the men who found the comment inappropriate and didn't speak up that allow sexism and misogyny to continue without challenge.

Disgusting. Flag it with management and even hr

I’ve really thought over this one OP and if I’m totally honest with myself I think my opinion would depend on how I felt about the people involved generally. I can imagine finding this mildly humorous said by one of my colleagues but absolutely repulsive said by another . Not rational, I know . The emoji makes me suspect that I would not like your colleague and would find him somewhere between annoying and vile .
Not impressed with the other male colleagues … quite cowardly to private message rather than respond publicly.

Considering she was a porn actress yes it is unprofessional and he should be pulled over it.

I had to Google who she is.lol

This ..we all make mistakes but when a "throwaway" comment is offensive..take responsibility & learn! Its not okay to huff & ignore ...especially when it's your manager (who happens to be a woman). It shows a lack of respect as well as immaturity. I would also be p*ssed off, however .. as everywhere else .. we have to pick our battles.I would keep a record of it, even if You don't ’t act on it now.

I’d pull someone up on that as well. For a start, I haven’t a clue how long a Bonnie Blue line is, secondly, I don’t want to know. What I do want to know is how long something is going to feasibly take and when I can expect an update on progress.

It also doesn’t matter what people on here think - whether it’s sexist etc - if someone is offended and it goes to your HR - they will be reprimanded . Remember teams chats aren’t private. Everything you do and say at work can be monitored, so just behave like it is.

I don't know which is worse the misogynistic comment or the completely disrespectful and dismissive poo emoji!!
Initially he was making a poor attempt to be funny, but then to respond back with that gets my back up moreso that I would want to take his lack of professionalism further.

Just wondering if next time instead of calling it out you took a screenshot and forwarded it to HR. Sometimes saying less is more powerful. I find the comments in poor taste and I'm pretty ok with most things

Disagree completely. It is not a professional way to behave at work, unless of course the work at hand is sex work.

Schedule a meeting with him on his return & tell him that his behaviour is unacceptable in the work place & the poo emoji just shows his lack of respect for you & colleagues. Let him know if he does anything like that again you will take it higher with a complaint.