New neighbour AIBU?

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Our new neighbour knocked on the door just a while ago asking if my Dh who they’ve never met would come in and help them erect their shed. I said that we have plans and we would be out for most of the day. To which she replied “I’d like to do it before it gets dark, we have lots to put in there so we can sort out the house”. To be honest, I didn’t know what to say to that. At this point my dh came to the door , she repeated the question and he hesitated (diy is not his forte!) and said pretty much what I had said. She asked, could he do it later and he replied not really because he has to pack because he’s going away tomorrow. She got a bit upset, said okay and walked off. Are we being unreasonable to have refused?

I then asked the question If her partner had a friend etc that could help. She said…and this was my favourite part…oh no I couldn’t bother them they are far too busy

I am generally a person who thinks it is nice to help people out if I can, but this woman is another level ! Unbelievable

At that point I would have ended the conversation and shut the door in her face. Some people have no boundaries and no self awareness.

Oh yeah, there are women like this in every cul de sac, close, and avenue.

I know a couple (I will call them Jane and Dave) who moved into a little 2 bed house. Not long after they moved in, the woman next door said 'oh, Bill who used to live in your house used to cut my lawns and hedges, it would be lovely if you could do them for me. I struggle to do them.'

Dave (stupidly) agreed. Jane was pissed off. He said 'but I can't sit back and let a woman older than me do 2 big lawns and 2 big hedges.' (she was just 4 years older!)

The woman didn't have much to do with them, just spoke to them when she wanted something. Anyway, after 5 years, Dave hurt his back at work, and was no longer able to do it. He stood there with Jane and said to the woman 'I'm sorry, but I won't be able to do your lawns and hedges anymore, after I hurt my back in an accident. I have to be careful now.'

The cheeky cow had the audacity to say 'well can't Jane do it?'

Dave said 'well no, not really, she's not able to do it.' The woman said the exercise will do her good though.'

Jane said she was utterly gobsmacked, and so disgusted that she walked off, and doesn't want to even speak to this woman since that. Cheeky, entitled mare!

Fortunately for Jane, it's quite easy to have nothing to do with the woman as she never speaks now that Dave isn't doing the garden work for her, and Jane isn't doing it either. 2 summers ago it was, and the woman is using another man in the street to do her lawns and hedges now!

Honestly, the cheekyfuckery is breathtaking!

You have yourself a CF next door now. Set very clear boundaries with that one. Let her know that her demands are unreasonable as you don’t know her.

Oh yeah, there are women like this in every cul de sac, close, and avenue.

What an odd thing to say.
I've lived in 9 different places over my 6+ decades and have never come across anyone who would be so brazen / entitled. Most places, we've known all the neighbours, so it isn't a case of not knowing / hearing about them. Oh, and it's definitely not me, before you suggest that.

No and fuck off are the only words you need to say to this entitled bitch!!

Give her the widest berth possible.
She is a complete CF.
Say no to everything and I mean everything.
She will be a plague on your house if you don't

Nah, you're all just mean. 😂

Don't mistake my kindness for weakness.

Let me guess... single?

Keep an eye on her.

Can't believe you offered his services next weekend! Rookie error!
Now she thinks he's available to help next Saturday. If it's not the shed she'll need something else doing. As has been demonstrated already, she has no shame.

Say no explicitly and stick to it. Suggest a local handyman or something.

Nip it in the bud.

If she does want help next Saturday you all go over together, play ball with the children very loudly... And invite a few more neighbours to stand around and make comments. 😁

Guaranteed she’ll be back on Saturday saying you told her your Dh was free. You should have said he doesn’t do diy and here’s a link to the neighbourhood app.

OP you're too nice, I suspect the new neighbour does too and will take advantage of this, she'll want your DH to come and remove a spider in her living room next..🤔

wondering if this is the 1 time to give (appalling) assistance… to the point that CF neighbour is sending kind helper, away?!?

Next she'll be parking on your driveway!
Set boundaries NOW. !!!
Some people just take the flamin proverbial!

A stranger asked your DH for free labour? No is completely a reasonable response.

I think you need to manage her expectations now. Or this will only be the start of her CF entitlement.

"Im sorry neighbour, we have small children and busy jobs. We don't have time to do favours for our own friends tbh... I think you cant ask a friend to help maybe call a handyman."

I beg you dont exchange telephone numbers

😂😂😂😂

I do love a good neighbor story. I would install a ringbell and look before answering.

My neighbour hinted heavily to me about needing help in her huge garden when her husband died. I brightly mentioned that her son and sons in law would be able to help her. She said they were very busy with important jobs🙄.

Wide berth taken from then on.

Maybe it is just as well you found out straight away what she is like

Sounds like the neighbour from hell

Give her a wide berth.

Honestly you need to avoid her like the plague - don’t even make eye contact.

Yep a CF. Give her a wide berth and be ready with an excuse for the next unreasonable request.

She’s a CF.