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New neighbour AIBU?

206 replies

Foxyloxymoxy · 04/10/2025 09:31

Our new neighbour knocked on the door just a while ago asking if my Dh who they’ve never met would come in and help them erect their shed. I said that we have plans and we would be out for most of the day. To which she replied “I’d like to do it before it gets dark, we have lots to put in there so we can sort out the house”. To be honest, I didn’t know what to say to that. At this point my dh came to the door , she repeated the question and he hesitated (diy is not his forte!) and said pretty much what I had said. She asked, could he do it later and he replied not really because he has to pack because he’s going away tomorrow. She got a bit upset, said okay and walked off. Are we being unreasonable to have refused?

OP posts:
Bagwyllydiart · 07/10/2025 07:08

I would say

Happy to help. It’s £50 an hour, minimum 8 hours, cash up front. OK?

Puzzledtoday · 07/10/2025 07:12

She might have panicking and desperate! You were right to say no and may need to say no again. Asking for a new neighbours help in a life and death situation is right, also asking for small things like borrowing a screwdriver because theirs is lost in the packing. Putting up a shed can wait, it’s no worse than inconvenient for them and a big job for DH.

Gettingbysomehow · 07/10/2025 07:18

Im single and 63 Ive never asked anyone for anything. That's because I can do all kinds of DIY and what I can't do I hire someone. Im astounded at women who do this. Do they have no shame?

Eventmrs · 07/10/2025 12:05

Catching you unawares was not the best approach, however what has happened to community and helping people out these days?

You could have easily said not this minute, but we could help out next week or whenever....

What a great opportunity to make friends.

Silverbirchleaf · 07/10/2025 12:14

Eventmrs · 07/10/2025 12:05

Catching you unawares was not the best approach, however what has happened to community and helping people out these days?

You could have easily said not this minute, but we could help out next week or whenever....

What a great opportunity to make friends.

Op has said that they could help next weekend, but neighbour wanted it done there and then. Next weekend was too late for her. Ironically, neighbour said her friends were too busy to help… (or have learnt to ‘be busy’ when new neighbour asks/demands help…?).

Tuesdayschild50 · 07/10/2025 13:04

Way to familiar to soon...she could be a neighbour you need strong boundaries with in future keep it no.
You don't want to have to dread answering your door due to people like this.
We all have enough to do .

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